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Won't leave SO alone with their children Mama Rice 34 kids; North Las Vegas, Nevada 11980 posts
26th Nov '12

Can someone explain why they have kids with someone they can not trust to be home alone with their kids? It bothers me how often I have read on here that a woman does not trust their SO home alone with their kids. If they can not be trusted to properly care for their children then why have kids with them?



(I do not mean they do not trust them because they are worried they will harm their children, I mean they do not trust that they could take proper care of their kids without their wife/SO around)

Zander and Luke's mommy 2 kids; Ankeny, Iowa 2387 posts
26th Nov '12

i was wondering the same thing..

Crystal 3 kids; Hephzibah, Georgia 15439 posts
26th Nov '12

Because they're idiots. Don't make a Father out of someone who can't be.

Crazyhazel89 1 child; Erie, Pennsylvania 3994 posts
26th Nov '12

it worries me when I leave her with anyone...it doesn't matter who it is...just because I feel like no one can watch her the way I can. I'm the momma..I'm the best lol. (and i'm really paranoid)

Crazyhazel89 1 child; Erie, Pennsylvania 3994 posts
26th Nov '12
Quoting Christina Getty:" it worries me when I leave her with anyone...it doesn't matter who it is...just because I feel like no one can watch her the way I can. I'm the momma..I'm the best lol. (and i'm really paranoid)"


edit: he does good with her though.

Mama Rice 34 kids; North Las Vegas, Nevada 11980 posts
26th Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Crystal Marie S.:</b>" Because they're idiots. Don't make a Father out of someone who can't be."</blockquote>



I understand accidents happen and unplanned pregnancies happen. But when women have multiple kids or plan a pregnancy with a man they can't trust to properly care for their own child.

user banned SAN FRANCISCO, CA, United States 24574 posts
26th Nov '12

Baffles me! I also don't understand the term 'babysitting' when referring to their kid's father. Like, when someone has to ask if their SO/DH can 'babysit' so we can grab a bite, get a mani, catch a movie...etc.

Crystal 3 kids; Hephzibah, Georgia 15439 posts
26th Nov '12
Quoting Mama Rice:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Crystal Marie S.:</b>" Because they're idiots. Don't make a ... [snip!] ... happen. But when women have multiple kids or plan a pregnancy with a man they can't trust to properly care for their own child."

Exactly. Accidents are accidents. But when you take no precautions, or purposely have a child with a man you can't stand, or who can't even care for themselves, then you're an idiot. You knew beforehand how he was, a baby isn't a miracle Daddy elixer.

SavageDarling 3 kids; Webster, Massachusetts 10381 posts
26th Nov '12

I agree! I see women on here often who have there kids in daycare while they work even if their fathers are home. WHAT?!



If I couldn't trust my husband to take of the kids I 1) would not have had anymore after the first, which was a surprise, and 2) would probably not still be with him. Why would you want to be with someone and have kids with them, if you don't trust them to be the kids' parent? Makes no sense to me.

user banned 2 kids; Bat Cave, North Carolina 64587 posts
26th Nov '12

Eh. Some men are great fathers but are just forgetful. Or do things differently.
If I go out and DH is home with the kids, which rarely happens, I call him a lot to remind him to do things because I'm worried he'll forget. And he's a wonderful dad. He just does things differently and it stresses me out

Vanilla MILFshake. 1 child; Georgia 5424 posts
26th Nov '12
Quoting .chele.:" Baffles me! I also don't understand the term 'babysitting' when referring to their kid's father. Like, ... [snip!] ... father. Like, when someone has to ask if their SO/DH can 'babysit' so we can grab a bite, get a mani, catch a movie...etc. "


I don't get that either! It's not babysitting...it's parenting. :lol: DH has always been one of the very few people I trust with DD. I trust him with her more than I do anyone. I probably wouldn't be with him anymore if I thought there was some reason I shouldn't trust him with our daughter.

user banned 2 kids; Bat Cave, North Carolina 64587 posts
26th Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Just Ames:</b>" It can go either two ways, the chick was stupid to procreate with a loser or two, she is a psycho overbearing ... [snip!] ... overbearing mother who sadly can't even trust her own partner with their child. There is a lot of that type on this site."</blockquote>




:oops:

Vanilla MILFshake. 1 child; Georgia 5424 posts
26th Nov '12
Quoting Just Ames:" It can go either two ways, the chick was stupid to procreate with a loser or two, she is a psycho overbearing ... [snip!] ... overbearing mother who sadly can't even trust her own partner with their child. There is a lot of that type on this site."


I do think I 'm kind of overprotective sometimes, but I have seen worse....way worse. :shock: :lol:

user banned 2 kids; Bat Cave, North Carolina 64587 posts
26th Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Just Ames:</b>" I used to be that way. Until I realized he needed more credit than I gave him. I understand it's hard to let loose but you should try...just a little, lol."</blockquote>




:lol:
Since I go out so rarely, it's just so hard for me to jot like, micro-manage things. He's SUCH a great dad and I make sure to tell him that.
But I will still call sometimes and ask stupid shit. Like "did you brushes their teeth?" :oops:

Thorian's Mommy 1 child; Westbrook, ME, United States 8397 posts
26th Nov '12
Quoting Mama Rice:" Can someone explain why they have kids with someone they can not trust to be home alone with their kids? ... [snip!] ... will harm their children, I mean they do not trust that they could take proper care of their kids without their wife/SO around)"


i made a post about this yesterday. ive been with SO for seven years and we just had our first baby. I fully trust SO with our son however our son is colicky and is having a hard time with transitions. im fine with leaving him alone with him for a few hours but if im gone all day thats different. SO works ten hours a night, i dont expect him to stay up
al with a colicky baby when i can pay an educated person to help care and teac!h my child.