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s00nt0b04 Due April 23 (boy); 3 kids; Louisville, Kentucky 477 posts
Nov 25th '12
Quoting Lynnsay B:" How old are your kids? Maybe its time for a chore chart."


Our 6 yr old has to tidy his room, put up some of his laundry (like his socks and pajama's and take care of his hamster. He also takes the trash out the bathrooms when they get full. But nothing hard or anything.



Our girls are soon to be 4 and 3.
We haven't gave them chores other than nightly tidying up their toys and picking out clothes for the next day.

Mother of One plus One 2 kids; Ware Shoals, South Carolina 4418 posts
Nov 25th '12

I am a SAHM of a 3yr old and a 1 yr old and it IS hard. It is tough and you don't get a break. But honestly,I don't see why you are bitching. If my kids went to school or day care I could have it f**king easy for those hours. Hardly doing shit. There would be no need for me to be a SAHM anymore.

s00nt0b04 Due April 23 (boy); 3 kids; Louisville, Kentucky 477 posts
Nov 25th '12
Quoting Mother of One plus One:" I am a SAHM of a 3yr old and a 1 yr old and it IS hard. It is tough and you don't get a break. But honestly,I ... [snip!] ... day care I could have it f**king easy for those hours. Hardly doing shit. There would be no need for me to be a SAHM anymore."


I was bitching because my hubby couldn't stay home on his only day off what so ever! He never does! It wouldn't of killed him to say oh honey let me do the dishes this morning. I did most my cleaning yesterday with little to nothing to do today. Yes, for him to help one day would be nice! He wants a break from being a daddy and work so why can't I?

Mother of One plus One 2 kids; Ware Shoals, South Carolina 4418 posts
Nov 25th '12

. <blockquote><b>Quoting s00nt0b04:</b>" I was bitching because my hubby couldn't stay home on his only day off what so ever! He never does! ... [snip!] ... nothing to do today. Yes, for him to help one day would be nice! He wants a break from being a daddy and work so why can't I? "</blockquote>




:lol: you do. When your kids are gone. Nobody cleans that much.

s00nt0b04 Due April 23 (boy); 3 kids; Louisville, Kentucky 477 posts
Nov 25th '12
Quoting Mother of One plus One:" . <blockquote><b>Quoting s00nt0b04:</b>" I was bitching because my hubby couldn't ... [snip!] ... being a daddy and work so why can't I? "</blockquote> :lol: you do. When your kids are gone. Nobody cleans that much."


Actually, I do. I like my house to be clean. I don't live in trash. I don't like my house to look so either :) thanks have a great day

MommyToWesley 1 child; Delaware 3847 posts
Nov 25th '12
Quoting s00nt0b04:" Actually, I do. I like my house to be clean. I don't live in trash. I don't like my house to look so either :) thanks have a great day "


Bullshit. It doesn't take 5 hours of cleaning a day to keep a house spotless.

s00nt0b04 Due April 23 (boy); 3 kids; Louisville, Kentucky 477 posts
Nov 25th '12
Quoting MommyToWesley:" Bullshit. It doesn't take 5 hours of cleaning a day to keep a house spotless."


Considering I have dust every other day due to my youngest daughters allergies to pretty much everything. I rather have a house that's clean instead of having to stick her with an epi pen and taking her to ER because I missed some type of dust, a place where mold could grow, clean an air purifier and everything else.



But thanks for stopping by!

Amber Waves 1 child; Charleston, South Carolina 596 posts
Nov 25th '12
Quoting s00nt0b04:" I was bitching because my hubby couldn't stay home on his only day off what so ever! He never does! ... [snip!] ... nothing to do today. Yes, for him to help one day would be nice! He wants a break from being a daddy and work so why can't I? "


i havent even had my baby yet and i would appreciate it if SO would help around the house a little. its your relationship. he goes to work, then goes elsewhere....you cant do everything lol and you have kids. i hope it gets better for you and you guys can communicate a home schedule better. guys get overwhelmed, but its not nearly anything compared to what women go through. good luck!

s00nt0b04 Due April 23 (boy); 3 kids; Louisville, Kentucky 477 posts
Nov 25th '12
Quoting ♡Sarah♡ + 2:" Have you told him? They arent mind readers and before you say I want him to want to spend time with me, maybe he does but doenst want to bother you so he doesnt say anything? "


Yeah, I have told him. Any other ideas?

s00nt0b04 Due April 23 (boy); 3 kids; Louisville, Kentucky 477 posts
Nov 25th '12
Quoting ♡Sarah♡ + 2:" Well than thats your problem, not his. :wink:"


Actually, he's a lot more of a neat freak than I am and he lives here too!

s00nt0b04 Due April 23 (boy); 3 kids; Louisville, Kentucky 477 posts
Nov 25th '12
Quoting Amber Waves:" i havent even had my baby yet and i would appreciate it if SO would help around the house a little. ... [snip!] ... a home schedule better. guys get overwhelmed, but its not nearly anything compared to what women go through. good luck!"


Thanks. I am not asking him for much of anything just an offer would be nice or 1 day with him not even the whole day! I know he works and I know it's annoying but I work and have school and everything else. I mean it's not like I want him to be my little b***h or anything just step in once a couple of weeks.

Amber Waves 1 child; Charleston, South Carolina 596 posts
Nov 25th '12
Quoting s00nt0b04:" Thanks. I am not asking him for much of anything just an offer would be nice or 1 day with him not even ... [snip!] ... and everything else. I mean it's not like I want him to be my little b***h or anything just step in once a couple of weeks. "


yep, and for some reason thats hard for some to understand. asking for help from your man shouldnt be a crime, but some consider to it be lol if you want to take a day at the salon you should be able to, seeing as how you fulfill your daily role as stay at home mom every single day. even if you are alone and there happens to be time to relax for yourself....SAHM sounds like the most thankless job sometimes so you deserve what you can get, and damnit you better get it! lol

s00nt0b04 Due April 23 (boy); 3 kids; Louisville, Kentucky 477 posts
Nov 25th '12
Quoting Amber Waves:" yep, and for some reason thats hard for some to understand. asking for help from your man shouldnt be ... [snip!] ... sounds like the most thankless job sometimes so you deserve what you can get, and damnit you better get it! lol"


True. I don't know maybe it's all the holiday craze. Thanksgiving last week and DS b'day this weekend and then my b'day and Christmas. Then DH's gma in the hospital and doctors still saying she won't be home by Christmas and just been crazy. That's why I think I've been so crazy with a million and 1 things on my to do list

Madi's*Mama Due November 2; 1 child; Holland, Michigan 7391 posts
Nov 25th '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting s00nt0b04:</b>" Actually, he's a lot more of a neat freak than I am and he lives here too!"</blockquote>



You might just have to spell it out for him. My dh is also a major best freak but had a maid growing up so he never cleaned up after himself. I told him I'm his wife, not his maid and the last I checked both his arms still worked so if he didnt want clothes all over the floor (his biggest pet peeve) then he better start putting his clothes in the basket when he changes. He didnt pick up on hints or anything else and begging him to help only worked for like a day. When dd came I snapped and told him I didn't make her alone and I'm not a single mom so there was no reason I was doing everything alone even though I'm a sahm (most yes but not all).

s00nt0b04 Due April 23 (boy); 3 kids; Louisville, Kentucky 477 posts
Nov 25th '12
Quoting Carol :):" <blockquote><b>Quoting s00nt0b04:</b>" Actually, he's a lot more of a neat freak than ... [snip!] ... and I'm not a single mom so there was no reason I was doing everything alone even though I'm a sahm (most yes but not all)."


Might have to. Best idea yet. Guess I will snapping as a last resort.