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user banned Due November 26; 1 child; Parkersburg, West Virginia 9548 posts
23rd Nov '12
Quoting Gir!:" <blockquote><b>Quoting mamaluvsher4babies:</b>" Ok as long as you have somewhere ... [snip!] ... lose us. This town could care less about smoking.. I do not let anyone smoke around them. If they do I will leave with my boys"

when you leave take everything you want then. im sure you wont get it later or document what is yours with proof.

Gir! 2 kids; Ohio 7504 posts
23rd Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Sophie's dairy cow:</b>" when you leave take everything you want then. im sure you wont get it later or document what is yours with proof. "</blockquote>




I'm selling off the most valuable things I have such as my hunting gear, broke down truck, old prom dresses, horse, tack etc.. I can prove with receipts and documents that I own those. I'm only taking the bare minimum, personal belongings and necessary documents

Jays*Mama 2 kids; Michigan 5649 posts
23rd Nov '12

I think you only live once and you shouldnt stay with anyone just for the kids sake. Its not just about the kids, you deserve to be happy too. I would definately not stay with a loser who is talking to other women and exes. There is just no need for that shit.

кinga Due February 18; 1 child; Ontario 4606 posts
23rd Nov '12

To be honest, I would try to work things out with my husband. But if he is not happy and you are not happy, then its time to part.

user banned California 8675 posts
23rd Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Jays*Mama:</b>" I think you only live once and you shouldnt stay with anyone just for the kids sake. Its not just about ... [snip!] ... too. I would definately not stay with a loser who is talking to other women and exes. There is just no need for that shit."</blockquote>




Exactly!

Gir! 2 kids; Ohio 7504 posts
23rd Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting кinga:</b>" To be honest, I would try to work things out with my husband. But if he is not happy and you are not happy, then its time to part."</blockquote>



He's talking to other people and has been this whole time. There is no love or respect :-/



ETA: we've been to counseling several times. In fact I'm still payin the bill for it. He didn't even try to work on anything afterward. He faked it during the time we were in session and then went right back to his ways

EnnaBennaBanana 2 kids; Maryland 6168 posts
23rd Nov '12
Quoting Gir!:" Would you leave your husband if you kept finding him sending emails and texts to his ex? And other people ... [snip!] ... one life to live and I'll be damned if I'm miserable because of one man who can't control himself or communicate to any degree"


I would try to go to marriage counseling with him and work things out and see if he was willing to change, if he wasn't I would leave.

Gir! 2 kids; Ohio 7504 posts
23rd Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting EnnaBennaBanana:</b>" I would try to go to marriage counseling with him and work things out and see if he was willing to change, if he wasn't I would leave."</blockquote>



We have, as I said in previous posts..

EnnaBennaBanana 2 kids; Maryland 6168 posts
23rd Nov '12
Quoting Gir!:" <blockquote><b>Quoting EnnaBennaBanana:</b>" I would try to go to marriage counseling ... [snip!] ... and see if he was willing to change, if he wasn't I would leave."</blockquote> We have, as I said in previous posts.."


I didn't read through all the posts.. just read your original post and said what I would do in that situation.
I don't think you are wrong for it. He's disrespecting you and not willing to change at all? Many years ago my husband went through a time where he was a porn addict aswell as other issues simular to this.I left for 2 months for a "break" we were still together I just needed air to breath and think what to do next. I came back and it took over a year for him to stop these things and get help. He went to meetings at our church for help and a support group for men. It took awhile but he changed completely.
People CAN change they just need to put in the effort.. and sadly some men are not willing to..

Gir! 2 kids; Ohio 7504 posts
23rd Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting EnnaBennaBanana:</b>" I didn't read through all the posts.. just read your original post and said what I would do in that ... [snip!] ... but he changed completely. People CAN change they just need to put in the effort.. and sadly some men are not willing to.."</blockquote>




I think it's wonderful that things worked OU for you guys, but Dh is not that kind of guy. He needs to grow up a lot. I don't have the patience left to put up with him and his family. I need to be on my own and I need to build myself back up. I do take responsibility for being stupid enough to marry him. There was a lot of wrong and a lot of hurt in this situation. It's a lost cause. It's very obvious he desires this fantasy and he doesn't want to admit he did a whole lot of wrong. He can lie and cry to the world; it doesn't matter. My mind is set. I'm not going to be a third generation woman dealing with bullshit "just for the kids".. I have to get tough and get to fixing my life for my boys

EnnaBennaBanana 2 kids; Maryland 6168 posts
23rd Nov '12
Quoting Gir!:" <blockquote><b>Quoting EnnaBennaBanana:</b>" I didn't read through all the posts.. ... [snip!] ... a third generation woman dealing with bullshit "just for the kids".. I have to get tough and get to fixing my life for my boys"


I agree, it seems he's not willing to change... he's disrespecting you.. and it's important your children see that their mother doesn't stand for it. If your daughters or sons find out one day he's doing stuff like this they might think it's accepted if you stay. He needs to grow up and he probably will grow up and realize what he lost one day and have big regrets.

Gir! 2 kids; Ohio 7504 posts
23rd Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting EnnaBennaBanana:</b>" I agree, it seems he's not willing to change... he's disrespecting you.. and it's important your children ... [snip!] ... accepted if you stay. He needs to grow up and he probably will grow up and realize what he lost one day and have big regrets."</blockquote>




I hope he stops blaming me and stops saying I abandoned my children. One minute he says he'll help me see my family out of state and the next he says:



"And if you do fly out. There. Then what is going to happen between you and me. Am I just sop posed to stay married to z women who is flying all over the country? What "



My grandmother is literally dying in South Carolina and then my sister is wanting to have some "sisterly bonding time" in LA, where she lives. He knows how long I wanted to be out. Taking a bus to SC, because its WAY cheaper and not that horrible of a drive compared to California. Then flying to LAX from SC. I'm on extremely thin funds. The circumstances are completely unusual. You'll just have to read other posts on the subject lol I don't feel like typing it again.. I'm not going for hippie fun time. It's purely serious and about family. He knows that but keeps saying stupid shit

кinga Due February 18; 1 child; Ontario 4606 posts
26th Nov '12
Quoting Gir!:" <blockquote><b>Quoting кinga:</b>" To be honest, I would try to work things out ... [snip!] ... even try to work on anything afterward. He faked it during the time we were in session and then went right back to his ways"


Im so sorry to hear... I mean all I could really say is that if you tried, you tried and at least you can walk away from this knowing you did what you could to save the relationship. I hope things turn around for the better and im sure they will---in time, things will fall into place with or without him. I wish you the best of luck.

MyPurrrtyBabies 3 kids; Alabama 8386 posts
26th Nov '12

Yes. I absolutely would leave in a heartbeat.