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JΔ$ Georgia 77853 posts
25th Nov '12
Quoting JiLLiAN.:" In another post she said her MIL bought a crib. No, OP, you do not have a MIL. but seriously, she ... [snip!] ... of that are slim to none depending where she lives. She's asking her parents and whoever else to foot the bill for her mistake."


Her MIL :lol: H'okay. She can't drive, she can't get a full time job without quitting high school. Her job will be paying her minimum wage if she even gets one. I'd be livid if Sera got pregnant at that age because M and I would be the one financially supporting a kid we both didn't make. OP is being super selfish. Typical teenager.

Punk Rock Princess {EBFT} 3 kids; Killeen, Texas 26899 posts
25th Nov '12

:roll: If her parents are willing to help then that's their business, not yalls. Having a baby is hard and she wants to take responsibility for her actions by raising it, more power to her. I hope she comes back on BG for advice when she needs it and ignores the b***hes.
If my kid had a kid I would be more devastated by not having the baby in our lives than I would by helping them. Family is family. A lot of you disagree and that's fine, for y'all.

JΔ$ Georgia 77853 posts
25th Nov '12
Quoting Punk Rock Princess {EBFT}:" :roll: If her parents are willing to help then that's their business, not yalls. Having a baby is hard ... [snip!] ... having the baby in our lives than I would by helping them. Family is family. A lot of you disagree and that's fine, for y'all."


Where did anyone say they disagreed? I never said that I wouldn't HELP my daughter or son in any way but I'd be pissed. Their kid is not my responsibility but either one of them having a child as a teenager when they can't even take care of themselves is forcing their responsibility on my husband and I. Bet your ass I would be pissed.



By the way, there's a difference between helping and taking on full responsibility. Let's be realistic here.

MunchkinWrangler 4 kids; Rīga, Latvia 46865 posts
25th Nov '12
Quoting Punk Rock Princess {EBFT}:" :roll: If her parents are willing to help then that's their business, not yalls. Having a baby is hard ... [snip!] ... having the baby in our lives than I would by helping them. Family is family. A lot of you disagree and that's fine, for y'all."


Agreed. Why put baby up for adoption, creating one less loving family for one of the thousands of children in the system if this baby has a family willing to care for it. So be it that she can't raise the kid on her own. If her family wants to help, that's great!



If one of my kids had a baby young, it would break my heart to say goodbye to my grandchild. I'D ADOPT the baby myself if my child wasn't smart enough to take responsibility.



God, there are so many kids in the foster system already. What a horrible suggestion. And it CAN be done. She will have to take a taxi for at least a year with baby, but hell.... In many locations people dont even bother with cars.... They ride the bus. We dont know her situation.

JΔ$ Georgia 77853 posts
25th Nov '12
Quoting MunchkinWrangler:" Agreed. Why put baby up for adoption, creating one less loving family for one of the thousands of children ... [snip!] ... with baby, but hell.... In many locations people dont even bother with cars.... They ride the bus. We dont know her situation."


:lol: Private adoption. :idea:

MunchkinWrangler 4 kids; Rīga, Latvia 46865 posts
25th Nov '12
Quoting Jas ♥:" Where did anyone say they disagreed? I never said that I wouldn't HELP my daughter or son in any way ... [snip!] ... would be pissed. By the way, there's a difference between helping and taking on full responsibility. Let's be realistic here."


Who said she wasn't going to care for her baby, and let her parents take full responsibility? Of course she will need a roof over her head and help affording child care so she can finish school, but id like to think she would at least be the one waking up with baby, feeding baby, changing diapers and working min wage to buy diapers and such. If not, its her parents decision to help her or not.

JΔ$ Georgia 77853 posts
25th Nov '12

Listen, do you really think this girl is going to listen to a bunch of strangers on the internet? IMO, and the opinion of a few others, she's being selfish. Get over it. Seriously.

MunchkinWrangler 4 kids; Rīga, Latvia 46865 posts
25th Nov '12
Quoting Jas ♥:" :lol: Private adoption. :idea:"



Who says she will be able to find someone to adopt her baby? There are many babies being put up for adoption yearly. Foster homes are all too real. many of which are not too great. :(

JΔ$ Georgia 77853 posts
25th Nov '12
Quoting MunchkinWrangler:" Who said she wasn't going to care for her baby, and let her parents take full responsibility? Of course ... [snip!] ... baby, changing diapers and working min wage to buy diapers and such. If not, its her parents decision to help her or not."


This isn't D&D dear. I wasn't trying to convince OP to do otherwise lol. I was merely putting my opinion out there about her situation which I AM allowed to do.

MunchkinWrangler 4 kids; Rīga, Latvia 46865 posts
25th Nov '12
Quoting Jas ♥:" :lol: Private adoption. :idea:"



mind you, private adoptions are a big reason that kids already in foster care aren't being adopted... Because people are giving up their newborns in higher demand. How sad.. If anything abortion should come before adoption IMO

Casbutt Due April 27; 2 kids; Columbus, OH, United States 13830 posts
25th Nov '12

From what I read of previous threads, it doesn't sound like her family is willing to help with the child. Not sure if that's changed since she wrote those threads though.

JΔ$ Georgia 77853 posts
25th Nov '12
Quoting MunchkinWrangler:" Who says she will be able to find someone to adopt her baby? There are many babies being put up for adoption yearly. Foster homes are all too real. many of which are not too great. :("


I am aware of that. I do not care what she does with her baby. Fortunately, I am not passionate about a strangers kid. I don't care if she was to abort the thing right now. Its her life and it has nothing to do with me.

JΔ$ Georgia 77853 posts
25th Nov '12
Quoting MunchkinWrangler:" mind you, private adoptions are a big reason that kids already in foster care aren't being adopted... ... [snip!] ... Because people are giving up their newborns in higher demand. How sad.. If anything abortion should come before adoption IMO "


I agree. I'm nor pro abortion or adoption. I honestly do not care.



I do have an opinion on 14 year olds having children when they can't even take care of themselves and its not going to change.

JΔ$ Georgia 77853 posts
25th Nov '12
Quoting The Devil's Squeekerz:" From what I read of previous threads, it doesn't sound like her family is willing to help with the child. Not sure if that's changed since she wrote those threads though."


Sucks for her.

SavageDarling 3 kids; Webster, Massachusetts 10381 posts
25th Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Jas ♥:</b>" I agree. I'm nor pro abortion or adoption. I honestly do not care. I do have an opinion on 14 year olds having children when they can't even take care of themselves and its not going to change."</blockquote>




I almost agree here, except I am 100% pro-abortion when it comes to little girls having babies. I think OP is being ridiculously selfish (as i would expect a 14 year old to be) and her family and this baby are going to suffer because of it. And she doesn't even care! She's just keeping the baby because that's what she wants to do, regardless of what kind of life she knows she can't give it and how greatly this will effect her family. So selfish.