Cast Your Vote:
- Dad has final say -- Votes: 30
- Mom has final say -- Votes: 43
- A compromise was somehow found. -- Votes: 93
Quoting Devil Duckie:" I didn't know much about the subject and since I don't have a p***s, I let my husband decide. It wasn't that big of a deal either way to me. IMO I think it's dad's choice, but mom has a say too. "
I just feel like, an uniformed person with no valid reasons, but a p***s shouldn't have a say over someone who is informed with valid reasons..but has a vagina.
We had originally intended to circ Rory, but they wanted over $400 cash up front to do it at the hospital, and we didn't have that laying around. So he hasn't been done. My husband still wants it done but I told him that IF it gets done it will be once he's old enough to get put under so it doesn't hurt as bad and he agreed to that. I've already told him if we have another boy he won't be since Rory isn't. My husband's only worry is that he'll be made fun of. But he doesn't realize it's just as common now if not more to not be, as it was when he was a kid to be done.
Quoting Kayla [:)]♥:" We didn't do it. If he had been for it, we STILL wouldn't have done it... because no one is going to alter my son for no reason. :? It's just not something I can compromise on."
<blockquote><b>Quoting KNZ.:</b>" I think he doesn't know that times have changed too. Rates of circumcision has gone down, so it's not ... [snip!] ... going to be like he's going to be made fun of in high school for not being circumcised. (which is a goofy ass reason anyways) "</blockquote>
Exactly. I've never even heard of guys comparing penises in the locker room, lol. 80% of the world's male population is intact anyways, and that percentage is climbing in the US.
Quoting KNZ.:" exactly. "
You think he wouldn't put up a big fuss, with your first being intact and all..... :?
Quoting Just Ames:" You could say that. He was circumcised at the age of 34. He was in tremendous pain and had to miss nearly ... [snip!] ... to challenge my Husband's stance based on the above. I don't have a p***s nor will I act like I know what he went through."
I get your reasoning there, and i'm sorry he had to go through that,
but i personally still couldn't do it.
Quoting Kayla [:)]♥:" You think he wouldn't put up a big fuss, with your first being intact and all..... :?"
right? and in 7 years carter has had ZERO issues with it.
Quoting I'm His Amy He's My Rory:" We had originally intended to circ Rory, but they wanted over $400 cash up front to do it at the hospital, ... [snip!] ... be made fun of. But he doesn't realize it's just as common now if not more to not be, as it was when he was a kid to be done. "
Ugh i just can't STAND that reason.
<blockquote><b>Quoting KNZ.:</b>" For those of you voting for the 'compromise', what did it end up being? i mean, like, who ended up convincing who."</blockquote>
We both decided it was what was best for our son. My husband has known men who have had to get circumsized as adults for various reasons and how bad it was for them. That helped our decision to do it after birth
Quoting Fancy Asparagus Beef:" <blockquote><b>Quoting KNZ.:</b>" I think he doesn't know that times have changed ... [snip!] ... in the locker room, lol. 80% of the world's male population is intact anyways, and that percentage is climbing in the US."
exactly. it's such bogus reasoning.
we haven't revisited the conversation in like a month, and i don't plan to for awhile, ha.
my husband convinced me.. he was circumsized 29 years ago so i think it's much safer now than back then.. when we did take him i was crying like a baby but my son seemed to only be bothered by the hand and leg straps once they took those off he didn't cry anymore. He was also almost 11lbs so pretty strong baby they almost told me no..
I do know woman that have turned men down for being uncut and making fun of them.. my husband said you don't have a p***s so you don't know what it will be like for him if we don't do it so i said ok to it.
I thnk the owner of the BODY should get to decide.
<blockquote><b>Quoting KrissJohnson16:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting KNZ.:</b>" For those of you voting for the 'compromise', what ... [snip!] ... had to get circumsized as adults for various reasons and how bad it was for them. That helped our decision to do it after birth"</blockquote>
My thing is, if its so bad for them as adults, why put them through the exact same thing as a newborn? Babies can't say "ouch, this hurts, can I have some more pain medication?" And adult men don't have their new circumcision sitting in a pee/poop diaper.
I can research until my fingers are black and blue from typing and clicking, but I have absolutely no idea what it's like to actually have a p***s. We had this discussion before we knew DD was actually a her. I trust my husbands judgement when it comes to this subject.
I don't feel to strongly about either one of the options. I personally would not, but my husband wants it done. I think he should get to choose, mainly because it is something he feels is in the best interest of OUR child. I don't believe I should get to make every decision, or that my say should be the final say. It's his kid too, he should have say so on things too. There are certain things he doesn't necessarily agree with that he has let me decide if we couldn't come to an agreement. I'll pick my battles with him later on on topics I feel stronger about but over all with anything involving our child I think we should both come to a mutual agreement.