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Am I too overprotective? Norah&Ellie's Momma 2 kids; Kentucky 4167 posts
21st Nov '12

DD has never stayed the night away from me. (Not because of me, I live with my mom so she can't take her, FIL has personal reasons why he won't).



But, now that she's 16 months old and has never been away from me overnight, I'm really weird about people keeping her for me. Sometimes my mom will keep her if I have to make a quick trip to the grocery and it's really cold outside, and I find myself rushing and worrying the entire time I'm gone. :? I trust my mom with her 100%, so I don't know why I feel like that. I get really bad anxiety if we leave her and go to Home Depot 40 minutes away.



Do I just need time away from her? At FIL's he's always telling me "Norah is fine, you can go sit down and relax" but I still follow her around to make sure she's not getting into anything. And I make sure she's in my sight the entire time.



So do I just need to try to chill out? I feel silly. I thinks she's definitely going to need preschool so we can get used to being away from each other.

castaway 2 kids; Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania 19146 posts
21st Nov '12

I was like that before I started working when my daughter was 17 months.



Being away from her sometimes will benefit both of you. I understand the feeling though, I was there once, and I'm much happier, as is she, with our independence.

Jillian Lindsey 2 kids; Mosheim, Tennessee 2354 posts
21st Nov '12
Quoting jordan.ℓeigh✿:" DD has never stayed the night away from me. (Not because of me, I live with my mom so she can't take ... [snip!] ... to chill out? I feel silly. I thinks she's definitely going to need preschool so we can get used to being away from each other."

over protective for sure start with short amounts of time and when you find yourself worrying remind yourself that shes having fun and shes very safe with who shes with if your mom or FIL have camera phones ask them to take a picture of her playing for you and send it to you the daycare DD is at takes pics of her playing and sends them to me while im in class

castaway 2 kids; Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania 19146 posts
21st Nov '12

The only thing I think is totally rational is the over night thing. I wouldn't necessarily think that is abnormal to not want to leave her somewhere for an over night with someone.

Kimber-lily Due September 27 (girl); 4 kids; Nova Scotia 28962 posts
21st Nov '12

I helicopter parent. My kids seem to get into less trouble that way. I also have separation anxiety. Lol



ALso I must ask... How cold does Kentucky get that you don't want to take your baby out? Lol

Norah&Ellie's Momma 2 kids; Kentucky 4167 posts
21st Nov '12
Quoting Kimber-Lily:" I helicopter parent. My kids seem to get into less trouble that way. I also have separation anxiety. Lol ALso I must ask... How cold does Kentucky get that you don't want to take your baby out? Lol"


It gets down in the 30s, it's not too cold I just don't want to get her dressed up and drag her out when I'm only getting milk :P Lol

Lacie Heethuis-Roy Due November 23 (girl); Caledonia, Michigan 441 posts
21st Nov '12

its a bit odd but ur just not used to it try staying away a little longer as time gos on work ur way up to going to a movie by urself or with some one and try not checking in also u can work ur way up to that but ur not overly extreme its like u said u dont follow her around and stuff im sure i will be that way due any day now u will get used to it like most things u have to work ur way up to it

Kimber-lily Due September 27 (girl); 4 kids; Nova Scotia 28962 posts
21st Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting jordan.ℓeigh✿:</b>" It gets down in the 30s, it's not too cold I just don't want to get her dressed up and drag her out when I'm only getting milk :P Lol"</blockquote>




Lol. That's still bathing suit weather. It's only gotten as low as -13F here this year so far.... Before windchill. I feel bad when I take my kids out in the cold.

Norah&Ellie's Momma 2 kids; Kentucky 4167 posts
21st Nov '12
Quoting Kimber-Lily:" <blockquote><b>Quoting jordan.ℓeigh✿:</b>" It gets down in the 30s, it's ... [snip!] ... It's only gotten as low as -13F here this year so far.... Before windchill. I feel bad when I take my kids out in the cold."


Gosh I would hate that. Winter is not my friend. The coldest it gets here is in the teens.