user banned 2 kids; New York 34017 posts
22nd Nov '12
Quoting Bustie:" im sure the steal sperm thing is just an expression of her pain and desperation ... not literal or else ... [snip!] ... wanted kids then changed his mind randomly that is selfish and wrong do not get married to someone who wants kids if you do not"

do you know the WHOLE story? did he change his mind "randomly," or are they having marital, financial, or other issues?!

SkinnyBitch Aitkin, Minnesota 266 posts
22nd Nov '12
Quoting Legendary Amanda:" I think if I wanted something that bad and it wasn't a bad idea for our family, there isn't much my husband wouldn't do."



We just had a lil chit chat about just letting it happen and having sex more often with no pressure, glad I got on here this morning and that I showed him this, I am now sure he realizes how important this is to me I don't want to really steal sperm haha



I want to make a baby the right way. I have been with him forever now and I think its time glad we have this plan and hope we can move onto full TTC but I think it will just happen probably soon hahaha.

Legendary Due August 27; 1 child; Beverly Hills, California 54392 posts
22nd Nov '12
Quoting SkinnyBitch:" We just had a lil chit chat about just letting it happen and having sex more often with no pressure, ... [snip!] ... think its time glad we have this plan and hope we can move onto full TTC but I think it will just happen probably soon hahaha."


Can I just tell you, I had a baby at 18 and stayed with the father but if I had my life to do over again, the only thing I'd change is having more time just the two of us. I would have LOVED to be married before kids, just enjoy my husband.



I know I won't change your mind because I'm certain that you are fully capable of being an excellent mother, but just consider that you have years and years to have a baby, but you can't go back. Once it's here, it's here for f**king ever.

Bustie 16 kids; San Diego, California 1968 posts
22nd Nov '12
Quoting Kelly&Coralie:" Just becasue he doesn't want kids NOW doesn't mean he won't want them in the future. I assume they ... [snip!] ... I assume they are both still teenagers. There are still decades left to have children. It doesn't need to be right this second"


doesnt need to be but they are married independant i guess so age has nothing to do with it ... he should have been honest about his fears of being a father



they are married as a married woman I would be devestated at any age if i married someone who told me one thing just to soon change his mind and it was this important

user banned 2 kids; New York 34017 posts
22nd Nov '12
Quoting Legendary Amanda:" Can I just tell you, I had a baby at 18 and stayed with the father but if I had my life to do over ... [snip!] ... just consider that you have years and years to have a baby, but you can't go back. Once it's here, it's here for f**king ever. "

I don't think age has to do with it, exactly. I had my first at 18 but I left BD... but SO and I moved fast in everything we did, we've been together since October '11 and got pregnant in May. Granted, we thought TTC would take a lot longer than our first try, but we wish we had more time to ourselves, as well, and we're 22 & 24.

Bustie 16 kids; San Diego, California 1968 posts
22nd Nov '12
Quoting SkinnyBitch:" We just had a lil chit chat about just letting it happen and having sex more often with no pressure, ... [snip!] ... think its time glad we have this plan and hope we can move onto full TTC but I think it will just happen probably soon hahaha."


are you really 18? and i am so happy for you haha buy ovulation tests just to know where you are at in your cycles works like a charm or have you already gotten some?

MysticWitchKat 2052 posts
22nd Nov '12
Quoting SkinnyBitch:" I want to be pregnant so badly. Wish I could steal my husbands sperm somehow :( anyone else really wish they could get pregnant and that their husband's would just stop being selfish?."


1.take hubbies pants off
2.blow hubby
3.catch sperm in mouth but dont swallow
4.spit into turkey baster
5.baste vagina

Legendary Due August 27; 1 child; Beverly Hills, California 54392 posts
22nd Nov '12
Quoting JiLLiAN.:" I don't think age has to do with it, exactly. I had my first at 18 but I left BD... but SO and I moved ... [snip!] ... TTC would take a lot longer than our first try, but we wish we had more time to ourselves, as well, and we're 22 & 24."


I only mentioned the age because it's the same as the OPs, just trying to relate to her. Really I don't agree with anyone under the age of 25 TTC their first, nothing to do with their capabilities but I would have loved to enjoy my 20's on my own, and TTC at like 27-28.



But once you have one, you're life is pretty much fucked anyway, lol so after that as long as you can care for them I see no reason not to keep having them.

Bustie 16 kids; San Diego, California 1968 posts
22nd Nov '12
Quoting Legendary Amanda:" I only mentioned the age because it's the same as the OPs, just trying to relate to her. Really I don't ... [snip!] ... life is pretty much fucked anyway, lol so after that as long as you can care for them I see no reason not to keep having them. "


fucked ??



what...

McLovin' 2 kids; Florida 20504 posts
22nd Nov '12
Quoting HotMom21ERF:" i dont have to steal my hubby's sperm, i just takez it . lolz."


Lmao! For reals.

SkinnyBitch Aitkin, Minnesota 266 posts
22nd Nov '12
Quoting Legendary Amanda:" Can I just tell you, I had a baby at 18 and stayed with the father but if I had my life to do over ... [snip!] ... just consider that you have years and years to have a baby, but you can't go back. Once it's here, it's here for f**king ever. "



After all these years I know having a baby is the best option for use, just glad that crying this morning and expressing myself got the damn point across to my thick headed husband.

user banned 2 kids; New York 34017 posts
22nd Nov '12
Quoting Legendary Amanda:" I only mentioned the age because it's the same as the OPs, just trying to relate to her. Really I don't ... [snip!] ... life is pretty much fucked anyway, lol so after that as long as you can care for them I see no reason not to keep having them. "


Yeah, I get what you mean. I'm so scared to be starting over, LO is 4 so we could do a lot with him, vacations and stuff, and SO still wants to go on them with the baby, but it would have been so much easier and more fun to be able to go on rides and whatnot with the three of us together, not one of us goes with LO while the other chills with the baby.



It's a huge step OP and even though you may feel you need a child right now, you have plenty of time. I think you and your husband SHOULD have more alone time and experience more as a couple instead of adding kids right away.

Legendary Due August 27; 1 child; Beverly Hills, California 54392 posts
22nd Nov '12
Quoting Bustie:" fucked ?? what..."


I don't know how much clearer I could have made that for ya, sweetheart.

Legendary Due August 27; 1 child; Beverly Hills, California 54392 posts
22nd Nov '12
Quoting JiLLiAN.:" Yeah, I get what you mean. I'm so scared to be starting over, LO is 4 so we could do a lot with him, ... [snip!] ... I think you and your husband SHOULD have more alone time and experience more as a couple instead of adding kids right away."


I'm kinda in the same boat as you actually. Does SO have any kids from previous relationships? I mean.. my husband KNOWS wtf we're getting ourselves into, haha!

SkinnyBitch Aitkin, Minnesota 266 posts
22nd Nov '12
Quoting Bustie:" are you really 18? and i am so happy for you haha buy ovulation tests just to know where you are at in your cycles works like a charm or have you already gotten some?"


Thank you and no I am 19.