If you feel all you and your DH do if fight and the only time you two get along is when money is good and your in marraige counseling every week. If you have been going to marraige counseling off and on for 3 years and the only time you get through the week without really arguing is when you go every week. Is it selfish to say I'm going to stay at my parents house until we can figure out where this is going? Or is that a smart decision? If you need a better back story or understanding just ask and i'll explain a bit better lol.
I think if you have REALLY tried for 3 years and nothing has change maybe a break would help. So it isn't selfish to go to your parents and clear your mind. Good luck
If you honestly can't stay in the same house without it being explosive, then yes, you probably need a break. You guys should spend some time apart and figure out what are the most important things in your lives, then get together and talk about those things. I'm curious though, your Councilor hasn't taught you communication techniques?
to me it sounds like i would be a good idea take a break and see what happens but it also depends on what your fighting about. its not healthy for anyone to be fighting all the time and if there are kids in the house that just makes it worse
From the short back story to me it seems that you both need to be more considerate of each other. From my experiences with ppl in counseling the counselor helps them to see the motives behind the other person's actions and feelings. Money makes stress so if you both could deal better with stress you may not fight about money as much...
I would stay with him and try to work on things.
Quoting Crystal Marie S.:" If you honestly can't stay in the same house without it being explosive, then yes, you probably need ... [snip!] ... then get together and talk about those things. I'm curious though, your Councilor hasn't taught you communication techniques?"
Thats the thing through our 3 years of counseling we were even in a program that helps you specifically with communication and fighting fair tips that last an entire year. Before we went back to regular marraige counseling but with my husband he likes to say the meanest most vile things when he's angry and then 10 min later act like everything is fine. He hates when I go anywhere or do anything without him or without telling him and constantly combs through my twitter and facebook to read anything I write and complains about it if he feels it was directed toward him.