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Opinions Requested Lindsay*J 2 kids; Saskatchewan 6711 posts
23rd Nov '12

This post comes with 2 parts:



1) What are your thoughts on this article? (It is a bit of a lengthy read but pretty interesting)
http://nymag.com/nymetro/news/trends/n_9437/index1.html



2) If your SO told you that he quit masturbating to p**n because of it as he feels that the article applies to him, what would your reaction be?

MysticWitchKat 2052 posts
23rd Nov '12
Quoting Lindsay*J:" This post comes with 2 parts: 1) What are your thoughts on this article? (It is a bit of a lengthy ... [snip!] ... you that he quit masturbating to p**n because of it as he feels that the article applies to him, what would your reaction be?"


Eh I don't seen p**n as ruining sex lives, unless the person is addicted. A lot of people are simply visual and need something to watch to masturbate too. And no if my husband/wife had an issue with p**n, that is something they would need to get over.

Buzz and Almond Joys momm 2 kids; Albuquerque, New Mexico 12593 posts
23rd Nov '12

I believe it can ruin things in marriages.



Not everyone is okay with p**n. If my husband said that- I'd be shocked because he doesn't watch p**n anyways, hell he doesn't even masturbate. But if he were too and he told me, I'd be glad he recognized this and quit.

Lindsay*J 2 kids; Saskatchewan 6711 posts
23rd Nov '12
Quoting MysticWitchKat:" Eh I don't seen p**n as ruining sex lives, unless the person is addicted. A lot of people are simply ... [snip!] ... to watch to masturbate too. And no if my husband/wife had an issue with p**n, that is something they would need to get over."


So..you don't agree with it then, in regards to it changing the way men learn about sex?



Lindsay*J 2 kids; Saskatchewan 6711 posts
23rd Nov '12
Quoting Buzz and Almond Joys momm:" I believe it can ruin things in marriages. Not everyone is okay with p**n. If my husband said that- ... [snip!] ... p**n anyways, hell he doesn't even masturbate. But if he were too and he told me, I'd be glad he recognized this and quit."


Would you be worried that he lost interest in you physically?

Or would you view it as him safeguarding your relationship to ensure it doesn't go that way?

Buzz and Almond Joys momm 2 kids; Albuquerque, New Mexico 12593 posts
23rd Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Lindsay*J:</b>" Would you be worried that he lost interest in you physically? Or would you view it as him safeguarding your relationship to ensure it doesn't go that way?"</blockquote>




Knowing my husband it would be a safeguard ( actually one reason we don't watch p**n)



But like many women- I would worry he physically lost interest, but I would try and find out if he really did or not

MysticWitchKat 2052 posts
23rd Nov '12
Quoting Lindsay*J:" So..you don't agree with it then, in regards to it changing the way men learn about sex? "


Men have always been clueless about sex. I don't think the addition of p**n has done anymore damage then already was done :-P. My sister is 35 and I remember her talking about some of the dumb things guys were saying about sex, when she was in middle school in the 80's :-P. I think in general men learn mostly when their so shows them what they want is all.

Lindsay*J 2 kids; Saskatchewan 6711 posts
23rd Nov '12
Quoting Buzz and Almond Joys momm:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Lindsay*J:</b>" Would you be worried that he lost interest ... [snip!] ... p**n) But like many women- I would worry he physically lost interest, but I would try and find out if he really did or not"


Would a previous p**n addiction bring you concern if this new 'change' was brought up?

Lindsay*J 2 kids; Saskatchewan 6711 posts
23rd Nov '12
Quoting MysticWitchKat:" Men have always been clueless about sex. I don't think the addition of p**n has done anymore damage ... [snip!] ... she was in middle school in the 80's :-P. I think in general men learn mostly when their so shows them what they want is all."


I do agree with you on that, for sure.

I'm struggling with this article. I'm an advocate for p**n, to be point I actually have alot of respect for the adult entertainment industry but, this article makes me seriously question that stance.

MysticWitchKat 2052 posts
23rd Nov '12
Quoting Lindsay*J:" I do agree with you on that, for sure. I'm struggling with this article. I'm an advocate for p**n, ... [snip!] ... I actually have alot of respect for the adult entertainment industry but, this article makes me seriously question that stance."

I'm not a fan of the traditional industry because I feel it gives a negative impression towards women. But the homegrown more amateur stuff on the web not I feel is great.

Buzz and Almond Joys momm 2 kids; Albuquerque, New Mexico 12593 posts
23rd Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Lindsay*J:</b>" Would a previous p**n addiction bring you concern if this new 'change' was brought up?"</blockquote>




I don't know really. Hard to say because this does not apply to my husband and it won't.