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Baby shower for 3rd kid? Ellie. 34 kids; Arizona 25371 posts
28th Nov '12

Well, I guess 2nd... I dont think the first one counts, it was 18 years ago. My youngest is 21 months, so we just had a shower for her in Jan of 2011.
My MIL and my mom both threw baby showers for me with Olivia who is almost 2 but (2 different states, different groups of people). My SIL wants to give us one for this baby. I dont want to be tacky... it IS our fault that we gave away ALL of our baby stuff because we weren't going to have anymore (or at least not for a looong time).



What do I do? If someone else wants to do it, do I go along with it? I never mentioned it the thought to anyone so I'm not sure how to react.

✰ Mrs. B ✰ 2 kids; Texas 2640 posts
28th Nov '12

Well you probably wouldn't be using a bunch of stuff from 18 years ago anyways, and from what I've heard if its a big gap between kids, it's totally exceptible to have another baby shower.

Supafly★ 2 kids; Poland 14304 posts
28th Nov '12

I don't think it's tacky at all. You gave away all your stuff and your last one was 18 years ago. My family goes by more than 5 years ago or different gender.

user banned Ohio 4193 posts
28th Nov '12

If she wants to throw it I say let her. Just let her know that you would prefer to keep it as low key as possible to avoid being tacky about it. I really only think it's tacky when people throw their own or demand a baby shower after multiple kids.

Ellie. 34 kids; Arizona 25371 posts
28th Nov '12

No I'm sorry... My youngest is 21 months old... I wasn't clear on that. lol

Supafly★ 2 kids; Poland 14304 posts
28th Nov '12
Quoting Man. Bear. Pig.:" No I'm sorry... My youngest is 21 months old... I wasn't clear on that. lol"


So what happened 18 years ago? Your first kid, right? And you didn't have a shower for your second?

GirlsHaveCOOTIES 3 kids; Minsk, Belarus 15331 posts
28th Nov '12

I'm only having a baby shower if this baby is a girl, I have two boys.

user banned Ohio 4193 posts
28th Nov '12
Quoting Man. Bear. Pig.:" No I'm sorry... My youngest is 21 months old... I wasn't clear on that. lol"


I knew that... my answer remains the same :)

Ellie. 34 kids; Arizona 25371 posts
28th Nov '12
Quoting Supafly★:" So what happened 18 years ago? Your first kid, right? And you didn't have a shower for your second? "


I did... I have to totally reword my post. It sounds confusing. No, my MIL and mom threw me one for Olivia, born in 2011.

Daenerys Stormborn Due March 19 (girl); TTC since May 2013; 1 child; ., Nb, Canada 1192 posts
status 28th Nov '12

Our first we had two showers, same issue with Seperate families. When we have our second we will probably just have a meet the baby party. Our first we didn't have showers until after she was born since we had a gender surprise. We/our families made sure we had the necessities we needed.



I don't think it's tacky if someone wants to throw you one, but I wouldn't expect gifts like I would have for my first.

castaway 2 kids; Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania 19525 posts
status 28th Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting ZenMama:</b>" If she wants to throw it I say let her. Just let her know that you would prefer to keep it as low key ... [snip!] ... being tacky about it. I really only think it's tacky when people throw their own or demand a baby shower after multiple kids."</blockquote>



I agree with this.



My coworkers threw me a surprise shower with #2. It wasn't tacky because I had nothing to do with it, lol.

♥MamaToS&O♥ 2 kids; ., IL, United States 11787 posts
status 28th Nov '12

I dont see a problem with it at all.

Ellie. 34 kids; Arizona 25371 posts
28th Nov '12
Quoting ♡Mommy to A♡:" Our first we had two showers, same issue with Seperate families. When we have our second we will probably ... [snip!] ... I don't think it's tacky if someone wants to throw you one, but I wouldn't expect gifts like I would have for my first."


Agreed. I dont even think I'm going to register anywhere. Im fine with or without. I have a lot of amazing friends willing to donate boy clothes if it's a boy! lol

Supafly★ 2 kids; Poland 14304 posts
28th Nov '12
Quoting Man. Bear. Pig.:" I did... I have to totally reword my post. It sounds confusing. No, my MIL and mom threw me one for Olivia, born in 2011."


Okay, so either way if your SIL wants to throw you one, it's not tacky to accept. It's only tacky when you ask for one or throw it yourself IMO......unless you had the kid more than 5 years ago. But that's pretty subjective.

scgALusc 3 kids; South Carolina 1716 posts
28th Nov '12

I don't see a problem if someone is wanting to throw it for you.