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Should I feel bad for this? Kristin B. +down.45+ 1 child; Montgomery, Alabama 2035 posts
30th Nov '12

I stay up all night, and during the day, while DH is at work to take care of our 5 week old LO, and I pass him off to DH when he gets home from work so I can sleep. He normally takes care of him from 4 to 10ish, then I take over again. I just feel bad because he works all day then comes home to me handing him the baby. :/

Just Andria 4 kids; Houston, Texas 915 posts
30th Nov '12

Why aren't you going to bed with your little one?

Kristin B. +down.45+ 1 child; Montgomery, Alabama 2035 posts
30th Nov '12
Quoting Just Andria:" Why aren't you going to bed with your little one?"



I would if I could. He's very fussy so I'm constantly having to tend to him. I'm lucky if I can get a good 10 minute nap in without him needing me.

Mrs. Galeforce TTC since Apr 2013; 1 child; 2 angel babies; Titusville, FL, United States 2492 posts
30th Nov '12

Why not sleep when your LO sleeps? Like at night? sometimes you have to accommodate to your child's schedule even if its getting up at 7 am. You DH deserves to have a break when he gets off work. Id probably be pretty damn pissed if my dh stayed up all night and I worked all day and then he just handed him off to me right after a long day at work. I think anyone would get annoyed by that.

Ravey Candyass 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Boston, Massachusetts 105463 posts
30th Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Kristin B. +down.40+:</b>" I would if I could. He's very fussy so I'm constantly having to tend to him. I'm lucky if I can get a good 10 minute nap in without him needing me."</blockquote>




You need to get used to taking 10 minute naps then. You can't expect him to never get a break. He needs one too.

Bettinas Due August 14; 2 kids; Australia 2212 posts
30th Nov '12

Co-sleeping saved my sanity until we established a routine.

RacMarie 1 child; Fort Dodge, Iowa 973 posts
30th Nov '12

I don't think you should feel bad, its his child too. My SO works all day and when my baby was that age I wasn't in school yet. I would take care of her all night and day and then when he got home it was his turn. He didn't take care of her the whole time but he sure as heck helped a lot with her and if I needed another nap then I took one. Talk to your SO and ask him how he feels about it. If it doens't bother him then great, if it does then work something out that works for both of you.

Martha Marshall 1 child; Whittier, California 1035 posts
30th Nov '12
Quoting Bettinas:" Co-sleeping saved my sanity until we established a routine."


Co-sleeping is a God send :) if you're nursing you can do the side-lying position and get some much needed Zzzs :) best of luck mama

Jamie Horn Due October 11 (boy); 459 posts
30th Nov '12

I work part time and my husband full time and my husband ALWAYS come home from work and goes right to the baby weather im at work or at home. I allow him to sleep all night and I get up with the baby to feed so if im working he picks up from the sitter and takes care of the baby the rest of night until bed while I make bottles and dinner then I do bath with the baby and feedings at night if its a day im not working and depending on how well the baby slept when my husband gets home he takes the baby and tells me to go nap. I would go crazy if it wasn't for my husband, don't feel bad baby needs daddy too! Just be sure ur SO isn't toooooo tired to tend to baby but teamwork is wonderful. :)

Meagan Hill 1 child; USA 183 posts
30th Nov '12
Quoting Kristin B. +down.40+:" I stay up all night, and during the day, while DH is at work to take care of our 5 week old LO, and I ... [snip!] ... 4 to 10ish, then I take over again. I just feel bad because he works all day then comes home to me handing him the baby. :/"

I don't get to do this because my BD up and move 13 hrs away when I was pregnant but my boyfriend has an 8 year old and he said his baby's mom did this ALL the time, and it's NOT ok. He's told me so many times that the time that he's spending with MY son he didn't get to spend with HIS daughter because he was half dead through most of it because he NEVER got a break. I mean what would you do if you were a single mom and you didn't have someone to hand your baby off to? I lived with my parents for the past 6 months and I would be up all night with a newborn, have to be at work at 8 and so my mom would have him during that time and I would come home at 4 and go right back to taking care of my son...it's called being a mom...it's what you have to do. Yes your husband should help take care of the baby but damn, let him breathe for a minute before you shove your screaming child in his arms

~The Lunar Flower~ 2 kids; Alabama 6748 posts
30th Nov '12

I wouldn't feel bad. If it bothered your husband I would hope he'd say something about it. You could ask him though. I stayed up all night & day for the first few nights of DS's life. Then I started cosleeping on day 2(made it so much easier in the hospital to sleep)he didn't want to sleep at night when we first came home unless he could fall asleep with SO. Its hard but I have to nap when he does & he's sleeping through most of the night now with no problems(then again he hits the floor at 7am, takes a good 6 naps a day & goes to sleep around 12-1ish)

Miss Ashley +2 2 kids; New York 3790 posts
30th Nov '12

Here is where I am confused and correct me if I am wrong




He works all day and then watches him from the time he gets home at 4 pm until 10 pm and then you take him over night and all day while he is at work. SOOO he take him for 6 hours then he goes to bed.



What time does he wake up for work?

Mary Stickles Due May 22; 4 kids; Virginia Beach, Virginia 978 posts
30th Nov '12

am I the only 1 that thinks this is completely normal? I take care of our son all day as well as run a home daycare and take care of the other girls after school until my husband gets home. when my husband gets home we trade off baby to each other until bedtime. my husband is the 1 that gets up with the baby all night long. this is not because I ask him to its because he wants to. He enjoys their father son time and be even sleeps on the couch. So I can get a whole night sleep.

Miss Ashley +2 2 kids; New York 3790 posts
30th Nov '12
Quoting Mary Stickles:" am I the only 1 that thinks this is completely normal? I take care of our son all day as well as run ... [snip!] ... to its because he wants to. He enjoys their father son time and be even sleeps on the couch. So I can get a whole night sleep."


I am thinking its normal too lol - i don't know if people think she is going from 4pm - 10am but if its just from 4pm to 10pm I feel like thats NORMAL its called CO PARENTING lol I feel like she shouldn't have to watch her baby ALL DAY EVERY DAY when her husband is involved. I wish I had someone to watch my kids for a few hours a day =/

~The Lunar Flower~ 2 kids; Alabama 6748 posts
30th Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Meagan Hill:</b>" I don't get to do this because my BD up and move 13 hrs away when I was pregnant but my boyfriend has ... [snip!] ... should help take care of the baby but damn, let him breathe for a minute before you shove your screaming child in his arms"</blockquote>



Your circumstances are extremely different from hers. She's married to her babys daddy & he doesn't have other children. For either parent to do what she's doing, that's called being a parent. There's more to being a parent than just having a job to support the child.