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Baby shower for 3rd kid? Ellie. 2 kids; Arizona 25439 posts
Nov 28th '12

Well, I guess 2nd... I dont think the first one counts, it was 18 years ago. My youngest is 21 months, so we just had a shower for her in Jan of 2011.
My MIL and my mom both threw baby showers for me with Olivia who is almost 2 but (2 different states, different groups of people). My SIL wants to give us one for this baby. I dont want to be tacky... it IS our fault that we gave away ALL of our baby stuff because we weren't going to have anymore (or at least not for a looong time).



What do I do? If someone else wants to do it, do I go along with it? I never mentioned it the thought to anyone so I'm not sure how to react.

✰ Boo ✰ 2 kids; Texas 2670 posts
Nov 28th '12

Well you probably wouldn't be using a bunch of stuff from 18 years ago anyways, and from what I've heard if its a big gap between kids, it's totally exceptible to have another baby shower.

user banned Ohio 4193 posts
Nov 28th '12

If she wants to throw it I say let her. Just let her know that you would prefer to keep it as low key as possible to avoid being tacky about it. I really only think it's tacky when people throw their own or demand a baby shower after multiple kids.

Ellie. 2 kids; Arizona 25439 posts
Nov 28th '12

No I'm sorry... My youngest is 21 months old... I wasn't clear on that. lol

GirlsHaveCOOTIES 4 kids; Bonnyville, AB, Canada 15354 posts
Nov 28th '12

I'm only having a baby shower if this baby is a girl, I have two boys.

user banned Ohio 4193 posts
Nov 28th '12
Quoting Man. Bear. Pig.:" No I'm sorry... My youngest is 21 months old... I wasn't clear on that. lol"


I knew that... my answer remains the same :)

Ellie. 2 kids; Arizona 25439 posts
Nov 28th '12
Quoting Supafly★:" So what happened 18 years ago? Your first kid, right? And you didn't have a shower for your second? "


I did... I have to totally reword my post. It sounds confusing. No, my MIL and mom threw me one for Olivia, born in 2011.

Daenerys Stormborn 2 kids; ., Nb, Canada 1273 posts
Nov 28th '12

Our first we had two showers, same issue with Seperate families. When we have our second we will probably just have a meet the baby party. Our first we didn't have showers until after she was born since we had a gender surprise. We/our families made sure we had the necessities we needed.



I don't think it's tacky if someone wants to throw you one, but I wouldn't expect gifts like I would have for my first.

castaway 2 kids; Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania 20306 posts
Nov 28th '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting ZenMama:</b>" If she wants to throw it I say let her. Just let her know that you would prefer to keep it as low key ... [snip!] ... being tacky about it. I really only think it's tacky when people throw their own or demand a baby shower after multiple kids."</blockquote>



I agree with this.



My coworkers threw me a surprise shower with #2. It wasn't tacky because I had nothing to do with it, lol.

Ellie. 2 kids; Arizona 25439 posts
Nov 28th '12
Quoting ♡Mommy to A♡:" Our first we had two showers, same issue with Seperate families. When we have our second we will probably ... [snip!] ... I don't think it's tacky if someone wants to throw you one, but I wouldn't expect gifts like I would have for my first."


Agreed. I dont even think I'm going to register anywhere. Im fine with or without. I have a lot of amazing friends willing to donate boy clothes if it's a boy! lol

scgALusc 3 kids; South Carolina 1716 posts
Nov 28th '12

I don't see a problem if someone is wanting to throw it for you.

Baby_Majick Due May 1 (twins); 4 kids; 3 angel babies; Sullivan, Missouri 4129 posts
Nov 28th '12
Quoting 4+1=5! Due in August!:" I'm only having a baby shower if this baby is a girl, I have two boys."


I have three girls.... and this is our first boy... I want a baby shower... since I technically only had a baby shower with my first 8 years ago.... but the family did do stuff for the second and third. I had no baby stuff until I went and bought most of my baby stuff, but I think a baby shower would be so much fun!!

Dylan&Brandon'sMommy TTC since Sep 2014; 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Prescott, Arizona 1380 posts
Nov 28th '12
Quoting Man. Bear. Pig.:" Well, I guess 2nd... I dont think the first one counts, it was 18 years ago. My youngest is 21 months, ... [snip!] ... If someone else wants to do it, do I go along with it? I never mentioned it the thought to anyone so I'm not sure how to react."

I would let her throw it for you. I mean it's not like you asked her to or anything and it seems like a super nice gester on her behalf. I know that I want a baby shower with this one so we can get some cloths and diapers, and hopefully maybe a crib or money to get one since we never had one with our son. I would let her.

Ellie. 2 kids; Arizona 25439 posts
Nov 28th '12

Okay. Thanks for the opinions! I guess I'll just roll with it! No harm in that I suppose! I just want to get together and see everyone, esp since she and everyone who would come is back in california and we live in arizona now.

Dylan&Brandon'sMommy TTC since Sep 2014; 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Prescott, Arizona 1380 posts
Nov 28th '12
Quoting Man. Bear. Pig.:" Okay. Thanks for the opinions! I guess I'll just roll with it! No harm in that I suppose! I just want ... [snip!] ... to get together and see everyone, esp since she and everyone who would come is back in california and we live in arizona now."

That sounds perfect!!