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I don't know what to do anymore. K&T Alberta 272 posts
28th Nov '12

Me and SO are fighting because one of my old friends called me pretty lady. I didn't say anything back that would at all make it seem like I was hitting on him, I never called him any names like that.. in fact I replied with: "Hey man, whats going on?"



APPARENTLY



If another guy compliments me, then my SO should be able to go and call girls sexy, hot, etc.. and it's the same thing as someone calling me "pretty lady.". Which honestly, I'm really not an insecure person, so if he really feels like calling some girl that he's known for ten years pretty lady... I'M FINE WITH THAT.
"I shouldn't feel comfortable with other guys saying stuff to me that I wouldn't be comfortable with him saying to other girls.
*editied.. accidentally posted too soon**



Anyways.. he called me an idiot and shit for not seeing it like he does, and I'm getting really fucking fed up. I don't like being called names, first off. He can call me a bitch if I am being a bitch, but don't call me stupid idiot etc. Secondly... it's not like I fucking cheated on him, and I think he's waaaaaaaay overreacting.



Anyways, just an angry vent lakjdf;laskjf;lakjf;asdf.
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Tash+1 1 child; Canton, Ohio 7839 posts
28th Nov '12

Gah, SO is the same way. A good friend of mine calls me Darling, and he freaks. And i've known said friend longer than i have SO :roll:

624582 Neilton, Washington 9312 posts
28th Nov '12

I'm sorry, but if my husband said that to me I would laugh in his face. The "right" thing to do, I guess, would be to talk calmly and sweetly, but....no. He sounds very insecure and I couldn't handle that.

Sweetheart...* Due July 30 (girl); 1 child; Florida 1290 posts
28th Nov '12

It's the opposite in my relationship lol SO wouldn't care if a guy said that to me, but j would freak if a girl said "hi darling" or something to him

K&T Alberta 272 posts
28th Nov '12
Quoting 624582:" I'm sorry, but if my husband said that to me I would laugh in his face. The "right" thing to do, I guess, ... [snip!] ... thing to do, I guess, would be to talk calmly and sweetly, but....no. He sounds very insecure and I couldn't handle that."


I can't fucking handle it!!!!!! I have never been in a relationship where the other person was so goddamn insecure!! Like, I love him.. but I can't fucking stand this shit. WHO DOES THAT!?! Then, if I want to leave to cooldown (LO is gone for the night with mom) he tells me that I better pack up all my shit because if I leave I'm not coming back. He was not like this in the start of our relationship, and has just gotten progressively worse since we moved in together in July. UGH!

Mom2William&Michael 2 kids; 1 angel baby; New York 7600 posts
28th Nov '12

I don't know how you're able to put up with that. Insecurity is a major deal breaker for me.

624582 Neilton, Washington 9312 posts
28th Nov '12
Quoting K&T:" I can't fucking handle it!!!!!! I have never been in a relationship where the other person was so goddamn ... [snip!] ... like this in the start of our relationship, and has just gotten progressively worse since we moved in together in July. UGH! "


I'm sorry.:cry:



Have you two spoken about his insecurities before, without arguing or him calling you names? I'd try to figure out where it stems from and I'd tell him flat out that he needs to seek help and work on himself because you're not going to put up with that. If I were you I would leave for the night if the arguing hasn't stopped, but that's just me. If you're name is on the lease there isn't much he can do, other than pout and blow up your phone.

K&T Alberta 272 posts
28th Nov '12
Quoting Mama to William + 1:" I don't know how you're able to put up with that. Insecurity is a major deal breaker for me."


I don't know how I can continue to put up with it. I don't know what to do. Like it really depresses me almost. I feel stuck because he's the only person I really know in the town I'm living in, and I can't move home because I am attending college here which is an hour and a half away from where I used to live. : (

K&T Alberta 272 posts
28th Nov '12
Quoting 624582:" I'm sorry.:cry: Have you two spoken about his insecurities before, without arguing or him calling ... [snip!] ... stopped, but that's just me. If you're name is on the lease there isn't much he can do, other than pout and blow up your phone."


Thanks, I would love to leave for the night, truth be told I have no where to go. I have school here, and all my family is at least an hour and a half away! I have told him he can't call me names, he apologizes, and then next argument we get into he's back to calling me names.