MyPurrrtyBabies 3 kids; Dothan, AL, United States 8386 posts
Nov 25th '12

I didn't read all the pages, just the first 4/5 but OP I was in your shoes one time. 8 1/2 yrs ago in 2004 of Aug. I met DH when I was 14 and he was 20. He THOUGHT by how I looked I was at least 17 but he didn't ask my age till 3 months after us dating but that was already too late for us to back off because we were just too crazy for each other by then. In 2005 of Oct I found out I was pregnant with our 1st ( we were just being dumb and careless ) so when I was in labor and went to the hospital the hospital reported it and he got arrested in the hospital the 2nd day. He stayed 2 days in jail and bonded out on a 2,000$ dollar bond( but it didn't end there, we went to court a few times after that), he plays around and calls our 1st daughter his "2,000$ dollar baby" lol..... I was tore to pieces though and very scared and I cried and so did he. He could get 2-20 yrs but we hired a lawyer and his case ended up getting thrown out( thank the lord) not sure what is gonna happen in your case but that is what happened in mine and we just celebrated 8 yrs a few months ago and the arrival of our 3rd baby. I love that man very much and we have a much better,stronger,mature, and loving relationship now than when we first said hello. Its funny how our "disgusting" relationship turned out to be 2 pple who truly- honestly loved each other. I hope all goes well for you, good luck!

sooletsunwind 1 child; Milwaukee, Wisconsin 1065 posts
Nov 26th '12
Quoting MyPurrrtyBabies:" I didn't read all the pages, just the first 4/5 but OP I was in your shoes one time. 8 1/2 yrs ago in ... [snip!] ... relationship turned out to be 2 pple who truly- honestly loved each other. I hope all goes well for you, good luck!"


How did he not ask about your birthday/age until 3 months in? :shock:

cfxfdfdfdsfdafdsf Vacaville, California 71166 posts
Nov 26th '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting sooletsunwind:</b>" How did he not ask about your birthday/age until 3 months in? :shock:"</blockquote>




:!:
That's generally a good starter question

κατι 1 child; Memphis, Tennessee 3143 posts
Nov 26th '12

I don't think that's a big age difference. However the law will disagree with it. Are your parents aware of his age?

κατι 1 child; Memphis, Tennessee 3143 posts
Nov 26th '12
Quoting ♡Sarah♡ + 2:" Yeah, she came back and posted that they know and their response was if you take care of the baby we wont press charges but if you dont we'll press charges."

Lol that makes no sense. was she a troll?

κατι 1 child; Memphis, Tennessee 3143 posts
Nov 26th '12
Quoting ★Bαtgirl:" How does that make no sense?? :? The parents were telling the SO that if he didn't care for his kid, they'd turn him in. That makes perfect sense... "

It would make more sense to turn him from the get go. Not blackmail him. Then they're going to get questioned why didn't they report it sooner.

κατι 1 child; Memphis, Tennessee 3143 posts
Nov 26th '12
Quoting ★Bαtgirl:" No they won't. This makes perfect sense. If he's caring for the child, then putting him in jail would ... [snip!] ... He can't pay child support in jail. But if he wants to skip out, they'll turn him in, because not like he's helping anyhow. "

Oh i understand now. Yes that does make sense lol i guess i read it wrong at first.

Vodka Knockers 1 child; North Carolina 8096 posts
Nov 26th '12
Quoting ★Bαtgirl:" No they won't. This makes perfect sense. If he's caring for the child, then putting him in jail would ... [snip!] ... He can't pay child support in jail. But if he wants to skip out, they'll turn him in, because not like he's helping anyhow. "

I just had a random brain fart.
Her parents are kind of tweeking out on that. I mean, what's the statute of limitations on statutory rape in their state? What happens if he 'supports' the kid and aids in raising it until the statute runs out, then bails and they can't do anything and he gets away scott free?



Just a random, brain fart thought lol.

Vodka Knockers 1 child; North Carolina 8096 posts
Nov 26th '12
Quoting ★Bαtgirl:" Eh, some states don't have a statute of limitations on rape, especially with a minor. So it'll depend on where she lives. You know?"

Ahh, see I didn't know that about some states not having one. I thought they all had one.
That'll teach my brain to get gassy.

miss.Amandalyn Due July 28 (boy); 3 kids; Saskatchewan 1333 posts
Nov 27th '12
Quoting sooletsunwind:" How did he not ask about your birthday/age until 3 months in? :shock:"


I call bs on that or he knew and didn't care I always ask age first

MyPurrrtyBabies 3 kids; Dothan, AL, United States 8386 posts
Nov 27th '12
Quoting sooletsunwind:" How did he not ask about your birthday/age until 3 months in? :shock:"


He just didn't. We hung out a lot, walked to the park a lot and Idk, he just never asked me. Then after about 3 months his sister had said something and that's when he asked me. Hmmph, but that was 8 1/2 yrs ago though , lol ....

MyPurrrtyBabies 3 kids; Dothan, AL, United States 8386 posts
Nov 27th '12
Quoting Lovelyyy KD*:" <blockquote><b>Quoting sooletsunwind:</b>" How did he not ask about your birthday/age ... [snip!] ... not ask about your birthday/age until 3 months in? :shock:"</blockquote> :!: That's generally a good starter question"


Nope, not in my case. Oh well....after 8 1/2 yrs and 3 kids, who knows?! But I do remember when he did ask me ( bc he thought I LOOKED at least 17 ) and I told him 14 he was shocked but we were already crazy for each other by then so there was no backing out and I am glad we didn't. We are very lucky and blessed to have each other.