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Mrs. Conan O'Brien 2 kids; Colorado 20924 posts
26th Nov '12

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624582 Neilton, Washington 9312 posts
26th Nov '12

Why is leaving not an option?



I couldn't handle that and there is no excuse for the way he is acting. My husband has come home after 10 hours of chipping concrete, along with 4 hours of driving to and from work and still gave DS a bath, read to him, put him to bed, and did the dishes after dinner.



Of course I don't expect that of him, but seriously there isn't any excuse for that bullshit. I'm really sorry, mama. But, I'd be looking for a way out. It seems as though his lack of effort is only causing more stress for you.

heygirlheyyy♥ 1 child; Iowa 1303 posts
26th Nov '12

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k♥[j&a] 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Kentucky 1057 posts
26th Nov '12

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624582 Neilton, Washington 9312 posts
26th Nov '12
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heygirlheyyy♥ 1 child; Iowa 1303 posts
26th Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting 624582:</b>" Why is leaving not an option? I couldn't handle that and there is no excuse for the way he is acting. ... [snip!] ... sorry, mama. But, I'd be looking for a way out. It seems as though his lack of effort is only causing more stress for you."</blockquote>




I wish my SO was like that :( he has his moments of being a really decent dad, but when I sit down and think about it, 80% of the time he's not even being a dad:/
He no longer takes my threats of leaving seriously because he knows I probably won't. And he's somewhat right, I have nothin without him and it sucks.

letonemesis Due June 24; 18 kids; Lawson, Missouri 477 posts
26th Nov '12
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heygirlheyyy♥ 1 child; Iowa 1303 posts
26th Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting 624582:</b>" Do you have family near by?"</blockquote>




I have literally no family here. My mom died 2 years ago and my dad lives in Mexico. Other family lives out of state.
I know my life would be different if my mom were still alive. She was a single mom and would be all for helping me out:(

heygirlheyyy♥ 1 child; Iowa 1303 posts
26th Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting letonemesis:</b>" You could look up places in your area that provide job training."</blockquote>




I've done that briefly. I was looking into CNA actually! I just don't know if I can stay with him until January when the classes start:/ I guess that's like my only option though..

624582 Neilton, Washington 9312 posts
26th Nov '12
Quoting heygirlheyyy♥:" <blockquote><b>Quoting 624582:</b>" Why is leaving not an option? I couldn't handle ... [snip!] ... of leaving seriously because he knows I probably won't. And he's somewhat right, I have nothin without him and it sucks."


I can imagine that is hard. It would be one thing if my husband wasn't willing to be a "good" husband, but if he didn't show much interest in being a father to our son it would break my heart.



If I were you I'd continue to look for work, tuck away money, and keep looking for housing options. Even if, some how, your husband wises up it is always good to have a safety net. I'm really sorry that your daughter and you are going through this.

Mrs. Conan O'Brien 2 kids; Colorado 20924 posts
26th Nov '12

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heygirlheyyy♥ 1 child; Iowa 1303 posts
26th Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting 624582:</b>" I can imagine that is hard. It would be one thing if my husband wasn't willing to be a "good" husband, ... [snip!] ... husband wises up it is always good to have a safety net. I'm really sorry that your daughter and you are going through this."</blockquote>



Thanks for your input! I just feel ...trapped. I try to act like everything is fine and I can make it work but tonight just topped it off for me and I had to vent.

heygirlheyyy♥ 1 child; Iowa 1303 posts
26th Nov '12

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letonemesis Due June 24; 18 kids; Lawson, Missouri 477 posts
26th Nov '12
Quoting heygirlheyyy♥:" <blockquote><b>Quoting letonemesis:</b>" You could look up places in your area that ... [snip!] ... I just don't know if I can stay with him until January when the classes start:/ I guess that's like my only option though.."


Maybe a good idea to start looking more into it, and find any one who you know you can trust to watch your child. It may be hard but it would be well worth the effort. Go to your local FSD they may be able to give you a lot of information on where to go and places that have low child care fees. I am sorry I can't help more myself but I know with the right help you can get things figured out

heygirlheyyy♥ 1 child; Iowa 1303 posts
26th Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting letonemesis:</b>" Maybe a good idea to start looking more into it, and find any one who you know you can trust to watch ... [snip!] ... have low child care fees. I am sorry I can't help more myself but I know with the right help you can get things figured out"</blockquote>




Thank you for your help! I'm going to be looking more into it, hopefully I can find something..