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17mo discipline? Norah&Ellie's Momma 2 kids; Kentucky 4156 posts
28th Nov '12

So, DD just doesn't listen to me. EVER.



She used to stop doing something when I told her no, and she'd put stuff down when I told her to drop it.



Well now it's "no" this and "no" that. :roll:



She's been so bad since she started getting another tooth.



Anyway, how can I discipline her? I smack her hand when she's really bad or does something dangerous, but I don't spank. Would timeout work for her age? How do/did you discipline your 17mo?

. Way, MA, United States 73770 posts
28th Nov '12

I wouldn't smack her hands or use discipline. She should be really easy to distract and redirect at this age. It makes sense that she's going to repeat what is done to her. If you don't want her to say no all of the time don't just say no to her. Get on her level and explain it "Ouch. We don't touch that. That's an owie" etc. Or "Uh oh, that's Daddy's. That could break. Let's go play with your toys". It doesn't help to say no all of the time imo. I think it just makes everyone involved more frustrated. Explain it to her and then remove her to another area and distract her with another toy or something. Try to make sure things that can be broken or hurt her are put up out of reach, she's in the age of exploring. She wants to know everything about everything and has* little to no impulse control, so it's not her fault if something is left in her reach.

user banned Des Moines, Iowa 1848 posts
28th Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting jordan.ℓeigh✿:</b>" So, DD just doesn't listen to me. EVER. She used to stop doing something when I told her no, and she'd ... [snip!] ... really bad or does something dangerous, but I don't spank. Would timeout work for her age? How do/did you discipline your 17mo?"</blockquote>




Timeout? No way. This is not a concept try can grasp. Sometimes they do need quite time (or you need quiet time) if they get out of control, but that's different from what I view as a timeout.
Pop on the hand and removing whatever object was the root of the problem is hat I typically do. Then offer them a couple of chances to obey, and after they have shown you they won't, completely remove the privilege/item they were after. Whether that is yourself, a toy, a food item, kids only learn by seeing thy consequences are real and lasting.

Amanda[expecting #2!] 2 kids; Texas 286 posts
28th Nov '12

I used to take away her toys and put her in her room for five to ten minutes when she ignored my no's, then she finally got it in her head that when mommy says no it means no. Now that she's three still basically do the same thing take away her stuff no TV no crayons no toys, and give her time outs that are 10 to 15 minutes long unless she keeps misbehaving.

Norah&Ellie's Momma 2 kids; Kentucky 4156 posts
28th Nov '12
Quoting Δ ☮ ∂:" I wouldn't smack her hands or use discipline. She should be really easy to distract and redirect at this ... [snip!] ... everything about everything and have little to no impulse control, so it's not her fault if something is left in her reach. "


I'll try all of this today and see how it goes. :) Thanks.

IOnlyMakeBoys (B.B.M) 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Texas 4754 posts
28th Nov '12
Quoting Safka9973:" <blockquote><b>Quoting jordan.ℓeigh✿:</b>" So, DD just doesn't listen to ... [snip!] ... they were after. Whether that is yourself, a toy, a food item, kids only learn by seeing thy consequences are real and lasting."


lol a 17 month old can and will grasp the concept of timeout my son did at 11 months and was fine with it took a few trys but it worked he is three and everyone that sees him act up then go to timeout says oh my God your child listens so well my child wouldn't do that. They are young yes but they are like sponges and can comprehend a lot more then most people give them credit for.

Rachie.luv♡ 2 kids; El Paso, Texas 14512 posts
status 28th Nov '12

I tell my son no too often. Too much and I. Trying to break that. Sometimes ill pop his hand a little but he thinks its funny so that's not done often. We just go back to his toys. A lot through out the day. He's not into the things he use to be into as much. Like yhe DVDs. Or trying to unplug the lamp. I just never get rest lol. But he's down to one nap now so between that naps if he's too wild and just not listening he will go in his crib and he just chills in there talking calming down.

Norah&Ellie's Momma 2 kids; Kentucky 4156 posts
28th Nov '12
Quoting Rachie.luv♡:" I tell my son no too often. Too much and I. Trying to break that. Sometimes ill pop his hand a little ... [snip!] ... that naps if he's too wild and just not listening he will go in his crib and he just chills in there talking calming down."


DD stopped taking two naps when she was like 11 months old. :(



I tell her no too often, too. It's just what my mind goes to when she's about to pull the whole stack of diapers down, etc. Lol.

IOnlyMakeBoys (B.B.M) 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Texas 4754 posts
28th Nov '12
Quoting jordan.ℓeigh✿:" DD stopped taking two naps when she was like 11 months old. :( I tell her no too often, too. It's just what my mind goes to when she's about to pull the whole stack of diapers down, etc. Lol."


If you say no right off that is ok just explain why you said it after I often times tell my son no you can do that because -------- then hes fine.

. Way, MA, United States 73770 posts
28th Nov '12
Quoting jordan.ℓeigh✿:" I'll try all of this today and see how it goes. :) Thanks."

Good luck. :)

Norah&Ellie's Momma 2 kids; Kentucky 4156 posts
28th Nov '12
Quoting Mylittleone's (B.B.M):" If you say no right off that is ok just explain why you said it after I often times tell my son no you can do that because -------- then hes fine."


Yeah, I always explain everything to her. "No, you can't do that, it will hurt you." "No you can't do that it will make a mess" Etc.



She's really a good toddler, always happy and usually behaves very well. She is just so grumpy from teething and also I think she misses her daddy. He's at work all the time.