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Venting :/ Bai & Delilah's Mom 2 kids; Duncanville, Texas 1153 posts
25th Nov '12

Do Not Quote.



Okay, I was talking, or should I say ATTEMPTING, to talk to DH about what I think is right and is better for a baby. I dont want anymore children. We cant afford another child if we didnt get pregnant again. I think it would be better for the baby if we gave it up for adoption. It gives that child a better life. I know it would be way harder for us and the kids if we added another one. We are scraping by with the girls. Honestly someone else who cant have children would love that child. I rather someone whos more older and on their feet to have the baby. He doesnt understand why I would keep the first 2 but adopt out the 3rd besides I dont want another one. It makes sense to me. We couldnt afford it. Honestly I couldnt handle it and someone out there wants the baby I dont want.



He says im being selfish. I dont feel selfish. Selfish to me is keeping it knowing we could not afford a baby on top of the girls. I would be giving someone a lifetime gift they want so bad, that would be worth it. It would be sad because iknow id bond with the baby but in the it would be right choice.

1inpink2inblue Switzerland 11961 posts
25th Nov '12

Mmaybe he feels this way because he wants it . And financial problems are often temporary. Have you asked him what he wants?

the BEAST Wisconsin 15638 posts
25th Nov '12

Have you thought about permanent birth control choices so you don't get pg again?

user banned Vancouver, British Columbia 5643 posts
25th Nov '12

Use condoms and birth control and you will reduce the risk of ever having to deal with that situation.

Bai & Delilah's Mom 2 kids; Duncanville, Texas 1153 posts
25th Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting 1inpink2inblue:</b>" Mmaybe he feels this way because he wants it . And financial problems are often temporary. Have you asked him what he wants?"</blockquote>




He tells me he doesnt want anymore. But flipped out on me. He said it was my choice if it happened.

A & T + 2♡ 2 kids; Kansas 19247 posts
status 25th Nov '12
Quoting charlie waffles:" Have you thought about permanent birth control choices so you don't get pg again?"


:!: Don't allow yourself to be put in that position.

Bai & Delilah's Mom 2 kids; Duncanville, Texas 1153 posts
25th Nov '12

I cant get my tubes tied till after I turn 21. I want too.
Then the inshrance I have doesnt take the doctor who wanted to do it. I have to convince another doctor to do it.
I have this stupid implanon. Its making me basically bleed all month but a week.

ChubbyCheekers 2 kids; New York 3117 posts
25th Nov '12

Well, she's already in that situation, so it's a little late for that.



You got pregnant on Implanon?

Not tellin 3 kids; Montana 55983 posts
25th Nov '12

It is all semantics when it comes to men and their thought process. My husband has the same thought. Lol If I were to get pregnant right now, I would have an abortion in a red hot second. I already have three kids. My health isn't good enough to sustain another pregnancy. It would either end in m/c or likely end my life trying to carry. The way I see it, the three I have right now need me more.



Talk to your Dr about a different BC if the implanon is not working for you. Don't forget to piggy back with a spermicide or condom. Good luck!

Bai & Delilah's Mom 2 kids; Duncanville, Texas 1153 posts
25th Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Lizplustwo:</b>" Well, she's already in that situation, so it's a little late for that. You got pregnant on Implanon?"</blockquote>




No not yet. But I have no hope since my IUD failed. Ive been nausous since yesterday, so its possible. Thats why I brought it up. I literally feel sick to my stomach like I did with DD2

ChubbyCheekers 2 kids; New York 3117 posts
25th Nov '12

Oh, so you're not actually pregnant right now?

E'M Shikari Due March 10 (boy); 1 child; 1 angel baby; Preston, United Kingdom 1747 posts
25th Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Bailee & Delilah's Mommy:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Lizplustwo:</b>" Well, she's already in that situation, so it's ... [snip!] ... nausous since yesterday, so its possible. Thats why I brought it up. I literally feel sick to my stomach like I did with DD2"</blockquote>



Why worry about it if you don't even know if you are pregnant...?

Bai & Delilah's Mom 2 kids; Duncanville, Texas 1153 posts
25th Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Not tellin:</b>" It is all semantics when it comes to men and their thought process. My husband has the same thought. ... [snip!] ... about a different BC if the implanon is not working for you. Don't forget to piggy back with a spermicide or condom. Good luck!"</blockquote>




Of I had the money for an abortion, id get it also. I just had a baby in May so hell no to another one. I mentally could not hand le anotjer one.

Bai & Delilah's Mom 2 kids; Duncanville, Texas 1153 posts
25th Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Ellie Shikari:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Bailee & Delilah's Mommy:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting ... [snip!] ... sick to my stomach like I did with DD2"</blockquote> Why worry about it if you don't even know if you are pregnant...?"</blockquote>




Because if it doest happen he knows where I stand. We talked alittle about it before but I decided to bring it up.

E'M Shikari Due March 10 (boy); 1 child; 1 angel baby; Preston, United Kingdom 1747 posts
25th Nov '12

I'd get on a better sort of birth control asap then so you don't find yourself in that situation.