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Robert Downey Jr. Zanzibar, Tanzania 16079 posts
23rd Nov '12
Quoting Angel [Mariah's Mommy]:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Michael Westen:</b>" Well that's what my mom keeps telling ... [snip!] ... PTSD but I'm not sure. It does sound like he is abusive mentally as well as physically, even though he hasn't actually hit you."


There have only been like 3 physical things happen in the last 3 years. It's more the emotional thing I'm sick of.

Angel [Mariah's Mommy] 1 child; Indianapolis, Indiana 18064 posts
23rd Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Michael Westen:</b>" Yeah I'm hoping that I can kinda lure him out of wanting to establish paternity because I honestly don't ... [snip!] ... I went to drill a few weeks ago and he didn't bathe her for four days. When I can smell BO on a 2 year old, that's a problem."</blockquote>




:shock: eww

user banned California 8675 posts
23rd Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Michael Westen:</b>" My mom actually just moved so he doesn't know where she lives. And she lives over 2k miles away anyway."</blockquote>




Why havent you left? Do you still love him? Do you have hope?

Robert Downey Jr. Zanzibar, Tanzania 16079 posts
23rd Nov '12
Quoting Angel [Mariah's Mommy]:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Michael Westen:</b>" Yeah I'm hoping that I can kinda lure ... [snip!] ... he didn't bathe her for four days. When I can smell BO on a 2 year old, that's a problem."</blockquote> :shock: eww"


yeah it was horrible. I mean sure, he is capable of keeping her alive, but she is filthy and not paid attention to when I have to leave.

Mama Crash ☮ 3 kids; 3 angel babies; Ocoee, Florida 15509 posts
23rd Nov '12

Not trying to be mean, honey, but get the f**k away from him. Stop making excuses and GO. You're only prolonging your suffering, and that of your daughter. This relationship is NOT good for you, or for her, and this WILL end up hurting her in the long run. So get away from him. Once you're safely with your mom, you can file the necessary paperwork to keep him away from both of you. Since he's not on the BC, you shouldn't have any problems.
Set aside your feelings for him and think of your daughter. He is neglectful, and his demeanor towards both of you can be considered abusive. You need to get her away from him. This isn't just about you anymore, honey. Get her and yourself AWAY from him.

Robert Downey Jr. Zanzibar, Tanzania 16079 posts
23rd Nov '12
Quoting ~*VINTAGE LOVE*~:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Michael Westen:</b>" My mom actually just moved so he doesn't ... [snip!] ... And she lives over 2k miles away anyway."</blockquote> Why havent you left? Do you still love him? Do you have hope?"



I haven't left because I feel guilty and it's all I have ever known. And I love him, but I'm not in love with him. He isn't the person I married. And not really at this point. i feel like it's a lost cause.

user banned California 8675 posts
23rd Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Mama Crash ☮:</b>" Not trying to be mean, honey, but get the f**k away from him. Stop making excuses and GO. You're only ... [snip!] ... abusive. You need to get her away from him. This isn't just about you anymore, honey. Get her and yourself AWAY from him. "</blockquote>




This!! If she is going to leave she needs to leave now!

wilde_mommy 4 kids; Columbus, Ohio 3459 posts
23rd Nov '12
Quoting Michael Westen:" Well I don't have anybody here so that's not an option. I moved here to be with him and all of my family ... [snip!] ... I have to do by myself. I don't even know what to take other than our clothes, her toys, and my electronics for my business."


You wont need much more than that. Also bring any documents you need like shot record for DD, birth certificates, SS cards, car title (is your car in your name?). From what I read it sounds like has a bad temper I would just get all your stuff together and go when he's at work. I left my ex like that. We weren't married so that made it easier. He was abusive towards me for a few years. One not it crossed the line, he held a gun to my head while I was holding DS. I waited until he passed out and I called my dad told him what was going on and he told me to have my stuff together the next day. He drove 800 miles over night to bring me home. It was the best decision I have ever made. You need to get out hun.

user banned California 8675 posts
23rd Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Michael Westen:</b>" I haven't left because I feel guilty and it's all I have ever known. And I love him, but I'm not in ... [snip!] ... him, but I'm not in love with him. He isn't the person I married. And not really at this point. i feel like it's a lost cause."</blockquote>




Why are you guilty? What have you done? Be honest with us.

Angel [Mariah's Mommy] 1 child; Indianapolis, Indiana 18064 posts
23rd Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Michael Westen:</b>" I haven't left because I feel guilty and it's all I have ever known. And I love him, but I'm not in ... [snip!] ... him, but I'm not in love with him. He isn't the person I married. And not really at this point. i feel like it's a lost cause."</blockquote>



You have absolutely nothing to be guilty about. He made that bed, he has lie in it now.

Robert Downey Jr. Zanzibar, Tanzania 16079 posts
23rd Nov '12
Quoting wilde_mommy:" You wont need much more than that. Also bring any documents you need like shot record for DD, birth ... [snip!] ... next day. He drove 800 miles over night to bring me home. It was the best decision I have ever made. You need to get out hun."


The car is in my name but because we're married, it's his technically too. But thanks, I would have forgot the documents. I need to make a list.

wilde_mommy 4 kids; Columbus, Ohio 3459 posts
23rd Nov '12
Quoting Michael Westen:" There have only been like 3 physical things happen in the last 3 years. It's more the emotional thing I'm sick of."


I know from experience it starts with mental and emotional before it leads to full blown physical abuse. Please leave as soon as you can.

Robert Downey Jr. Zanzibar, Tanzania 16079 posts
23rd Nov '12
Quoting ~*VINTAGE LOVE*~:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Michael Westen:</b>" I haven't left because I feel guilty ... [snip!] ... this point. i feel like it's a lost cause."</blockquote> Why are you guilty? What have you done? Be honest with us."


I feel guilty for tearing his family apart and tearing everything our daughter has ever known apart. I feel guilty for being a SAHM. I feel guilty for not contributing financially. I feel like I should stick around because we're married. Because in all honesty, if we weren't married I would have left a long time ago.

Angel [Mariah's Mommy] 1 child; Indianapolis, Indiana 18064 posts
23rd Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Michael Westen:</b>" I feel guilty for tearing his family apart and tearing everything our daughter has ever known apart. ... [snip!] ... I should stick around because we're married. Because in all honesty, if we weren't married I would have left a long time ago."</blockquote>




You need to leave for your daughter! And you realize that you would have left if you weren't married, which means you know that you need to

user banned California 8675 posts
23rd Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Michael Westen:</b>" I feel guilty for tearing his family apart and tearing everything our daughter has ever known apart. ... [snip!] ... I should stick around because we're married. Because in all honesty, if we weren't married I would have left a long time ago."</blockquote>




Oh hun thats bullshit stop looking for excuses. Maybe deep down you know it isnt that bad. Every marriage has their up and downs and nobody is perfect. Just because you are married that doesnt mean you are obligated to stay if you feel you and your baby girl are in real danger!