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Single mommy... DannieBee Due February 23 (girl); Payson, Arizona 6 posts
25th Nov '12

well, my boyfriend finally had enough of the mood swings i guess. we have been broken up for a week now. & he claims he still wants to be a part of his daughters life but i am feeling sooooooo posessive. what makes him think he can dump me & still be in her life?...
well actually, i dumped him becase he felt the need to keep lying to me about smoking cigarettes. but then i asked him if he wans to try again & hes saying no.
i just dont know what to do. she will be here in three months & im just soooo depressed. & she used to be so active, & now that all i do is cry, she doesnt seem to be kicking like she used to.
i dont think he realizes that having me stress like this is so bad for our daughter. & the longer he keeps this going, the more angry i get at him & want nothing to do with him, including him being in her life.
i dont know what to do.
i always wanted my child to know both her parents...& now it seems like thats going to be impossible.


what should i do?. should i "give him his space?." or should i keep talking to him & trying to make things better?. :(

wilde_mommy 4 kids; Columbus, Ohio 3459 posts
25th Nov '12

If your relationship is fixable then fix it. It sounds to me like you're both just stressed out about the baby coming.

whack a mole crazy Due January 23 (boy); Nebraska 2651 posts
25th Nov '12

Space




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user banned Due April 2; Georgia 7200 posts
25th Nov '12

Give him his space & if he wants to be there for his daughter, let him.

Ivory's Mommy ♥ 1 child; Seagoville, Texas 951 posts
25th Nov '12

This happened to me when I was 8 months pregnant , I know how you feel mama it sucks :( But you can't stay depressed and upset because your baby girl can feel that. Just give him his space and try talking about things , eventually he will come around and realize you are going to be having his child soon. Hope everything works out for you and your family.
*hugs*

Kelly&Coralie 1 child; Rochester, NY, United States 56009 posts
25th Nov '12

Give him space and let him be part of his daughters life

Soon 2B Mom of 2 2 kids; North Highlands, California 3785 posts
25th Nov '12

If he wants to be apart of his daughters life than let him. Part of being a parent is putting aside what you want, and doing whats best for your LO. Other than that, I would give him some space. Sorry your going through this, and even though it is hard, try not to stress too much over it. Its really not good for you or the baby. I hope things get better for you soon!

Olive ♥ 1 child; North Carolina 4902 posts
25th Nov '12

Give him space. Don't be controlling. You might not wanna be a bitch about trying to keep his kid away from him, either. That won't happen, and he can use what you say against you.

αuτumnαl ~, FL, United States 67173 posts
25th Nov '12

That would be a very bitchy thing of you to do to keep him from her just because YOUR relationship didn't work with him. If you do, hopefully he'll take you to court. :?

Mama On The Run 3 kids; 781 posts
25th Nov '12
Quoting sταrry skies:" That would be a very bitchy thing of you to do to keep him from her just because YOUR relationship didn't work with him. If you do, hopefully he'll take you to court. :?"


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SavageDarling 3 kids; Webster, Massachusetts 10381 posts
25th Nov '12

Keeping his daughter from him because YOU broke up with HIM would insanely selfish and childish. And you broke up with him for smoking? Are you his mother? Just tell not to smoke around you or the baby but i think ending a relationship with the father of your child because he didn't quit smoking is incredible stupid and petty.
And I don't really understand what you're so upset about. You broke up with him. Give him his space and focus on taking care of yourself for your daughter, then try again in a few months. And please dont keep his kid from him just because it didn't work out with you two. That is just so selfish and unfair to the baby.

DannieBee Due February 23 (girl); Payson, Arizona 6 posts
25th Nov '12

you guys dont have to be so mean.
i said i broke up with him because he was lying. all he does is lying.
& i even said i was being posessive.

thats why im asking for advice. not critism. but thanks for making me feel better.

SavageDarling 3 kids; Webster, Massachusetts 10381 posts
25th Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting DannieBee:</b>" you guys dont have to be so mean. i said i broke up with him because he was lying. all he does is lying. ... [snip!] ... & i even said i was being posessive. thats why im asking for advice. not critism. but thanks for making me feel better."</blockquote>




Oh wah. If youre honestly thinking about keeping his daughter from him because you arent together anymore, you deserve some criticism.
And along with the criticism, almost every single person gave you advice. You are just choosing to ignore it because you're in the depths of a pity party.