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I feel like I'm failing ~Cullen & Ridley's Mommy~ 3 kids; 3 angel babies; Missouri 18924 posts
23rd Nov '12

DD is almost 2 weeks old and we have been trying to breastfeed since she was born. All we have had is one issue after the other, and I have tried so hard not to get frustrated or give up but I feel like I am at my breaking point. Her first issue was not latching correctly, so instead of straight to the breast we use a nipple shield, which I thought was great. Then she was still latching wrong with the shield and it was causing me to blister and bleed. We fixed those issues and thought everything was fine, well now she still isn't gaining weight, she is still too much below her birth weight so her pedi wants us to supplement formula after every feed.



But now I am also worried I am not producing enough milk anymore. Since last night I will feed from both breasts in one feed (which can take over and hour sometimes.) But I started to notice she would be fussy at the breast and get frustrated and try sucking harder, almost like she wasn't getting anything. And if I go to pump, I get next to nothing.



I just don't know what to do? I really don't want to give up, this is one thing that I looked forward to my entire pregnancy because I didn't get to breastfeed my first child, and now its looking like I might not get to breastfeed my daughter either.

lolajessup Due July 25 (girl); 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Beaverton, Michigan 44057 posts
23rd Nov '12

Don't panic mama. It takes time to get your milk to adjust. Especially if u had to use a nipple shield right off. Let her nurse on demand constantly. Snuggle with her topless and her in just a diaper. Relax and don't focus so much on forcing it. Just let it happen naturally. The more you tress the more you're on a fight back your milk. Drink tons and Tons of water. Eat healthy fatty food like Avacado. And nurse nurse nurse. 2 weeks is too short of a time for your dr to say to supplement her. They usually want them to gain back their birth weight by 2 weeks but u had a bad start so it might take a couple more weeks of her nurse well to help your milk and her weight catch back up. You can sometimes just go in for weight checks. Weigh her then Nurse and have them weigh her again to see if she's gaining ozs. Lots of pedis jump te gun on formula and that only makes it 100x worse for your supply. Nurse her and let her suckle as long as she'll do it then pump. Pump one side while feeding her on the other.



Are you leaking milk? If so u can catch it with a bottle and/or get some
Milkies breast pads and catch some. Thatll help you get a supply stashed just in case so she's still able to get bm. But you shouldn't give it to her yet. It's just for creating a stash.

user banned 4 kids; Mueang Phuket, Thailand 30487 posts
23rd Nov '12

This is normal... You Have to stimulate the breast in order to amke that milk.. So her sucking and getting fussy at the brest may SUCK but its needed to make your milk.. Also she is growing throught the 2 week growth spurt. I know it sucks but if ypu want to BF do not give her a bottle despite the weight loss ( unless its a large amount) but dont let the dr forceyou into giving formula... Even a tiny it of formula can change a new borns "virgin" tummy. And it will never be the same. I wish i would hve known thiswith my other children.



Good luck.. Also i ahte nipple sheilds.. If you dont need it dont use. And if you wnt to make ALOT of milk, just pump after ech feeding for 10 mina. Even thought much milk wont comd out your body woll start producing more

lolajessup Due July 25 (girl); 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Beaverton, Michigan 44057 posts
23rd Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting ☮ Phuket:</b>" This is normal... You Have to stimulate the breast in order to amke that milk.. So her sucking and getting ... [snip!] ... ALOT of milk, just pump after ech feeding for 10 mina. Even thought much milk wont comd out your body woll start producing more"</blockquote>



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~Cullen & Ridley's Mommy~ 3 kids; 3 angel babies; Missouri 18924 posts
23rd Nov '12

Thank you ladies, I really am trying to stick this out. As far as leaking...I really don't leak much anymore, so that's the other reason I am worried about my supply. And at the hospital they pretty much started me from the beginning with the nipple shield because she was having latching issues, so I have tried to get her to latch without it an I never have much luck. If I get her latched to the breast at all she doesn't stay on for long.

user banned 4 kids; Mueang Phuket, Thailand 30487 posts
23rd Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting ~Cullen & Ridley's Mommy~:</b>" Thank you ladies, I really am trying to stick this out. As far as leaking...I really don't leak much ... [snip!] ... get her to latch without it an I never have much luck. If I get her latched to the breast at all she doesn't stay on for long. "</blockquote>




I swear hospitals no nothing about BFing they give the worse advice ever.




I didnt start leaking for a whole month and it had meworried too.. Drink somew mothers milk tea you can buy it at kroger or smiths or walmart even.




You can even take fenugreek supplement. It works to help increae your supply. Good luck

lolajessup Due July 25 (girl); 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Beaverton, Michigan 44057 posts
23rd Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting ~Cullen & Ridley's Mommy~:</b>" Thank you ladies, I really am trying to stick this out. As far as leaking...I really don't leak much ... [snip!] ... get her to latch without it an I never have much luck. If I get her latched to the breast at all she doesn't stay on for long. "</blockquote>




Just keep going mama. Even if it is a short time. Keep it up. You're doing great. I'm sorry the hospital set you back but there is hope. Just keep nursing her as much as possible.

lolajessup Due July 25 (girl); 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Beaverton, Michigan 44057 posts
23rd Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting ☮ Phuket:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting ~Cullen & Ridley's Mommy~:</b>" Thank you ladies, I really am ... [snip!] ... at kroger or smiths or walmart even. You can even take fenugreek supplement. It works to help increae your supply. Good luck"</blockquote>



I must be lucky. My hospital is great with Bfing :)



Yes I used fenugreek for awhile. You have to take a shit load and drink tons of water. It may give you too much foremilk but it'll at least stimulate production. You can always wean off it once she's latching good and everything is going better. And if u don't drink enough you'll get dehydrated and kill your supply. But it's definitely good to help get some going so she can work on her latch without frustration. I wanna say u take 3 pills 3x a day. You Should smell like maple syrup.

user banned 2 kids; Hamilton, Ontario 19220 posts
23rd Nov '12

breastfeeding is stressful. Anyone who says its a walk in the park must forget what its really like. Dont get me wrong, there a great times, easy times and you will get to a point where you are both naturals.

ITS ONLY BEEN 2 WEEKS. Give both of yourselves more credit.

You stressing out and worrying so much about it...is helping to sabotage. I am big beleiver in self talk and positivity. When you're nursing say over and over to yourself 'I got this' 'We're getting it' be full of positive. When you feel a negative thought...quickly shake it off by thinking of something amazing.

With breastfeeding, YOU control it. That is the number one key.

Almost EVERY mama thinks she is not producing enough. Unless you are on medications, your body will make what is needed, even if it has to such ever vitamin and mineral from you (which it will).

Tell your doctor to hush up about formula.

I breastfed Maximus throughout his chemo - exclusively. I was told on a daily basis by staff to supplement, his body needed the extra strength, he needed to gain, he needed fat, blah blah blah.

I read somewhere breastmilk kills tumor cells on contact. There was NO WAY I was going to give up or put his belly through the effects of formula due to the intestinal issues that comes with chemo (as you know).

I was stressed. My infant had cancer. His survival rate was low. He was on chemo, we were living in the hospital....unable to feed myself properly, being told not to feed him for NPO, then telling me I can (after I just pumped and he refused to take bottles) ugh...it was crazy girl, and you know the half of it.

But I refused to stop. This is what my and his dad wanted for him. We knew breast was by far the best for him. I was determined and did everything I possibly could to STAY POSITIVE :)

You can do this. You just need to believe in yourself. If you dont want to supplement....do what I did and tell the doctors there will be no more talk of formula until YOU bring it up.


we all have issues here and there with breastfeeding. You are not alone. You are doing great. And breastfed babies do not gain rapid weight.