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Won't leave SO alone with their children Mama Rice 34 kids; North Las Vegas, Nevada 11980 posts
26th Nov '12

Can someone explain why they have kids with someone they can not trust to be home alone with their kids? It bothers me how often I have read on here that a woman does not trust their SO home alone with their kids. If they can not be trusted to properly care for their children then why have kids with them?



(I do not mean they do not trust them because they are worried they will harm their children, I mean they do not trust that they could take proper care of their kids without their wife/SO around)

Zander and Luke's mommy 2 kids; Ankeny, Iowa 2387 posts
26th Nov '12

i was wondering the same thing..

Crystal 3 kids; Hephzibah, Georgia 15005 posts
26th Nov '12

Because they're idiots. Don't make a Father out of someone who can't be.

Crazyhazel89 1 child; Erie, Pennsylvania 3994 posts
26th Nov '12

it worries me when I leave her with anyone...it doesn't matter who it is...just because I feel like no one can watch her the way I can. I'm the momma..I'm the best lol. (and i'm really paranoid)

Emily Thorne 2 kids; Quetzaltenango, Guatemala 26302 posts
26th Nov '12

I never really understood that either... I imagine the pregnancy was probably accidental or whatever.

Crazyhazel89 1 child; Erie, Pennsylvania 3994 posts
26th Nov '12
Quoting Christina Getty:" it worries me when I leave her with anyone...it doesn't matter who it is...just because I feel like no one can watch her the way I can. I'm the momma..I'm the best lol. (and i'm really paranoid)"


edit: he does good with her though.

Mama Rice 34 kids; North Las Vegas, Nevada 11980 posts
26th Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Crystal Marie S.:</b>" Because they're idiots. Don't make a Father out of someone who can't be."</blockquote>



I understand accidents happen and unplanned pregnancies happen. But when women have multiple kids or plan a pregnancy with a man they can't trust to properly care for their own child.

user banned SAN FRANCISCO, CA, United States 24574 posts
26th Nov '12

Baffles me! I also don't understand the term 'babysitting' when referring to their kid's father. Like, when someone has to ask if their SO/DH can 'babysit' so we can grab a bite, get a mani, catch a movie...etc.

Crystal 3 kids; Hephzibah, Georgia 15005 posts
26th Nov '12
Quoting Mama Rice:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Crystal Marie S.:</b>" Because they're idiots. Don't make a ... [snip!] ... happen. But when women have multiple kids or plan a pregnancy with a man they can't trust to properly care for their own child."

Exactly. Accidents are accidents. But when you take no precautions, or purposely have a child with a man you can't stand, or who can't even care for themselves, then you're an idiot. You knew beforehand how he was, a baby isn't a miracle Daddy elixer.

SavageDarling 3 kids; Webster, Massachusetts 10381 posts
26th Nov '12

I agree! I see women on here often who have there kids in daycare while they work even if their fathers are home. WHAT?!



If I couldn't trust my husband to take of the kids I 1) would not have had anymore after the first, which was a surprise, and 2) would probably not still be with him. Why would you want to be with someone and have kids with them, if you don't trust them to be the kids' parent? Makes no sense to me.

user banned 2 kids; Bat Cave, North Carolina 64587 posts
26th Nov '12

Eh. Some men are great fathers but are just forgetful. Or do things differently.
If I go out and DH is home with the kids, which rarely happens, I call him a lot to remind him to do things because I'm worried he'll forget. And he's a wonderful dad. He just does things differently and it stresses me out

Just Ames 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Montego Bay, Jamaica 114793 posts
26th Nov '12

It can go either two ways, the chick was stupid to procreate with a loser or two, she is a psycho overbearing mother who sadly can't even trust her own partner with their child. There is a lot of that type on this site.

Vanilla MILFshake. 1 child; Georgia 5416 posts
26th Nov '12
Quoting .chele.:" Baffles me! I also don't understand the term 'babysitting' when referring to their kid's father. Like, ... [snip!] ... father. Like, when someone has to ask if their SO/DH can 'babysit' so we can grab a bite, get a mani, catch a movie...etc. "


I don't get that either! It's not babysitting...it's parenting. :lol: DH has always been one of the very few people I trust with DD. I trust him with her more than I do anyone. I probably wouldn't be with him anymore if I thought there was some reason I shouldn't trust him with our daughter.

user banned 2 kids; Bat Cave, North Carolina 64587 posts
26th Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Just Ames:</b>" It can go either two ways, the chick was stupid to procreate with a loser or two, she is a psycho overbearing ... [snip!] ... overbearing mother who sadly can't even trust her own partner with their child. There is a lot of that type on this site."</blockquote>




:oops:

Emily Thorne 2 kids; Quetzaltenango, Guatemala 26302 posts
26th Nov '12
Quoting .chele.:" Baffles me! I also don't understand the term 'babysitting' when referring to their kid's father. Like, ... [snip!] ... father. Like, when someone has to ask if their SO/DH can 'babysit' so we can grab a bite, get a mani, catch a movie...etc. "


eh, that's just a word, unless you are paying your partner to watch your kids, I don't care what you call it.