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Amelia [26 wks Boy!] Due July 20; 4 angel babies; Tallahassee, Florida 14359 posts
28th Nov '12
Quoting Tiger Lily ♥:" Me, too. Serve him? Uhh............................This is 2012. Women aren't here solely to "serve" men anymore."


It's a religious thing.

SR ♥ 1 child; V, AR, United States 7818 posts
28th Nov '12
Quoting Amelia [12 Weeks]:" It's a religious thing."


Religious or not, it's a pretty dated and pathetic way of thinking.

Leisurely Duchess 1 child; Monterey, California 25884 posts
28th Nov '12
Quoting Amelia [12 Weeks]:" It's a religious thing."


Still 2012 :lol:

mamaluvsher4babies 36 kids; California 4230 posts
28th Nov '12

I do not think she is an idiot at all. Some women still like it when men have the lead roll. I don't see what the big deal is. If he is loving and caring that is all that should matter. As long as people are happy in their marriage, then yea for them.

The Time Police TTC since Apr 2014; 1 angel baby; Cold Lake, AB, Canada 33303 posts
28th Nov '12
Quoting Tiger Lily ♥:" Me, too. Serve him? Uhh............................This is 2012. Women aren't here solely to "serve" men anymore."


I have a friend who always posts things like this. I don't agree with it, it is pretty dated.

Nathan Young 2 kids; Syracuse, New York 57578 posts
28th Nov '12
Quoting mamaluvsher4babies:" I do not think she is an idiot at all. Some women still like it when men have the lead roll. I don't ... [snip!] ... If he is loving and caring that is all that should matter. As long as people are happy in their marriage, then yea for them."


Yeah, but from what it sounds like, although he's loving and caring, she is not happy.



She doesn't want the role, but doesn't respect her husband because he doesn't want it, either. IMO, that's what's wrong here. This is not a relationship that both people are happy in traditional roles.

I'm His Amy He's My Rory 2 kids; Caldwell, Idaho 49251 posts
28th Nov '12
Quoting Amelia [12 Weeks]:" It's a religious thing."


I'm what's considered a "conservative" Christian and I don't serve my husband.. None of the women I know do lol. They respect them, their opinions and headship but don't serve lol

justanothamotha Due January 20; 130 kids; Climax, Michigan 5120 posts
28th Nov '12
Quoting I'm His Amy He's My Rory:" I think she probably means leads in discipline, making the children obey, planning things for the family, ... [snip!] ... for the family, saying "We do this at ____" whatever, making decisions about what person does what chore and stuff like that."

Well then she'd hate my Dh. He does none of that...really, ever. LOL

I'm His Amy He's My Rory 2 kids; Caldwell, Idaho 49251 posts
28th Nov '12
Quoting justanothamotha:" Well then she'd hate my Dh. He does none of that...really, ever. LOL"


Mine either. I pretty much handle the day to day life. We discuss major things together but he leaves most things up to me. Like I said before, he's only put his foot down once and that was involving my mother. He'd just bought me a $300 mixer I'd been wanting for years, and she expected to get to take it out of our house (it's like 40lbs and she can barely get herself up and down our 3 flights of stairs) to her house just to bake with it. He told her ABSOLUTELY NOT because he knew if it broke I'd be out my 2 week old mixer because my father would refuse to replace it.

Ꭶwan♥Nemo 1 child; Kansas City, Missouri 7416 posts
28th Nov '12

I guess i kind of get it. My family is full of NOTHING but dominate men. I do not and will not date men that dont have that type of dominate personality because in my head I will view him as weak.

Amelia [26 wks Boy!] Due July 20; 4 angel babies; Tallahassee, Florida 14359 posts
28th Nov '12
Quoting I'm His Amy He's My Rory:" I'm what's considered a "conservative" Christian and I don't serve my husband.. None of the women I know do lol. They respect them, their opinions and headship but don't serve lol"


I believe this particular practice is specific to the Christian Patriarchy movement. Among other unpleasant and dated practices.

Leisurely Duchess 1 child; Monterey, California 25884 posts
28th Nov '12

My dad beat the shit out of my mom and destroyed her psychologically, used Christianity to do it, that's the ultimate dominance.



I am not interested in men that try to one up me in any single thing. So I married a fluffy sweetheart who is even geekier than me.

mamaluvsher4babies 36 kids; California 4230 posts
28th Nov '12
Quoting The Doctor:" Yeah, but from what it sounds like, although he's loving and caring, she is not happy. She doesn't ... [snip!] ... want it, either. IMO, that's what's wrong here. This is not a relationship that both people are happy in traditional roles."

That is true..if she isnt happy then she should leave, I know easier said then done lol

Nathan Young 2 kids; Syracuse, New York 57578 posts
28th Nov '12
Quoting mamaluvsher4babies:" That is true..if she isnt happy then she should leave, I know easier said then done lol"


It is easier said than done, absolutely... and IMO, it's just so disrespectful to think your partner should change themselves to that extent. Obviously, they've been together a little while if they're married... and have kids... I would think it'd be pretty obvious from the start whether this person that you're dating is dominant and likes to make all of the decisions, or if they're easy going and want to share the duties and decision making.

Leisurely Duchess 1 child; Monterey, California 25884 posts
28th Nov '12
Quoting The Doctor:" It is easier said than done, absolutely... and IMO, it's just so disrespectful to think your partner ... [snip!] ... is dominant and likes to make all of the decisions, or if they're easy going and want to share the duties and decision making."


Same ole story ... women always trying to change men



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