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Cast Your Vote:

    • Yes I would call. That living situation isn't good for kids. -- Votes: 53
    • No I wouldn't call. -- Votes: 17
    • Other. (Explain) -- Votes: 2
SavageDarling 3 kids; Webster, Massachusetts 10381 posts
23rd Nov '12

I wanted to add to my previous post that a lot of cities are resorting to using cheap motel rooms as emergency housing for homeless families in place of shelters if they are already over crowded (which, they ALL are) It's not uncommon and that could be the reason she is there.

S U Z I E 3 kids; Venezuela 18554 posts
23rd Nov '12
Quoting ♡ kat&noah (27wks):" I've been debating it. The woman has her kids, her friends, her friends kids, AND men coming and going. I feel bad for the children involved. :?"


Are ANY of them working!?? I would call, especially because of the GROWN MEN!

DisneyMommy 34 kids; Florida 6301 posts
23rd Nov '12

Living in a motel room is not illegal, it is probably her last resort to keeping a roof over her head. Living off welfare is not illegal.
Kids being dirty is not illegal, most kids play and get dirty, so long as they are bathed regularly thats not an issue.



If all those people are living there, that is wayyyyyy overcrowded.
I dont see how she could do that, I would already be frustarated with the small space, let alone a crapload of other people in it.



If they are guests, thats her business, people are entitled to have company.
If they are all actually residing there, thats nasty. I dont know that I would call CPS, I would likely shudder at how gross it is then move on with my own business, but whatever, if you think the kids are actually neglected then call.



There are occupancy standards in accordance with housing guidelines.
Where I live it is very strict, no more than 2 people per room, and you have to have a seperate bedroom for each child unless they are the same age range & gender then can share a room. For example, a couple with one kid would have to have a 2 bedroom minimum, a couple with 2 kids of different genders would ned a 3, n extra person in the home you would need a 4.......if she is in danger of being homeless a motel room is fine for the time being but having that many people in there, that is way overcrowded, and I dont see how she could tolerate it. I am the type that needs my space and privacy though, lol.

user banned 1 child; Boston, Massachusetts 30985 posts
23rd Nov '12
Quoting Lacie Heethuis-Roy:" id call cps thats to many people coming and going and if the kids are dirty aka sam ecloths and actual dirt all the time yes they could be doing drugs hurting the kids or a hooker id sure call"


"could" the lovely auxiliary verb... would, could, should....



they "could" be doing anything... they could be sniffing cocaine off their baby's ass cheek...



get off it.

DisneyMommy 34 kids; Florida 6301 posts
23rd Nov '12
Quoting S U Z I E:" Are ANY of them working!?? I would call, especially because of the GROWN MEN!"


It is not illegal to have male company.



If they are doing b*****e gang bangs in front of the kids then yeah thats not good, but having male company is not anything to fret over.

user banned 1 child; Boston, Massachusetts 30985 posts
23rd Nov '12
Quoting S U Z I E:" Are ANY of them working!?? I would call, especially because of the GROWN MEN!"


you say "grown men" like they're some awful dangerous creatures. that's pretty presumptuous

Ryloonjimama Australia 18851 posts
23rd Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting MommaSav2:</b>" It depends. If they are an extended family living like that because of a difficult financial situation, ... [snip!] ... if it's late and they are tired, they can stay over. We're still good parents and our kids are well loved and taken care of."</blockquote>




:!::!::!:

Ryloonjimama Australia 18851 posts
23rd Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting ♡ kat&noah (27wks):</b>" I've been debating it. The woman has her kids, her friends, her friends kids, AND men coming and going. I feel bad for the children involved. :?"</blockquote>




How do you know who she has coming and going? Are you there?

Ryloonjimama Australia 18851 posts
23rd Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting S U Z I E:</b>" Are ANY of them working!?? I would call, especially because of the GROWN MEN!"</blockquote>




The OP never specified who the men are. They could be the fathers of the other 2 women's children for all we know.

Ryloonjimama Australia 18851 posts
23rd Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Lacie Heethuis-Roy:</b>" id call cps thats to many people coming and going and if the kids are dirty aka sam ecloths and actual dirt all the time yes they could be doing drugs hurting the kids or a hooker id sure call"</blockquote>




My kids are dirty, like actual diet, every day all day until they get back in the bath and cleaned up for bed time. I've never done drugs a day in my life.



Where'd you come up with the same clothes all the time thing? f**k some of you women are so presumptuous, it's ridiculous.

TheNuge 1 child; Pennsylvania 22817 posts
23rd Nov '12
Quoting ♡ kat&noah (27wks):" Say a woman you knew was living in a motel room (also living off of welfare with no real job) had 3 children ... [snip!] ... dirty, and are always running around outside even late at night. Would you call CPS? Would you talk to her about it or what?"


I wouldnt call for any one or 2 of the observations you have made, but I would call as the list of all of them seems like the kids potentially at significant risk.
She might be doing OK with what she has right now OR she might need help OR she might need a kick in the butt OR she might be awful and need "the system" to intervene for her kids OR it could be a combination of the above.
I'd call and not feel guilty at all.

Supafly★ 2 kids; Poland 14109 posts
23rd Nov '12

If it's the same 5 people living there, leave them alone. They could all be related. However, if there are different men in and out I would be a little worried. So I guess keep an eye on it before calling?

Ryloonjimama Australia 18851 posts
23rd Nov '12

I wouldn't call CPS from knowing only what I do from this post. That's ridiculous.



How do you "know" this woman? How do you know that the other women aren't her family? Close friends who have nowhere else to go?



Someone doesn't deserve to lose their children to "overcrowding issues." You better believe that if I was in that boat & had friends or family in need, we'd all stick together. So maybe you should talk to her and see what the deal is before you get her in shit for what may be no reason at all.

TheNuge 1 child; Pennsylvania 22817 posts
23rd Nov '12
Quoting Ryloonjimama:" I wouldn't call CPS from knowing only what I do from this post. That's ridiculous. How do you "know" ... [snip!] ... together. So maybe you should talk to her and see what the deal is before you get her in shit for what may be no reason at all."


i dont know about how things are where you live, but here, a mom wouldnt lose her children for anything listed.
Calling CPS puts both parties on notice.
It's usually very difficult for a court to take kids from a parent.

Nicola =) 1 child; Huntsville, Alabama 2783 posts
23rd Nov '12

Personally I would stay out of it. Unless you know of neglect or abuse. I would continue to keep an eye on the children but CPS is already on a lot of cases and I do not feel the reasons listed are reasons to call.



Times are hard and at least they have a roof over their heads.