Tarynosaurus Rex San Antonio, Texas 1271 posts
27th Nov '12
Quoting MysticWitchKat:" I never understood when people say there is not time. I mean seriously sex doesn't take that long."

It does with Briant and me. lmao.
But that's because we go at it multiple rounds.

MysticWitchKat 2052 posts
27th Nov '12
Quoting ★Bαtgirl:" Then you've been having some pretty shitty sex. o.o "

Im not saying you can't have long sessions. Just you can also have 15-25 minute ones as well.

NerfHerder 2 kids; Denver, CO, United States 5786 posts
status 27th Nov '12
Quoting MysticWitchKat:" Im not saying you can't have long sessions. Just you can also have 15-25 minute ones as well."

Ha. 25 minutes is a good day for SO. But he accomplishes a lot in though 25 minutes.

Burs92447 TTC since Mar 2009; California 157 posts
27th Nov '12
Quoting Ashley Yarber:" If you wanna go j**k o*f in the shower, DO NOT ask me to come in there and keep you company. It's weird, because I'm not involved, yet he wants me to be present. Just disgusting."

He probably is turned on by masturbating with you right there and not knowing.

MysticWitchKat 2052 posts
27th Nov '12
Quoting ★Bαtgirl:" o.o Yeah, we don't have sessions like that. Ours are 30 minutes or more... And 15-20 minutes can feel ... [snip!] ... minutes can feel like FOREVER when you have a kid, LOL. Especially when that kid wakes up RIGHT as you're both finishing up. "

That long an my vagina be a painin

MysticWitchKat 2052 posts
27th Nov '12
Quoting ★Bαtgirl:" Heh. We've gone 3+ hours before. Good times, man. Good times. "


MysticWitchKat 2052 posts
27th Nov '12
Quoting ★Bαtgirl:" :lol: We have good stamina, and SO is able to finish 2-3 times in a session if we're trying for good long romp. "

Yeah most guys get soft after so that probaly does help your cause :-P

EnnaBennaBanana Due February 2; 2 kids; Maryland 6195 posts
27th Nov '12
Quoting Ashley Yarber:" Almost all, if not all, men masturbate. My boyfriend is a man. This is kinda obvious. It bothers me, ... [snip!] ... the day. I feel like he has two sex lives. One, with himself. And ours, which is steadily decreasing. It's so upsetting. :/"

In my house p**n is a big no no for religious and non religious reasons.
Masturbation is ok as long as we are masturbating about only eachother.
Ofcourse if it became something that he became obsessed with and he did it more then we had sex, that would be an issue.
Try and join in on it if you know he's doing it maybe go and "help" him. haha.

About the shower thing when you were in there with him, I might be a bit weirded out honestly and I'd talk to him about atleast letting me know before he goes and does that.

Alisa Intactivist 18 kids; Lansdale, Pennsylvania 466 posts
28th Nov '12

OP, perhaps your SO wants you in the room to hear/ see you -- I can understand you being a little weirded out that he wasn't telling you what he was doing in there but if you know now and he still calls you in the bathroom, maybe he's trying to hint at something!! If you're not interested, let him know right off the bat... and if you are feeling up to it, get in that shower! You said you're not getting much action and he's masturbating more... are you talking to him about why that might be?
As far as the toy situation... get a non-phallic shaped vibrator such as a bullet, one that's waterproof... bring it in the shower and use it together. He will totally change his mind about you using toys on yourself.

κατι 1 child; Memphis, Tennessee 3143 posts
28th Nov '12

I don't see anything wrong with it,Or watching p**n while doing it. Boys will be boys.