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Sarah ♥ K&K 2 kids; 2 angel babies; South Land, CA, United States 116860 posts
25th Nov '12
Quoting s00nt0b04:" Yeah, I have told him. Any other ideas? "


stop doing shit

s00nt0b04 Due April 23 (boy); 3 kids; Louisville, Kentucky 477 posts
25th Nov '12
Quoting ♡Sarah♡ + 2:" Well than thats your problem, not his. :wink:"


Actually, he's a lot more of a neat freak than I am and he lives here too!

s00nt0b04 Due April 23 (boy); 3 kids; Louisville, Kentucky 477 posts
25th Nov '12
Quoting Amber Waves:" i havent even had my baby yet and i would appreciate it if SO would help around the house a little. ... [snip!] ... a home schedule better. guys get overwhelmed, but its not nearly anything compared to what women go through. good luck!"


Thanks. I am not asking him for much of anything just an offer would be nice or 1 day with him not even the whole day! I know he works and I know it's annoying but I work and have school and everything else. I mean it's not like I want him to be my little b***h or anything just step in once a couple of weeks.

Amber Waves 1 child; Charleston, South Carolina 596 posts
25th Nov '12
Quoting s00nt0b04:" Thanks. I am not asking him for much of anything just an offer would be nice or 1 day with him not even ... [snip!] ... and everything else. I mean it's not like I want him to be my little b***h or anything just step in once a couple of weeks. "


yep, and for some reason thats hard for some to understand. asking for help from your man shouldnt be a crime, but some consider to it be lol if you want to take a day at the salon you should be able to, seeing as how you fulfill your daily role as stay at home mom every single day. even if you are alone and there happens to be time to relax for yourself....SAHM sounds like the most thankless job sometimes so you deserve what you can get, and damnit you better get it! lol

s00nt0b04 Due April 23 (boy); 3 kids; Louisville, Kentucky 477 posts
25th Nov '12
Quoting Amber Waves:" yep, and for some reason thats hard for some to understand. asking for help from your man shouldnt be ... [snip!] ... sounds like the most thankless job sometimes so you deserve what you can get, and damnit you better get it! lol"


True. I don't know maybe it's all the holiday craze. Thanksgiving last week and DS b'day this weekend and then my b'day and Christmas. Then DH's gma in the hospital and doctors still saying she won't be home by Christmas and just been crazy. That's why I think I've been so crazy with a million and 1 things on my to do list

Madi's*Mama Due November 2; 1 child; Holland, Michigan 7391 posts
25th Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting s00nt0b04:</b>" Actually, he's a lot more of a neat freak than I am and he lives here too!"</blockquote>



You might just have to spell it out for him. My dh is also a major best freak but had a maid growing up so he never cleaned up after himself. I told him I'm his wife, not his maid and the last I checked both his arms still worked so if he didnt want clothes all over the floor (his biggest pet peeve) then he better start putting his clothes in the basket when he changes. He didnt pick up on hints or anything else and begging him to help only worked for like a day. When dd came I snapped and told him I didn't make her alone and I'm not a single mom so there was no reason I was doing everything alone even though I'm a sahm (most yes but not all).

s00nt0b04 Due April 23 (boy); 3 kids; Louisville, Kentucky 477 posts
25th Nov '12
Quoting Carol :):" <blockquote><b>Quoting s00nt0b04:</b>" Actually, he's a lot more of a neat freak than ... [snip!] ... and I'm not a single mom so there was no reason I was doing everything alone even though I'm a sahm (most yes but not all)."


Might have to. Best idea yet. Guess I will snapping as a last resort.

Madi's*Mama Due November 2; 1 child; Holland, Michigan 7391 posts
25th Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting s00nt0b04:</b>" Might have to. Best idea yet. Guess I will snapping as a last resort. "</blockquote>



Yeah I was def angry when it happened (so it didnt go how it should have and I was really mean about it :oops: ) but I've never had to ask him to help again and in fact he's offered to get up with dd or bath her or wash dishes. I got him a super awesome Christmas present to say thanks though :) I think the big change came when he kept an eye on dd all day basically because I was busy so he did it all for a few days and now he understands that it's not easy lol

s00nt0b04 Due April 23 (boy); 3 kids; Louisville, Kentucky 477 posts
25th Nov '12
Quoting Carol :):" <blockquote><b>Quoting s00nt0b04:</b>" Might have to. Best idea yet. Guess I will ... [snip!] ... an eye on dd all day basically because I was busy so he did it all for a few days and now he understands that it's not easy lol"


Great idea! Treat like a kid in the aspect of rewarding them. Hmm. Good plan.

Prttymommy3 3 kids; Savannah, Georgia 642 posts
25th Nov '12

OP it sounds like you just feel a little unappreciated. I am going through this also unfortunately so I have no advice. I hope things get better for you. :D

s00nt0b04 Due April 23 (boy); 3 kids; Louisville, Kentucky 477 posts
26th Nov '12
Quoting Prttymommy3:" OP it sounds like you just feel a little unappreciated. I am going through this also unfortunately so I have no advice. I hope things get better for you. :D"


Yeah sounds like it. My kids tell me thank yo all the time but DH rarely says it. I just want to be loved. This rough patch came out of nowhere.