Not to put my business on blast or anything but I don't want to bug my 'friends' with my relationship BS & just want to get this off my chest & tell someone. Venting starts now. So last night at the dinner table my BD decided to be a dickhead to me in front of my dad. & Did my dad say shit? Nope. He was basically laughing with him. We were talking about how the new phone has Windows 8 in it & He was basically saying I know nothing about anything. Just a little invite of how he was acting. "I'm going to be the condescending willy wonka (with his hands on his face) Please, tell me what windows 8 is.", & "You'd think you'd know stuff while sitting at home all day watching Teen mom" & My dad's like "Right?!" Wellllllllllllllll mother fuckers, The internet is a powerful tool. Whipped it out, showed them & They shut up.. My dad's like "How about them lakers?" like wtf. He always just sits there while niks talking to me like shit. He doesn't care. & I know my dad likes BD more even though I'm his daughter. BD always acts like that too. Like he knows everything. So after that I was like Cause I'm so f**king stupid right?! & he sat there dumb founded. I walked out into the living room an a couple min later went back in the kitchen & he's dillydalling with something and I'm like Are you going to apologize? And he goes "Idunno" So I'm like ok and walked out. Seriously an hour later he apologizes (which was shitty) he didn't even walk into the living room, he was just standing in the hallway. & he went to bed. And this morning he's actually talking to me (which he hasn't been, hes been super distant & been a dickhead.) I forgive him obviously but i'm still like eh f**k you.
It's funny too because when he pushes me away is the time he starts talking to me. & at that point i'm so numb I don't even care what he has to say.
I'm still pissed off. and I'm starting to get depressed about everything. It's all building up and idk what to even do.
What I can't wrap my head around is how you would even want to be with/stay with someone who talks to you like that.
<blockquote><b>Quoting Crystal Marie S.:</b>" What I can't wrap my head around is how you would even want to be with/stay with someone who talks to you like that."</blockquote>
:!: hell,your Dad isn't responsible for your business. If your SO is treating you like shit that is for YOU to handle. :roll: stand up for yourself,don't expect someone else to do it for you. If you won't do it for yourself why should someone else?
Why are you with a guy who speaks to you so condescendingly? Don't put up with that shit. Your father should definitely not be encouraging it and laughing with you. Not people you need in your life. You have every right to be furious with both of them but it's up to you to stand up for yourself. You deserve better.
Especially since this is making you depressed I'd put a stop to it right away. Confront them both about how they are making you feel. Maybe the don't understand how they are hurting you. No matter what, I wish you the best OP
Maybe since you let your BD treat you like that your dad is just assuming that's your relationships sense of humour and going along with it for you?
I'm sure if he realised completely that you do not like it, it's not funny and you want it to stop, he would stop.
Were they just joking or being dickbags?
Sounds like there's a deeper issue with you and BD that you may want to address
Quoting Cariad (SuperKink):" Maybe since you let your BD treat you like that your dad is just assuming that's your relationships sense ... [snip!] ... it for you? I'm sure if he realised completely that you do not like it, it's not funny and you want it to stop, he would stop."
And I agree with the person below...seems to be a deeper issue with BD, I'm an in your face kind of person. I wouldn't deal with that shit. You definitely need to sit down and talk with both of them how you feel. If they continue to do what they've been doing then you should leave. You shouldn't be in a relationship that makes you depressed, it's not healthy for you or your baby.
I honestly don't even have an explanation. I guess I've gotten so use to how he treats me that it's just easier not to care. Or at least I try not to let it bother me & it usually backfires into a bigger issue than what it originally was. Now Idk if I even want to try anymore. I like don't even know what to say to him... my mind right now is blank