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Cosleeping Bel & KJ's Momma 2 kids; Kansas 316 posts
22nd Nov '12

I get a text from my 4 year olds dad yesterday that said this "You need to stop letting Bel sleep in your bed! Its f****** rediculous that I have to fight her to go to sleep 2 hours every f****** night." (He has her Wednesdays and every other weekend...so it's not "every night") I was pretty upset when I received this. My 2 year old and her have to share a room. If I put Bel in the room after her sister goes to sleep she makes too much noise and wakes up her sister. I usually let her fall asleep in my room then I move her to her bed once she is asleep! I responded by telling him that once we move (next weekend) to our new house, Bel will have her own room so it will not be an issue, but that for now I would keep doing what I am doing as it allows us all to get the most sleep. Am I in the wrong? -or should he just suck it up? -and just a little side note, if I ask her to, she WILL fall asleep in her own bed if need be. I've never had an issue with it besides her sister waking up.

Mother of Broccoli. 1 child; California 12595 posts
22nd Nov '12

I say screw him. If that's what works for you, when you have her which is the majority of the time, then do what you need to do.

lolajessup Due July 25; 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Beaverton, Michigan 44057 posts
22nd Nov '12

Do what you want. He can't make you stop cosleeping.

Bel & KJ's Momma 2 kids; Kansas 316 posts
22nd Nov '12
Quoting lolajessup:" Do what you want. He can't make you stop cosleeping."

It's not even like we even "cosleep" really. I just let her fall asleep in there and then I move her! I really don't do it to make things difficult for him, but really, if its a problem for him to get her to sleep, I don't get why he can't let her fall asleep in his bed then move her too! lol

IOnlyMakeBoys (B.B.M) 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Texas 4754 posts
22nd Nov '12

I can't say much my 3 year old has his own bed but ends up sleeping in my bed most nights we snuggle and watch movies and end up falling asleep. Do what is right for you and your daughter your husband needs to grow up and have a conversation with you if he has concerns not swear at you over a text message his behavior just seems immature to me.

Peyton'sMommy♥ 1 child; Springfield, Ohio 16806 posts
22nd Nov '12
Quoting Mother of Broccoli.:" I say screw him. If that's what works for you, when you have her which is the majority of the time, then do what you need to do. "


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DH doesn't really like to co-sleep with our son but he works nights so he only is in bed with us at night 2-3 nights a week so he knows that he will just suck it up for a few nights.

Mama Lizzy :] 1 child; Texas 5575 posts
22nd Nov '12

No ...do what you feel is best...what's so wrong about her falling asleep in her Dads bed?

lolajessup Due July 25; 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Beaverton, Michigan 44057 posts
22nd Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Bel & KJ's Momma:</b>" It's not even like we even "cosleep" really. I just let her fall asleep in there and then I move her! ... [snip!] ... if its a problem for him to get her to sleep, I don't get why he can't let her fall asleep in his bed then move her too! lol"</blockquote>
Kids are really pod about adjusting to rule changes between caregivers as ong as the rules are consistent. So if he's having problems that's his own fault.

Bel & KJ's Momma 2 kids; Kansas 316 posts
22nd Nov '12
Quoting Mama Lizzy :]:" No ...do what you feel is best...what's so wrong about her falling asleep in her Dads bed?"

I have no idea why he won't let her. I think some of her problem is too, is he dated this girl for about 2 weeks, married her. (this was about 6 months ago) and now she is 12 weeks pregnant. It's a LOT for her to take in. She's used to being daddy's girl. He should give the poor girl a break!

Mama Lizzy :] 1 child; Texas 5575 posts
22nd Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Bel & KJ's Momma:</b>" I have no idea why he won't let her. I think some of her problem is too, is he dated this girl for about ... [snip!] ... is 12 weeks pregnant. It's a LOT for her to take in. She's used to being daddy's girl. He should give the poor girl a break!"</blockquote>




Yikes! Definitely...I would try to remind him about that in a non threatening way