Cast Your Vote:

    • He's just a slob/doesn't do anything around the house. -- Votes: 16
    • It's pretty equal. -- Votes: 33
    • I'M the "man". -- Votes: 12
    • I'm a single parent, I do it ALL. -- Votes: 4
user banned Due November 7; 1 child; Dayton, Ohio 26853 posts
29th Nov '12

I am the slob. Hubby cleans and does laundry. I cook and make messed. He gives DS all baths and gets him ready for school. I drop him off at daycare. I am the bread winner. DH is a student and SAHD. We are the oppotomy of reversed gender roles.

MunchkinWrangler 4 kids; Rīga, Latvia 46773 posts
29th Nov '12

I work 40 hours a week, do all the dishes, laundry and housework, and I take care of the kids.

My husband works 60+ hours a week and helps minimally with the kids when he is home... Most of the time he's home, they are in bed.

existentialism 2 kids; Texas 16990 posts
29th Nov '12

Well we both pretty much work our asses off BUT I work from home so I tend to do quite a bit more cleaning, but he does clean and he spends plenty of time looking after the kiddo. He is the one who gives her baths and we alternate putting her to bed and if she's up early he gets up with her and lets me stay in bed for an extra 30-45 minutes.

Ashlee Ellis 2 kids; Florida 833 posts
29th Nov '12

I clean the house, cook dinner, take care of the kids, and my DH works and takes care of us financially. He does get up in the morning with me and the kids and helps with our daughter when I ask but I never expect him too since he works a lot and supports us. I look at it as the least I can do for now is make sure the house duties and children are taken care of. If I wasn't a stay at home mom I'd expect more but honestly I have it easy I feel. So I honestly can't complain.

HamHam 18 kids; India 3485 posts
29th Nov '12

Our roles are very equal. He helps with more of the outdoor stuff though. As a bachelor, he always cleaned and did laundry, so after we got married, tht continued. I don't like doin laundry, but I don't mind ironing. He hates ironing but likes doing laundry. We both earn about the same salary and work a similar schedule so we have to share the responsibilities at home. Neither of us like when chores/responsibilities pile up, so we share tasks, especially when it comes to our DD. we've figured out a good system of who does wht an who likes to do what, and split it that way. The ONLY thing he does with a crabby attitude is clean the cats litter box during my pregnancy, lol. Otherwise, he's usually a great partner:)

~Jekka~ TTC since Oct 2012; 2 kids; Australia 8772 posts
29th Nov '12

I do most of the house work. I am a stay at home mum, while he goes to work. So I feel that the majority of the house is my job. He does things like, takes the rubbish out, vacuums the floor, wipes the dishes, he helps the girls tidy their rooms. But for the most part, the house is my job. The children are different. I think that just because he works, doesn't mean he doesn't have to parent. The children are 50/50. He's really good, and usually once he's had his rest after work, he will play with the kids and help get them ready for bed, while I do some more cleaning, and have a break from children.

lynnsaymarie 17 kids; Buffalo, New York 2011 posts
29th Nov '12

Hubby and I like what we have going on right now. He works full time days and I work twice a week nights. I do most of the cooking and cleaning, unless I work that night then he's on his own. He paxks the dishwahser and takes out the trash and picks up after himself. I'm really blessed to have a good husband who isn't a lazy slob!

Turtley Mikey Due October 31; 2 kids; California 50611 posts
29th Nov '12

We are equal in everything. If we weren't, we'd fail at our relationship cause mama wouldn't stand for some lazy ass playing video games all damn day.

Derp TTC since Jan 2014; 1 child; Camp Lejeune, NC, United States 11449 posts
29th Nov '12

I don't understand how so many of you come on here and complain constantly but end up staying with these men :( It makes me feel sad for a lot of women here but then I also feel angry anyone would willingly subject themselves (and their children) to someone who behaves in such a poor manner. Then again everyone is different and I'm not in a position to judge perfect strangers. It just seems crazy to me that some of you stay with men who sound absolutely horrifying in just about every way.

With that being said, my relationship with my husband is pretty equal. However, I'm the one who does the cooking, cleaning, pays the bills, etc. because he's the one who is working. He's a clean man though and picks up after himself if that's what this thread is asking about. He doesn't leave the toilet seat up, he doesn't leave dishes in the sink, he does all of our yard work, he doesn't leave his clothes lying everywhere, etc. It's quite nice.

deleted crazy train, tx, Holy See (Vatican City State) 9655 posts
29th Nov '12

Before my husband retired, I was the typical housewife. I woke up with the baby/babies at night, I cooked, cleaned, did the dishes, and laundry (minus carrying it all upstairs because I can't lift it). I did it all. He'd come home and shower, eat dinner (because it was always ready when he got home or once he was done showering) and then he'd play with the kid(s) and give them baths (something he loves doing, it's fun for him and the kids) and we'd all go to bed and do it again the next day.

He's always been very involved in our home life, he would help clean up after dinner, load the dirty dishes of the day in the dishwasher and would help with the laundry if I didn't finish. On the weekends, he'd help me deep clean. But mostly, I did it all. And I was fine with that. He was either deployed or in training or at work most of the time. I didn't mind at all.

Now, he's home 24/7 and has NOTHING to do but find things to clean. LMAO. He stays on top of the laundry, he cleans things before I even get a chance to do them. He does it all, except cook. He takes the kids for the day and sends me to the mall or out with a girlfriend for coffee. He's constantly doing things for me. It makes me feel bad, like I'm not good enough. I don't want to complain, but I don't know hwo to accept it because I feel like I have no purpose anymore. KWIM?

khigh 1 child; Fort Sill, Oklahoma 8101 posts
29th Nov '12
Quoting Raptor Jesus:" I don't understand how so many of you come on here and complain constantly but end up staying with these ... [snip!] ... leave dishes in the sink, he does all of our yard work, he doesn't leave his clothes lying everywhere, etc. It's quite nice. "

I'm only staying with him for another month and 7 days! :D

Sweet Little Lies TTC since Dec 2013; 2 kids; Deception, WI, United States 3590 posts
29th Nov '12

He works and goes to school full time. I stay home, so I do 99& of the cooking, cleaning and child rearing.

Sweetheart...* Due July 30; 1 child; Florida 1290 posts
29th Nov '12

Mine's a slob, but he works and I'm a SAHM so i don't really care..... I don't b***h about it though.. And no I am not a slob, yick. I can't stand to live in filth or have shit be unorganized.