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Harlot O'Scara Japan 78 posts
25th Nov '12

i just don't think anyone has a right to judge someone so negatively for their sexuality.

XxWhite_RosexX 1 child; United Kingdom 1962 posts
25th Nov '12
Quoting Harlot O'Scara:" Uh. Nobody. Not sure what your point is. "


you just seemed very passionate about it. i assumed you got called it and it offended you

user banned Due November 7 (boy); 1 child; Dayton, Ohio 26853 posts
25th Nov '12
Quoting Harlot O'Scara:" But that's just it though. Why? Why is it so horrible that you must call someone names because of PERSONAL choices they make that don't concern you? "


Well then don't call anyone anything.
I mean shit. You couldn't think to yourself, jeez that kid looks kinda emo. That girl looks wealthy. That dude looks trashy. That girl looks slutty. She has a b***h face.



I am going to think things about everyone. Judging. It's natural. Your brain does it whether you SAY it or not.



http://esciencenews.com/sources/the.guardian.science/2009/03/09/brain.circuit.found.judges.people.first.impressions



Scientists have recorded the gentle flicker of activity that lights up the brain when we form our first impressions of people. The study shows how age-old brain circuitry that evolved to make snap decisions on the importance of objects in the environment is now used in social situations.
Brain scans taken while volunteers formed opinions of new acquaintances found activity surged in an ancient neural circuit that helps us make a rapid assessment of a person's character.
"Humans have always been engaged in making decisions on what's important and what's not, and social decision making is taking advantage of these primary systems in the brain," said Daniela Schiller, who led the study at New York University.
"Whenever you need to assign value to something, you use the same mechanism, whether it's an inanimate object or a person. It's like there's one common currency in the brain."
Previous work by neuroscientists has shown we form our first impressions well within 30 seconds of meeting people. Often, our opinion changes very little after knowing them for longer.
"When you meet a person, they might say something, or look a certain way, or behave a certain way, but you have very little information on which to form an opinion, but it is almost instantaneous and you can't withhold from doing it," said Schiller.
In the study, published in Nature Neuroscience, Schiller and scientists from Harvard University took brain scans of 19 volunteers who were asked to form a first impression of a series of fictional characters.
The volunteers were shown faces of men on a computer screen, followed by six sentences that described a mix of good and bad aspects of their character. For example, the person might have picked up his room mate's post on the way home from university, or told a fellow student they were stupid. After reading all of the sentences, the participants were asked to rate how much they liked the person on a scale from one to eight, with eight being the most likable.
Schiller's team then looked through the images from the scanner to see what brain regions had been most active while people formed their first impressions.
The scans showed that two brain regions were involved in opinion-forming, the almond-shaped amygdala, which is linked to regulating emotions, and the posterior cingulate cortex, which is active in making financial decisions and putting values on the outcomes of situations.
"Even when we only briefly encounter others, brain regions that are important in forming evaluations are engaged, resulting in a quick first impression," said Elizabeth Phelps, a co-author on the study at New York University.
Understanding the biological circuits involved with opinion forming might help scientists learn what happens when they are disrupted or fail to activate properly. "It might affect the impressions you have of others, and that could feed into the basis of your relationship with them from then on," said Schiller.

White Chocolate Milk 1 child; Chelsea, Alabama 12303 posts
25th Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Harlot O'Scara:</b>" i just don't think anyone has a right to judge someone so negatively for their sexuality."</blockquote>




When you can figure out a way to make everyone stop judging each other then you will have gotten somewhere.

LolaMcKitten Due May 30 (girl); 27 kids; Beverly Hills, California 15496 posts
25th Nov '12

It's all about the way you act, honestly. I don't give a shit if you sleep with 5 guys at once and get up the next morning and do it again - but you don't need to go around talking about it, posting on facebook about it, hanging off of dudes all the time, going after guys who are in relationships already - thats slutty.



As for the way people dress......there is a way to dress sexy without looking like you just came from the set of a porno flick and if you choose to represent yourself in that way, then you deal with the repercussions.

Harlot O'Scara Japan 78 posts
25th Nov '12
Quoting XxWhite_RosexX:" you just seemed very passionate about it. i assumed you got called it and it offended you"


I think at some point in their lives, most women are called a slut for some stupid reason or another.



I am passionate about it not for selfish reasons, but because I am generally passionate about progress for women. I'm one of those feminists you hear about.

user banned Due November 7 (boy); 1 child; Dayton, Ohio 26853 posts
25th Nov '12
Quoting Rumpelstiltskin:" LMAO I guess I'm one too! Though I cannot say I've every dressed "slutty" in my opinion. I've dressed ... [snip!] ... numbers sure did rack up! :oops: So what's the definition of a lady? A prudish woman who wears beige suits and pearls? :D"

I don't think so because I wear gray suits and pearls and I normally get judged as being "vintagy" lol

Harlot O'Scara Japan 78 posts
25th Nov '12
Quoting Smartass *TTC*:" Well then don't call anyone anything. I mean shit. You couldn't think to yourself, jeez that kid looks ... [snip!] ... impressions you have of others, and that could feed into the basis of your relationship with them from then on," said Schiller."


I think the point isn't to stop judging in general - the point is that there is an inequity in female vs. male sexuality and we need to change society's attitudes about female sexuality. people wouldn't call women "sluts" if female sexuality were not considered a negative, shameful thing in our culture.

Baby Love. 3 kids; Washington 3120 posts
25th Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Lillybutt's momma:</b>" I always say I used to be a slut because I was just out for sex in my younger years8)"</blockquote>




Me too :-) Oh well, live and learn.

Wildflower 🌈 1 child; Oregon 7065 posts
25th Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Harlot O'Scara:</b>" ....Those are still all really stupid reasons to judge someone so harshly. What does it matter if a girl is doing any of that? What concern is it of yours? Why call her names?"</blockquote>



I know you weren't asking me, but it's everyone's concern because a lot of skanky girls (and guys) don't care if they spread diseases around, then the guys they sleep with spread it around, ect. The more people you sleep with the more likely you are to spread Diseases around the population. Then if someone gets in a relationship they can spread it to their innocent SO. That's disgusting. That's one reason I don't like people who sleep around. Even if they are using protection, a condom can break at any second. I think people should have more respect for themselves and not sleep with a bunch of people in a short amount of time. It's just unattractive and it's just gross. Also, a lot of people that sleep around don't care if the guy is married, and if she's sleeping around with a lot of other people then gives this married guy a disease, then he goes home and gives t to his innocent wife, what I'd she's breastfeeding their baby and the baby gets it?



I just think its wrong and it can affect a bunch of people.

user banned Due November 7 (boy); 1 child; Dayton, Ohio 26853 posts
25th Nov '12
Quoting Harlot O'Scara:" I think the point isn't to stop judging in general - the point is that there is an inequity in female ... [snip!] ... people wouldn't call women "sluts" if female sexuality were not considered a negative, shameful thing in our culture. "


Oh I call guys male wh**es. I am an equal opportunity hater.

LolaMcKitten Due May 30 (girl); 27 kids; Beverly Hills, California 15496 posts
25th Nov '12
Quoting Smartass *TTC*:" Oh I call guys male wh**es. I am an equal opportunity hater."


Same here. Man-wh**e is a common term in my vocab. I'm more likely to call a man a man-wh**e than a woman a slut, to be honest.

Hy'ska 2 kids; Washington 50789 posts
25th Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Harlot O'Scara:</b>" I think the point isn't to stop judging in general - the point is that there is an inequity in female ... [snip!] ... people wouldn't call women "sluts" if female sexuality were not considered a negative, shameful thing in our culture. "</blockquote>




I live in a very liberal area hell there is a nudist colony not far from my house. I don't hear slut, wh**e, etc like at all. I think some of it has to do with location.

user banned Due November 7 (boy); 1 child; Dayton, Ohio 26853 posts
25th Nov '12
Quoting Rumpelstiltskin:" haha I was just being sarcastic! But yeah, I've got my "classy outfits" that I wear for work, my "mom ... [snip!] ... for work, my "mom outfits" for everyday and my downright slutty outfits for SO :wink: I guess I'm a classy mommy slut! :D:D:D "

Oh I like that! I personally don't care if girls call each others sluts or wh**es, it's just part of life. I am not worried about it, no one calls me a slut lol.



Come to think of it, when I was a slut no one called me a slut. I think I was a secret slut.

Harlot O'Scara Japan 78 posts
25th Nov '12
Quoting Silly Mily's Momma ♡:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Harlot O'Scara:</b>" ....Those are still all really stupid ... [snip!] ... what I'd she's breastfeeding their baby and the baby gets it? I just think its wrong and it can affect a bunch of people."


Diseases can be spread by people who have a small number of partners too. That is an issue of safe sex and being safe and responsible, not an issue of your sex life in general.



I have "slept around" in my lifetime and I've never gotten a disease. I was smart and safe about it, it wasn't "luck", I was just careful. And I didn't have lots of sex because I didn't respect myself...to the contrary, I respected myself to give myself what I wanted without worrying what people would think.