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Amber + 2♡ 2 kids; Kansas 19395 posts
29th Nov '12

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Ryloonjimama Australia 18851 posts
29th Nov '12

I feel that the fact that you don't have strong feelings for him as your father, may be a sign that you subconsciously know that he did something to you. Either way, if he's not that important to you, I would cut ties with him because your daughter and any other future children are what's important and you need to protect them. There's no room for benefit of the doubt when it comes to your own babies, IMO.



Have you thought about counselling, to deal with your emotions about the situation, possible even trigger memories?

Ryloonjimama Australia 18851 posts
29th Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Tiger Lily ♥:</b>" Honestly, my mother was molested by her father and my grandmother knew about it and she has never molested ... [snip!] ... catch myself and then make a comment about how he has a "back with a crack" or about how my sister inherited his lack of butt."</blockquote>




Does it give you a golden ticket to get away with it? Definitely not. So I understand what you're saying about people using it as an excuse... but it actually does make you very likely to continue that cycle of abuse, especially if you never dealt with it emotionally or never come to terms with the fact that it's wrong and not normal.

Amber + 2♡ 2 kids; Kansas 19395 posts
29th Nov '12

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29th Nov '12

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Elle&Cole 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Rio Rancho, NM, United States 24950 posts
29th Nov '12

I'm sorry that must be so unbelievably overwhelming to hear and deal with. Especially with all the shit you already deal with :/ at this point you can either dwell on it, or take it as it is and move on and grow from you it you know?

Amber + 2♡ 2 kids; Kansas 19395 posts
29th Nov '12

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Elle&Cole 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Rio Rancho, NM, United States 24950 posts
29th Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting ღ Amberrrr:</b>" It's alright. I'm not really trying to dwell on it, but I've never really come to terms with it either, ... [snip!] ... I've had 5 different offenders in my life :cry: 3 of which I remember and 3 being family. 2 of them were complete strangers."</blockquote>




That's awful. :( I'm sorry, your going to be one protective momma bear of mj I bet :)

Amber + 2♡ 2 kids; Kansas 19395 posts
29th Nov '12

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Momma in the making TTA since Jul 2008; Maine 96 posts
29th Nov '12

Oh honey :( Words CAN NOT express.....