I over head a father at a birthday party yesterday "name calling" his 5 year old. What is your thought about when parents call their child "Annoying" "Baby" "Your a bad boy/girl"
Is it really "deteriorating" to a child's self esteem as modern day psychologists make it seem? Does it matter how frequent a parent name calls a kid?
Idk. But I get frowned upon a lot for calling my kid spawn. And I tell my older one he is being annoying sometimes because he is. They seem to be just fine.
Eh, those ones.... I'm on the fence with (aside from baby, which I use as a term of endearment).
i tell my child he is being a brat, when he is being a brat. and i let him know that no one wants to hang out with him if he acts like that.
Certain thing bother me more than others. I don't like the "you are a bad boy/girl" but don't mind the "you're being a bad boy/girl or you're being a brat"
My dh tells ds all the time "oh you're such a baby" and it pisses me off! I HATE it. Cause he is a baby and crying is his main form of communication!
I call my kid butthead all the time, but as an endearing term. I dont agree with mean spirited name calling, like in your example. Sometimes I tell my son he is acting bad, but I never call him bad boy or tell him he IS bad.
Sorry if there are typos. I got a new phone and im not used to the typing yet
Quoting Michael Westen:" Idk. But I get frowned upon a lot for calling my kid spawn. And I tell my older one he is being annoying sometimes because he is. They seem to be just fine."
Spawn? People get pissed about that? :lol:
I tell my kids when they're being annoying. I don't tell my kid they're bad, but I have told them they're being bad.
Sometimes I tell my son that he is being annoying and I call both my kids baby.
I think there is a difference between the words you used in the OP and words like "worthless", "stupid", "No-good", "dumb", ect.
Quoting The Doctor:" Spawn? People get pissed about that? :lol:"
Yep! I have actually been bitched at about it probably 10 times in the last month alone. Lmao.
The only ones I don't care for is stupid, dumb, ignorant (and other things similar).
Telling a 5 year old they're being a baby is sometimes fitting. Or a brat. Or selfish. I mean, there is nothing wrong with pointing out the negative sides of their behavior. How else will they learn that it's unacceptable?
No I don't think so. I call my three year old a turd, badness, monster, etc. She is not sensitive at all, and she knows I'm joking bc I'm saying it in a playful tone. Plus I want to teach her not to take life or things people say too seriously. I don't want her to be super sensitive.
I think it depends a lot on the child's demeanor though. I'm sure I wouldn't do it as much or at all if I had a child whose feelings got hurt very easily.
I honestly think it has more to do with the tone the parent uses and the age of the child.
There is a difference between playing around and verbal abuse. If the parent is calling their child names out of anger or frustration and it's done repeatedly, I absolutely think it's damaging to a child. If it's done in a playful manner and the child is old enough to understand that the parent is playing with them, I think it's fine. Or if the child is old enough to handle what the parent is saying when it's said out of frustration, then it can be ok. For example, if my 13 year old son is being annoying, I will tell him to quit being annoying. If he's being a douche to his sister, I will tell him to quit being a douche to his sister. He can handle that.
I just told my child to quit being a shit head. Lol