I dont know how much help Ill be but:
My childhood was more or less normal I guess. My family is very big and has lots of kids. Money was a big deal. I was taught the value early and I knew needs vs wants. We didnt have a lot, we had plenty enough though. The effect it has had on me is that I rarely spend for fun and I dread spending money because it can be used for a rainy day. Sometimes I feel selfish because I have a "mine" mentality because I rarely had something that was just mine as a kid. I always had to share or be the big sister and give up something.
As the oldest kid in the big family, Im always looked at as the responsible one and the example maker. I feel guilty disappointing my family. I got accidentally pregnant with my son at age 22, I didnt tell my family for 4 months because I was scared of their disappointment of me not being married first. Even though I had a full time career, my own home and I am a adult.
We were spanked and as far as I know I have no big psychological problems from it. After a spanking I was allowed to go back to playing and generally forgot about it after a day or two and never did whatever it was that earned me a spanking, again. I love my parents and have no hard feelings. So I guess because of my experience I dont generally view spanking as abuse when done correctly.
I hope that helps.
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Quoting the grace life:" Agreed. I find a hard time feeling sympathetic/sorry for people who use their childhood abuse as an excuse. I don't know if you're wanting details of abuse, but I can always PM you."
same here... it just completely sickens me, like makes me want to throw up. :(