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    • Dad has final say -- Votes: 30
    • Mom has final say -- Votes: 44
    • A compromise was somehow found. -- Votes: 93
applelove 1 child; auburn, CA, United States 6529 posts
2nd Dec '12
Quoting KNZ.:" For those of you voting for the 'compromise', what did it end up being? i mean, like, who ended up convincing who."


Hey I am so sorry this is going on in your home we had the same issue but I convinced my SO that it was not right.(to cut him) Just because his parents did it to him. In the end my SO changed his mind and now he is VERY happy that we did not do it.



PM me if you want more info on how I got him to come around.... I actuly wrote about in on here one time.



So my SO is cut and his son is not! and part of getting SO to come around was showing Daddy the stats on how things are changing and how a lot of boys are not getting it now. So he will be the norm in school and not "the weird" kid

Ryloonjimama Australia 18851 posts
2nd Dec '12

Thankfully it was just an unspoken given that we were not circumcising.



It's funny because I think I was like 28 weeks, before anyone even brang up the issue & it was my brothers.



They were like "if you even think about circumcision, we'll cut your head off."



If SO wanted it done, I would have refused. No compromise from me on this.

tinana+2 TTC since Nov 2013; 2 kids; Staten Island, NY, United States 29662 posts
2nd Dec '12
Quoting justanothamotha:" They haven't hanged. They say benefits outweigh risks but not by enough to recommend it. How is that ... [snip!] ... their pH is messed up. A foreskin requires LESS care than labia - and it's easier - it's all out front where you can see it."


Way to try to pick apart what I said :lol: Maybe I should have phrased my statement differently- if that's the case, I apologize. Nobody, and I do mean NOBODY will convince me that a mother's intuition about a baby that hasn't even been born yet and her education or mis-education about circumcision (or any other medical issue, for that matter) will be more intelligent than sources and documents that prove actual statistics. That being said, I fully support moms who choose to circ and moms who choose not to circ, as long as they ARE educated as to the risks and benefits of each decision.



http://www.aap.org/en-us/about-the-aap/aap-press-room/Pages/Newborn-Male-Circumcision.aspx?nfstatus=401&nftoken=00000000-0000-0000-0000-000000000000&nfstatusdescription=ERROR%3a+No+local+token

κατι 1 child; Memphis, Tennessee 3143 posts
2nd Dec '12

I'm not against either of the options. We both agreed to have our son circumcised. It was mainly up to daddy seeing as he has the penis,i just agreed. I would have been fine with either options.

*Mary Moon* 1 child; New York 3601 posts
2nd Dec '12

I was initially for circumcision thanks to all the pro and neg circumcision information floating around. SO was against circumcision because he wasn't, his dad wasn't etc family tradition.
I changed my mind the second he was born. I filled out yes in my paperwork and the nurse asked to double check when they took him for his bath if it was okay to circumcise him then and I said don't worry about it, I changed my mind. As soon as I saw him I couldn't fathom them doing it. So in the end I had the final say but I went with SOs choice. Im happy with it.

......... nowhere, NW, United States 25972 posts
2nd Dec '12
Quoting tinana +2:" Way to try to pick apart what I said :lol: Maybe I should have phrased my statement differently- if ... [snip!] ... Way to try to pick apart what I said :lol: Maybe I should have phrased my statement differently- if that's the case, I apologize. Nobody, and I do mean NOBODY will convince me that a mother's intuition about a baby that hasn't even been born yet and her education or mis-education about circumcision (or any other medical issue, for that matter) will be more intelligent than sources and documents that prove actual statistics. That being said, I fully support moms who choose to circ and moms who choose not to circ, as long as they ARE educated as to the risks and benefits of each decision. http://www.aap.org/en-us/about-the-aap/aap-press-room/Pages/Newborn-Male-Circumcision.aspx?nfstatus=401&nftoken=00000000-0000-0000-0000-000000000000&nfstatusdescription=ERROR%3a+No+local+token"


The WHO > AAP.

Atticus & Rhys's Mommy 2 kids; Westfield, Massachusetts 7414 posts
3rd Dec '12

We both wanted it done, both boys were circumcised.

justanothamotha Due January 20; 130 kids; Climax, Michigan 5120 posts
4th Dec '12
Quoting tinana +2:" Way to try to pick apart what I said :lol: Maybe I should have phrased my statement differently- if ... [snip!] ... Way to try to pick apart what I said :lol: Maybe I should have phrased my statement differently- if that's the case, I apologize. Nobody, and I do mean NOBODY will convince me that a mother's intuition about a baby that hasn't even been born yet and her education or mis-education about circumcision (or any other medical issue, for that matter) will be more intelligent than sources and documents that prove actual statistics. That being said, I fully support moms who choose to circ and moms who choose not to circ, as long as they ARE educated as to the risks and benefits of each decision. http://www.aap.org/en-us/about-the-aap/aap-press-room/Pages/Newborn-Male-Circumcision.aspx?nfstatus=401&nftoken=00000000-0000-0000-0000-000000000000&nfstatusdescription=ERROR%3a+No+local+token"

Wasn't trying to pick apart anything. Their recommendation is NOT to circ - only that benefits outweigh risks. I didn't pick apart anything - I was more thorough....the rest of what I wrote was to the OP. And I still don't see how it's any change from what they said before.



And you will not educate me on anything ot do with this, I can promise you that. I can't even begin to tell you how many obsessive hours I spent researching it because I wanted to be sure. I've looked into the flaws in the African research study that was ended early & not done to completion. Are you ware the men who got circs were not sexually active for aperiod of approx 2 months & received counselling on safe sex practices & received condoms? Far from convincing that the circ had anythign to do with it - but it sure seems the researchers were desperate for teh "right" result.



So anyone who circs can go ahead & distrust God or nature or whatever you believe in. *I* personally think that when all is said & done the fact is we aren't born with extra defective body parts as standard issue.



I also think if you've never looked into the sale of infant foreskin for medical & cosmetic procedures (and uber expensive prescription wrinkle creams) you really ought to - because you might better have some idea why they'd promote it & who might be in a position to benefit if more infant foreskins are made available.

Tarynosaurus Rex San Antonio, Texas 1271 posts
4th Dec '12
Quoting justanothamotha:" Wasn't trying to pick apart anything. Their recommendation is NOT to circ - only that benefits outweigh ... [snip!] ... have some idea why they'd promote it & who might be in a position to benefit if more infant foreskins are made available."


I've heard that about the foreskins being used in beauty products. That's fucking disgusting. Yet another reason no son of mine will ever be cut.

I'm His Amy He's My Rory 2 kids; Caldwell, Idaho 49283 posts
4th Dec '12
Quoting Tarynosaurus Rex:" I've heard that about the foreskins being used in beauty products. That's fucking disgusting. Yet another reason no son of mine will ever be cut."



I haven't heard that. But I do know they use road kill. My dad used to work for the state animal control and he's pick up the roadkill and take it to the rendering plants.

Tarynosaurus Rex San Antonio, Texas 1271 posts
4th Dec '12
Quoting I'm His Amy He's My Rory:" I haven't heard that. But I do know they use road kill. My dad used to work for the state animal control and he's pick up the roadkill and take it to the rendering plants."


Ew...

MommyToWesley 1 child; Delaware 3847 posts
4th Dec '12
Quoting I'm His Amy He's My Rory:" I haven't heard that. But I do know they use road kill. My dad used to work for the state animal control and he's pick up the roadkill and take it to the rendering plants."


Gross. Foreskins and road kill? I never want to wear make-up again.

I'm His Amy He's My Rory 2 kids; Caldwell, Idaho 49283 posts
4th Dec '12
Quoting Tarynosaurus Rex:" Ew..."


Yeah, one big reason I don't wear makeup but a few times a year.

_______Nope_________ 23772 posts
4th Dec '12

I don't think it should be up to the mother or father. Rather, it's elective, so if they both don't agree then it shouldn't be done. To me it's like having the ears pierced. If the parents don't BOTH agree to it then it should not be done. It's an unnecessary and elective procedure, so if either parent is opposed then it shouldn't be done.



It can be done later, but it can never be undone. Yes, I know there are ways to "regrow" a foreskin, but it will NEVER be the same as that was lost. Thus, it makes sense that it not be done unless both parents agree.

I'm His Amy He's My Rory 2 kids; Caldwell, Idaho 49283 posts
4th Dec '12
Quoting MommyToWesley:" Gross. Foreskins and road kill? I never want to wear make-up again."


There's all sorts of nasty stuff in it. Like red pigments are done a lot by grinding up a specific beetle that provides that red.