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drunk faith1 1 child; Alabama 10081 posts
26th Nov '12
Quoting Big'n:" Op. if you love him, the best you can do is support him and try to get him the help he needs. He sounds ... [snip!] ... a reason he hasn't left. He may say he doesn't want to be with you, but maybe he just doesn't want to be anywhere. He's numb."

This. Couldn't explain it better myself.

JΔS Georgia 70894 posts
26th Nov '12
Quoting Lilly'smommy5:" You may or many not want to hear this.. but I'd dump his ass. Any man who has no emotion towards you ... [snip!] ... breaking it off before he starts looking for someone else that he does have emotions for. I'm sorry you're going through this."

You would dump someone you loved because they were going through an issue? That's not what love is. You don't say "f**k you" to your partner when they are dealing with personal and life situations. You're suppose to be there for them. You must be one shitty ass gf/wife.

Lilly and Laya's momma 2 kids; 4 angel babies; Chesapeake, Virginia 7824 posts
26th Nov '12
Quoting Jas ♥:" You would dump someone you loved because they were going through an issue? That's not what love is. You ... [snip!] ... they are dealing with personal and life situations. You're suppose to be there for them. You must be one shitty ass gf/wife."

This!! Sounds like when things get difficult she is the type that will just say F U and leave

Jerk Horse Here, CA, United States 65152 posts
status 26th Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Jas ♥:</b>" You would dump someone you loved because they were going through an issue? That's not what love is. You ... [snip!] ... they are dealing with personal and life situations. You're suppose to be there for them. You must be one shitty ass gf/wife."</blockquote>




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Executionista 3 kids; Chatsworth, Georgia 565 posts
26th Nov '12

He said he's depressed and he doesn't think the fighting will change. He said he needs a break from everything and a change and he wants to leave by himself. But he won't go

JΔS Georgia 70894 posts
26th Nov '12
Quoting Executionista:" He said he's depressed and he doesn't think the fighting will change. He said he needs a break from everything and a change and he wants to leave by himself. But he won't go"


I've gone into a depression and was in complete denial about it. So just because he says he isn't depressed, doesn't mean he truly isn't. What has been going on with him lately? Any changes in life? Has he done this before?

Severus Snape Due March 15; 1 child; Tennessee 3511 posts
26th Nov '12
Quoting Executionista:" He did tell me he's depressed but he's not good with communicating. He said he doesn't want to be with me, yet he won't leave? That's the part that's strange to me"


This is why I said dump him. He may very well be depressed but If a guy was telling me that he didn't want to be with me anymore and felt no emotions towards me then I'd leave him. No reason to stick around with someone who doesn't want to be with me. But maybe that's not what's going on. It was just my first impression.

Severus Snape Due March 15; 1 child; Tennessee 3511 posts
26th Nov '12
Quoting Jas ♥:" You would dump someone you loved because they were going through an issue? That's not what love is. You ... [snip!] ... they are dealing with personal and life situations. You're suppose to be there for them. You must be one shitty ass gf/wife."


That's not what I meant. I was under the impression that he just walked up to her and said "I don't feel anything towards you anymore and I don't want to be with you." not that he was going through a hard time. Obviously if he's going through something than I would say differently. Maybe I had the wrong impression. Way to be a b***h though :D

Severus Snape Due March 15; 1 child; Tennessee 3511 posts
26th Nov '12

If it is just depression and not him being an a*****e then obviously I'd recommend supporting him in any way you can. Recommend therapy or even medication and watch for any negative signs. I hope he feels better and you both work it all out.

BeccaSauraus 1 child; Baton Rouge, Louisiana 1864 posts
26th Nov '12
Quoting Executionista:" So my boyfriend of 2 years tells me the day before thanksgiving he's lost all emotion toward me, but ... [snip!] ... income and the total ability to leave. We've been arguing more lately, but I didn't know it would come to this. Any advice?"


This literally just happened to my friend. Turns out he was cheating on her, and now they're divorced.

Severus Snape Due March 15; 1 child; Tennessee 3511 posts
26th Nov '12
Quoting BeccaSauraus:" This literally just happened to my friend. Turns out he was cheating on her, and now they're divorced."


Exactly my concerns. Good luck OP!! I really hope it all works out :)

Sarah ♥ K&K 2 kids; 2 angel babies; Oceanside, CA, United States 112436 posts
status 26th Nov '12

I think he'd be more eager to leave her if he had another relationship going.

BeccaSauraus 1 child; Baton Rouge, Louisiana 1864 posts
26th Nov '12
Quoting ♡Sarah♡ + 2:" I think he'd be more eager to leave her if he had another relationship going."


That's what I thought when my friend told me about him acting this way. She came home one day to him f**king another woman. So, it happens. He said he had no feelings and did exactly the same things OP is describing.