Quoting .Colleen.:" *ducks and runs*"
I was totally thinking the same thing! :lol: :0
Quoting InkDMomma:" Tell him you want a date night. He shouldn't be the only one going out and having fun before the baby is born."
I agree with this! Him going out with his mates sometimes is fine but he shouldn't take the p*ss!
Let him get his running around done and outta his system now. My boyfriend does the same thing... his is just being out deer hunting in the woods all day long and then playing out in the pole barn most of the evening. Sometimes it pisses me off too (i'm 36 weeks now) but you cant expect him to sit by your side 24/7! Men dont go through this and only know how it feels when we tell them. If he were doing this stuff after the baby comes, then by all means get mad about that! Him being there even if its little bits here and there is better then nothing!
Best of luck!
Quoting Jill Maddox:" wow...i thought i would get some sympathy being pregnant with OUR child...not told to just ignore it and let him do what he wants to do. I don't get to do what I want to do because I'm pregnant."
I have learned that you can't always expect sympathy on this site. Lol. Anyway, I am with you. I am 32 weeks along now, and I have been trying to make my husband understand that he needs to pull more weight around the house with chores and such. Side note, we already have 3 children, so i get pretty exhausted doing everything myself along with working full-time. My DH drinks a little pretty much everynight. It's only enough to relax. He never gets mean or really drunk...just acts silly sometimes. I don't like him drinking at all though. How much relaxing does he really need afterall... he doesn't do anything. Lol. He doesn't have any friends where we live, so he is always at home with me and the kids. I am thankful for that even though he does annoy the shit out of me sometimes.
With you being 37 weeks already, your DH should definitely be pampering you and sharing in your misery. I would say that he should have gotten all the "guy time" out of his system earlier in the pregnancy.
i am also 36 weeks pregnant.. with a very difficult pregnancy.. and being an older pregnant person.. it has been rough. it makes it rougher when DH is gone all the time due to work and not going out with friends. i understand the feeling of being home alone all the time.. i am also and on bed rest with no support from family.. the DH should not be going out every weekend.. you never know when little womb warrior is going to make an appearance.. and the DH should spend time at home helping with final preparations and spending time with the wife whom he did enter this partnership of parenting with. time for DH to grow up and get rid of video game night and make it a family night in my opinion.
<blockquote><b>Quoting Jill Maddox:</b>" it is about the respect factor!! i am in the final weeks of pregnancy with OUR child, he went out ... [snip!] ... it is disrespectful and hurtful to the other party, in this case, me b/c i'm pregnant and feel like i'm alone at this stage."</blockquote>
This is funny I let my Hudband do whatever he want and he alway makes time for me. I don't b***h at my husband because he wants to go fishing in the summers because that's his guy time and something he really enjoys doing. I figured that supporting your spouse and letting them do the things they enjoy doing in life if better than being selfish because I don't want to be by myself. He does the same for me. I plan 2 vacations for us to go on a year. My choice and he goes along with me because he loves me and likes to see me happy:) We have been happily married for 3 years:)
I would have as many date nights together before the baby comes. Yes he needs to go out with friends sometimes, but he also needs to realize that once baby comes taking you out just the two of you can be very difficult. He doesn't need to spend all weekend every weekend being a guy.
Women on here can be real b***hes until they have something to cry about.
i dont think its to much to ask...
and i dont see ho its fair he still gets his guy time
yet we are stuck home alone.
he has the whole nine months befor to have his time
the minute were pregnant ours is gone.
<blockquote><b>Quoting Rebekah Hankinson Trimmer:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Jill Maddox:</b>" wow...i thought i would get some sympathy ... [snip!] ... be pissed too! My husband wouldnt think of leaving me alone for more than an hour. Its called respect and caring what happens."</blockquote>
I totally agree! I think he is being selfish. Once is fine but the whole weekend? No
<blockquote><b>Quoting *April 21st*:</b>" Women on here can be real b***hes until they have something to cry about."</blockquote>
Hahaha... So true!! Aren't we suppose to help and support each other? Women on her seem to judgmental.
Quoting Mamac1ta5:" <blockquote><b>Quoting *April 21st*:</b>" Women on here can be real b***hes until they ... [snip!] ... Hahaha... So true!! Aren't we suppose to help and support each other? Women on her seem to judgmental."
She doesn't like it, it doesn't matter what everyone else does in their marriage... this is her marriage, and if she is having a problem with him going out all the time, they need to compromise. It's not anyones place to tell her she is wrong for how she feels. My husband wouldn't treat me like that, and I wouldn't stand for it if he did. Before pregnancy his time was playing video games with his friend, while his friend's wife and I went out.. Now that i'm pregnant we are pretty much glued to the hip... and well we always kind of been that way, except for when I would go out and he would play video games.
thank you to all the supporters out there. i appreciate it! and yes, a little compromise, communication and understanding does go a long way in a marriage/parenting partnership. We are better now. Thanks!