I had tons of family in and out of my room while I was in labor and I never ended up pushing, my body just would not dilate! But I only wanted my mom in the room when the actual pushing started, my SO wasn't around.
I ended up with a C-section and had to be put under for it, so normally no one would be allowed in the room with me for that. Luckily my mom works in labor and delivery so she was allowed to stay. Whew.
Quoting *~Stella's Momma~*:" I had tons of family in and out of my room while I was in labor and I never ended up pushing, my body ... [snip!] ... one would be allowed in the room with me for that. Luckily my mom works in labor and delivery so she was allowed to stay. Whew."
Quoting Coffee Milk:" Just DH, how can anyone be mad that you want just your family there for the beginning of the childs life?"
apparently people feel like your "taking away from them" i begged for it just to be DH & my mom from day 1 but while in labor i could hardly hold my head up & my mom, her SO, DH, & grandma ended up in there until time to push :/ MIL came back but only after she made DH come ask me if it was ok (before i got sick) talk about being pissed off exspecially since i couldn't tell DH to send everone packing!!
Quoting Ruby Runion-Brown:" apparently people feel like your "taking away from them" i begged for it just to be DH & my mom ... [snip!] ... me if it was ok (before i got sick) talk about being pissed off exspecially since i couldn't tell DH to send everone packing!!"
That'd be awful! I would feel too bad telling anyone to leave at all. But if there were people in there that I didn't want, I'd be so irritated and stressed out.
Quoting Audra's mommy:" That'd be awful! I would feel too bad telling anyone to leave at all. But if there were people in there that I didn't want, I'd be so irritated and stressed out."
before the epi i had a morphene shot. it made me sicker than hell i couldn't even talk without wanting to puke so telling DH to make them leave or me telling them was extreamlly difficult. i didn't feel bad for telling people no before i was in labor & if i hadn't been sick i wouldn't have felt bad making them leave!! only reason i had my grandma stay is because they made mom & DH hold my legs while pushing & i wanted pictures lol i told mom the other day because of the shit she pulled she wouldn't be allowed back next time & she believes me (but i would let her just had to scare her out of the crap for next time)
Quoting Audra's mommy:" That's lucky!"
I know. I was pretty traumatized by my whole birth experience, still am. I'm just thankful my mom could be there and tell me about her first cries and all that. I'm so traumatized by it, I almost think I wouldn't want to have anymore kids.
The c-section was necessary, I just wish they could have gotten me numb enough to not have to put me under. I mean, granted...my baby is happy, healthy and awesome...but, if I had to do it all over again...ugh.
i had my S/O, mom, sister and S/O's mom ( not by choice LO came way to fast to get her out of the room )
my mom was the one mostly helping me ( i even almost peed on her and my sister put her head literally in my coochie when LO was coming out ) LOL
Dont call her when you go into labor? :lol: ha, thats what I would do. But then again my MIL annoys my life.
I would just tell her you changed your mind, or dont even tell her have DH tell her.
First just my step mom. The second DH and my step mom. DH just kind of stood there and watched while my step mom talked me through it and helped
Last time it was DH and my mom. This time it's just going to be DH but that's b/c we don't live near my mom anymore. MIL is coming into town tomorrow but not to be at the birth (if he comes while she's here). She's mainly here to watch our 13 month old while we're at the hospital. If she leaves before he's born we're SOL because we don't know anyone here :/
I had my mom, my bd, his step mom, and my grandma. I really wanted my grandma in there with me because she broke down crying when I told her it was going to be just the three, so when I was ready to push I begged them to let my grandma stay with me. I don't think it would be rude if you just explained to her that you don't want her in there.
Quoting TheyCallMeMOMMY♥:" Dont call her when you go into labor? :lol: ha, thats what I would do. But then again my MIL annoys my life. I would just tell her you changed your mind, or dont even tell her have DH tell her."
Haha! I feel the same way :oops:
She's a nice lady and she's helpful but she's SO overbearing. SO has always been a spoiled little momma's boy and she's having a hard time letting go and allowing him to have his own life outside of her. And she always thinks she's right. Whether it's a subject she knows anything about or not. It's just annoying. When SO and I first moved in together he would drive me CRAZY with it. If I asked him a question he didn't know the answer to, he'd immediately pull his phone out to call her. At first I let it go but after awhile I was like ok seriously STOP DOING THAT.
But she's just kind of controlling and while I like her, I just think it's awkward to have her in there. It'd stress me out. SO didn't understand it but I told him if you've never seen me naked, you don't need to be in there. Think how you'd feel if my mom had her face all up in your crotch if you were the one that had to go through it.
Wow after reading all this i feel really lucky that my husband was a lot of help. I mean i didn't go natural, but i wanted to. It was my choice not to though. I didn't have preterm labor or any strong BH so i didn't know what it was going to feel like so when labor started out as just cramps i was fine, but after they were 3-5 minutes apart and lasting a minute and we were on the way to the hospital. I was like hmmmm no way i'm going natural and was begging for IV meds when we got there. DH kept telling me how good i was doing and tried getting me to breath (i tend not to breathe when i am hurting) He actually almost started crying because he saw how much pain i was in. After i got IV meds, before they broke my water, he cuddled with me in the bed too. He was up by my head the whole time and i kept telling him not to look because i didn't want him scarred for life lol. And MIL helped out tremendously and took pics, not of my vag though, although i do wish someone had gotten a picture of him crowning and coming out :/ better luck next time i guess. Next time i am going to beg my mom and if not her then it will just be DH and MIL again and maybe my best friend or one cousin whom is like a best friend.
With my son I had my SO and my mom in the room the whole time, with others popping in and out to see how I was doing throughout the labour. Only my mom and my SO were there while I was pushing though. With this baby, it will be my SO and hopefully my MIL, as long as she can get into town for when I go into labour. I wish my mom was still around to be with me for this baby also, but I'm thankful that I got to have her there for one of them at least!
With my first only her father was in the room for me. My water broke two months early and so I was on hospitalized bed rest until it was decided that I would be allowed to continue the birht (ten days later!) My MIL at the time was in town staying with us and she drove me absolutely bat shit crazy! She came to the hospital afterwards and I made the nurses make her leave after about 5 minutes of listening to her poisen bullshit fall out of her mouth. My ex was there thru the laboring and the pushing but he might as well have been somewhere else; all he did was complain about headaches and having a nisebleed. He even got shitty with the nursing staff when they wouldn't give him tylenol. I really really REALLy wanted my mom there with me, I was young and so very scared.
That was 8 years and a lifetime ago. I am due on Chirstmas Eve, and choose only to have my Hubby there with me. We have no family here, but many close, family type friends. (We are both active duty Mil. ) My mother and probably MIL will be arriving in the days after the birth, as we all planned ahead of time, to help out at home and visit with our new addition, but even if they all lived here in driving distance I wouldn't let anyone other than those i want to be there, and thankfully, my husband knows my wishes! Sorry to all w/bad exp.'s Child birth is about mom and baby, most importantly, what MOM wants, not what everyone is your family wants. Maybe you could talk with your Dr or MW before hand and let them know who you want in with you. At the hospital I will be delivering at, no one can just walk in, the nurses come and ask permission first, and I am greatful, being in the Army, it seems like every supervisor I have thinks they can just walk in and out whenever they please! Best of luck to you and remember it is your baby, and no one else's.