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Name calling? DEBATE! MommaOfTwoLovies 2 kids; Massachusetts 7240 posts
26th Nov '12

I over head a father at a birthday party yesterday "name calling" his 5 year old. What is your thought about when parents call their child "Annoying" "Baby" "Your a bad boy/girl"



Is it really "deteriorating" to a child's self esteem as modern day psychologists make it seem? Does it matter how frequent a parent name calls a kid?



Just curious!

Robert Downey Jr. Zanzibar, Tanzania 16079 posts
26th Nov '12

Idk. But I get frowned upon a lot for calling my kid spawn. And I tell my older one he is being annoying sometimes because he is. They seem to be just fine.

The Doctor 2 kids; Whiskey Dick Mountain, WA, United States 59959 posts
26th Nov '12

Eh, those ones.... I'm on the fence with (aside from baby, which I use as a term of endearment).

user banned 2 kids; New York 34017 posts
26th Nov '12

i tell my child he is being a brat, when he is being a brat. and i let him know that no one wants to hang out with him if he acts like that.

Donna Jo Tanner 1 child; Beach Haven, New Jersey 6440 posts
26th Nov '12

Certain thing bother me more than others. I don't like the "you are a bad boy/girl" but don't mind the "you're being a bad boy/girl or you're being a brat"
My dh tells ds all the time "oh you're such a baby" and it pisses me off! I HATE it. Cause he is a baby and crying is his main form of communication!

Klaus 2 kids; Mississippi 24186 posts
26th Nov '12

I call my kid butthead all the time, but as an endearing term. I dont agree with mean spirited name calling, like in your example. Sometimes I tell my son he is acting bad, but I never call him bad boy or tell him he IS bad.



Sorry if there are typos. I got a new phone and im not used to the typing yet

The Doctor 2 kids; Whiskey Dick Mountain, WA, United States 59959 posts
26th Nov '12
Quoting Michael Westen:" Idk. But I get frowned upon a lot for calling my kid spawn. And I tell my older one he is being annoying sometimes because he is. They seem to be just fine."


Spawn? People get pissed about that? :lol:

Crystal 3 kids; Hephzibah, Georgia 15566 posts
26th Nov '12

I tell my kids when they're being annoying. I don't tell my kid they're bad, but I have told them they're being bad.

♥ Mrs. S ♥ Due September 20; 2 kids; Venezuela 13654 posts
26th Nov '12

Sometimes I tell my son that he is being annoying and I call both my kids baby.
I think there is a difference between the words you used in the OP and words like "worthless", "stupid", "No-good", "dumb", ect.

Robert Downey Jr. Zanzibar, Tanzania 16079 posts
26th Nov '12
Quoting The Doctor:" Spawn? People get pissed about that? :lol:"



Yep! I have actually been bitched at about it probably 10 times in the last month alone. Lmao.

O ♥ G 2 kids; Pride, Louisiana 10723 posts
26th Nov '12

No I don't think so. I call my three year old a turd, badness, monster, etc. She is not sensitive at all, and she knows I'm joking bc I'm saying it in a playful tone. Plus I want to teach her not to take life or things people say too seriously. I don't want her to be super sensitive.



I think it depends a lot on the child's demeanor though. I'm sure I wouldn't do it as much or at all if I had a child whose feelings got hurt very easily.

wombie 4 kids; Zimbabwe 73281 posts
26th Nov '12

I honestly think it has more to do with the tone the parent uses and the age of the child.



There is a difference between playing around and verbal abuse. If the parent is calling their child names out of anger or frustration and it's done repeatedly, I absolutely think it's damaging to a child. If it's done in a playful manner and the child is old enough to understand that the parent is playing with them, I think it's fine. Or if the child is old enough to handle what the parent is saying when it's said out of frustration, then it can be ok. For example, if my 13 year old son is being annoying, I will tell him to quit being annoying. If he's being a douche to his sister, I will tell him to quit being a douche to his sister. He can handle that.

Kimber-lily Due September 27 (girl); 4 kids; Nova Scotia 28962 posts
26th Nov '12

I just told my child to quit being a shit head. Lol

Amy {OneGirl, TwoBoys} 3 kids; Cincinnati, Oh, United States 24256 posts
26th Nov '12

i tell mine "stop being a bad boy/girl" not "you ARE a bad boy/girl" theres a difference in my eyes

★Butter.Bean★ 1 child; Fort Lauderdale, Florida 402 posts
26th Nov '12

I call my daughter a booger butt & a boobie monster but I don't think she understands what I'm saying yet.



People who call their kids bitches & whores & bad names like that are def damaging their kids. Occasionally saying your being annoying, or you are acting bratty (when they are) probably isn't damaging. But if you are saying every single day, over and over that is something that sticks in your head, ya know?