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Father's rights? Minion Due September 30 (girl); 2 kids; ., GA, United States 21158 posts
23rd Nov '12

SO wants to adopt my little girl, but we're so confused on if we have to get permission from her bio dad. Her bio dad is not on the birth certificate and has never met her. SO thinks we have to have bio dad sign over his rights and give permission for SO to adopt, but I don't think so. We've talked to some lawyers and some say SO is right and some say I am right.



Does SO have to get bio dad's permission to adopt my girl?

XxWhite_RosexX 1 child; United Kingdom 1962 posts
23rd Nov '12

yes he does

Gir! 2 kids; Ohio 7504 posts
23rd Nov '12

If he is not on the bc and has no rights by the courts then, no. Ask for a paternal affidavit and say that your so is the father

nita84 Due December 31 (girl); 2 kids; Nebraska 79 posts
23rd Nov '12

i thought that if the bio's dad name wasnt on the birth certificate than you didnt need his permission. I could be wrong though

ma ♥ 1 child; California 63053 posts
23rd Nov '12

Yes you need his permission because he needs to give up his rights. Also I believe you have to be married, not just dating..

Minion Due September 30 (girl); 2 kids; ., GA, United States 21158 posts
23rd Nov '12
Quoting XxWhite_RosexX:" yes he does"


Even if he is not on the bc?

Minion Due September 30 (girl); 2 kids; ., GA, United States 21158 posts
23rd Nov '12
Quoting ma ♥:" Yes you need his permission because he needs to give up his rights. Also I believe you have to be married, not just dating.."


We're getting married in June.

I'm me 4 kids; Kentucky 3109 posts
23rd Nov '12

if he is not on the birth cert then he has no rights. By never having his name put on the birth cert he never claimed his rights so he has none.

Gir! 2 kids; Ohio 7504 posts
23rd Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Minion:</b>" Even if he is not on the bc?"</blockquote>




I've done the affidavit. They did it no questions asked.

ma ♥ 1 child; California 63053 posts
23rd Nov '12

But on the other hand, if there hasn't been any paternity established by the court or anything like that... Why does your SO have to "adopt" her? Can't you just go on with life & say she is his child? You can even do a new BC & add your SO to it.
Or does the bio father pay child support, see her?

Minion Due September 30 (girl); 2 kids; ., GA, United States 21158 posts
23rd Nov '12
Quoting Gir!:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Minion:</b>" Even if he is not on the bc?"</blockquote> I've done the affidavit. They did it no questions asked."


Cool they didn't make your SO take a DNA test or anything to prove it?

Gir! 2 kids; Ohio 7504 posts
23rd Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Minion:</b>" Cool they didn't make your SO take a DNA test or anything to prove it?"</blockquote>



Nope. They said people do it all the time. My son was 3 yrs old when it was signed. All we needed was ID and to sign the declaration

Minion Due September 30 (girl); 2 kids; ., GA, United States 21158 posts
23rd Nov '12
Quoting ma ♥:" But on the other hand, if there hasn't been any paternity established by the court or anything like that... ... [snip!] ... say she is his child? You can even do a new BC & add your SO to it. Or does the bio father pay child support, see her?"


Bio dad has never met her and doesn't give any child support. I thought if we added SO to the birth certificate he would have to adopt her.

Minion Due September 30 (girl); 2 kids; ., GA, United States 21158 posts
23rd Nov '12
Quoting Gir!:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Minion:</b>" Cool they didn't make your SO take a DNA test ... [snip!] ... They said people do it all the time. My son was 3 yrs old when it was signed. All we needed was ID and to sign the declaration"


That's interesting. I'll have to look into that. And now your SO is on the bc?

Gir! 2 kids; Ohio 7504 posts
23rd Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Minion:</b>" That's interesting. I'll have to look into that. And now your SO is on the bc?"</blockquote>




Yes. You did not have to be married to do it. Just say he wasn't around when you filed for the birth certificate or the birth.