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Cast Your Vote:

    • Yes I would call. That living situation isn't good for kids. -- Votes: 53
    • No I wouldn't call. -- Votes: 17
    • Other. (Explain) -- Votes: 2
Would you call CPS? (poll) N's Momma☆ 1 child; Spain 2346 posts
23rd Nov '12

Say a woman you knew was living in a motel room (also living off of welfare with no real job) had 3 children living with her as well. Then she also had two other women and their children in the motel room as well with at least 2 men. The kids are dirty, and are always running around outside even late at night.
Would you call CPS? Would you talk to her about it or what?

Jillian Lindsey 2 kids; Mosheim, Tennessee 2354 posts
23rd Nov '12

call CPS!!!!!!!!!!!

melindapple 1 child; Michigan 5420 posts
23rd Nov '12

you can, but it's still a roof over their heads. i lived in a motel with my mom for awhile, my dad tried to get custody using that he had a home and she didn't, but it was dismissed.



eta: are they all in one room???? nevermind! lol

Ellie. 34 kids; Arizona 25368 posts
23rd Nov '12

Haha. Yes. I think state law allows 3 people in a "single" apartment so that is entirely too many. And the random men there would freak me out.

SavageDarling 3 kids; Webster, Massachusetts 10381 posts
23rd Nov '12

It depends. If they are an extended family living like that because of a difficult financial situation, and the children are loved, fed, and no being mistreated, I would not call.



ETA: honestly, unless I know for a FACT what the details of situation are (like that they are not extended family and just ransoms staying over every night) and that those kids are unsafe and not being taken care of, I would not call. My kids get dirty playing outside every single day and we have friends over our house a lot, if it's late and they are tired, they can stay over. We're still good parents and our kids are well loved and taken care of.

user banned Altadena, California 11084 posts
23rd Nov '12

A lot of people live in hotels and motels.



Also just because she is living off welfar doesn't make her a bad mom. She could probably qualify as a mooch but I don't know her situation.




Are the kids dirty? With like dirt and stuff? Because my kids get dirty playing. As long as they do not smell and look like they bathe I wouldn't worry about it.



I have people come stay at my house that doesn't make me a bad mom.

N's Momma☆ 1 child; Spain 2346 posts
23rd Nov '12

I've been debating it. The woman has her kids, her friends, her friends kids, AND men coming and going. I feel bad for the children involved. :?

Ellie. 34 kids; Arizona 25368 posts
23rd Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting melindapple:</b>" you can, but it's still a roof over their heads. i lived in a motel with my mom for awhile, my dad tried ... [snip!] ... to get custody using that he had a home and she didn't, but it was dismissed. eta: are they all in one room???? nevermind! lol"</blockquote>



A mom and a kid or two in a motel room... not a big deal. Add a couple more adults and other kids and IMO... that's an issue.

melindapple 1 child; Michigan 5420 posts
23rd Nov '12
Quoting Man. Bear. Pig.:" <blockquote><b>Quoting melindapple:</b>" you can, but it's still a roof over their ... [snip!] ... A mom and a kid or two in a motel room... not a big deal. Add a couple more adults and other kids and IMO... that's an issue."


yea i didn't read that part until after, then i edited my post.

N's Momma☆ 1 child; Spain 2346 posts
23rd Nov '12
Quoting melindapple:" you can, but it's still a roof over their heads. i lived in a motel with my mom for awhile, my dad tried ... [snip!] ... to get custody using that he had a home and she didn't, but it was dismissed. eta: are they all in one room???? nevermind! lol"


Yes it's one room like a studio apartment, but a motel.

Bettinas 2 kids; Australia 2204 posts
23rd Nov '12

Explain that you know times are tough for her and that she's probably doing the best she can but that it doesn't seem like the best environment for her kids when she has so many others living with them. Maybe research some alternatives in your area like women's shelters or programs that offer help to families on welfare?

user banned Altadena, California 11084 posts
23rd Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Man. Bear. Pig.:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting melindapple:</b>" you can, but it's still a roof over their ... [snip!] ... A mom and a kid or two in a motel room... not a big deal. Add a couple more adults and other kids and IMO... that's an issue."</blockquote>




If they are crashing for a night I do not see a problem. If it is a regular thing then it's an issue.

mamaluvsher4babies 36 kids; California 4230 posts
23rd Nov '12

I would call not because of the hotel room, but dirty kids running around

Ellie. 34 kids; Arizona 25368 posts
23rd Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting I'm Marbles:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Man. Bear. Pig.:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting melindapple:</b>" ... [snip!] ... If they are crashing for a night I do not see a problem. If it is a regular thing then it's an issue."</blockquote>




The way I'm understanding it, is that its a regular thing. It just sounds fishy and a completely unhealthy home environment.

Lacie Heethuis-Roy Due November 23; Caledonia, Michigan 441 posts
23rd Nov '12

id call cps thats to many people coming and going and if the kids are dirty aka sam ecloths and actual dirt all the time yes they could be doing drugs hurting the kids or a hooker id sure call