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Cast Your Vote:

    • Go to school next quarter -- Votes: 1
    • Take a quarter off -- Votes: 16
WWYD (school question) lolajessup Due July 25; 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Beaverton, Michigan 44057 posts
1st Dec '12

So I just found out I will be on hospital bed rest in January until I deliver (not sure exactly when that will be, depends on what happens. My next quarter at school starts the middle of January and goes 10 weeks, so about til the middle of March. Do you think it would be wise to just take a break and push back my graduation (I would have been done in september, but this will put me back until december). My reasoning is because I am not sure when my baby will be born. I don't know how long I will be in the hospital. I do not know if an how much NICU time she will need, or if she will even live. Do I really want to be stressed about school at this time while worrying about my child making it out of me alive, and then making it out of the hospital alive and hopefully with no special needs or medical issues? I don't want to push back school anymore, i've already pushed it back enough, but I am starting to feel like maybe I will be setting myself up for failure by going under these circumstances. But part of me is saying, "Oh you'll have so much time to do your work because you'll be stuck on bed rest and bored and then just be laying around the house with a newborn". I don't know. WWYD?

Kimmy Gibbler 2 kids; Grapevine, Texas 8039 posts
1st Dec '12

I'd not worry about school. Take the quarter off.. What's going on, by the way??

IDID-VBAC 12/09 2 kids; Alaska 44106 posts
1st Dec '12

School with a newborn can be difficult. I have done it 2x and will be doing it again with my next baby for my Masters.



It can be done though. Do you do school online? I do and just budget time for it during the day and with a newborn you can do stuff when they are eating( if breastfeeding no hands needed)/sleeping.



The most important thing to think about is can you mentally handle it? You dont want to go in to it stressed out and not be able to complete the quarter.

drunk faith1 1 child; Alabama 10081 posts
1st Dec '12

I would say to wait. You don't need the extra stress right now.

Bean Bunny ❤ 1 child; California 12459 posts
1st Dec '12

I say wait. I went back to school right after I had my son (like a week after) and now i have a not so pretty semester of grades on my transcripts:cry:

BabyKayZee TTC since Oct 2010; Texas 2 posts
1st Dec '12

I would postpone. I am going through a similar crisis myself, only less about me and the baby and more about what kind of support I'm going to have as far as daycare, husband issues, working etc. I say it's not worth the stress, even though I too was supposed to graduate this upcoming semester ): Never know what life with a newborn is going to be like, too. Lots of variables, many unforeseen, to consider

Fusselinchen 2 kids; 2 angel babies; Fort Bragg, NC, United States 16176 posts
1st Dec '12

i agree with everyone else.
i would wait.
i was finally going to start college, but then i found out i was pregnant with this baby. i want to wait until he is born now and see how the adjusting goes before i start something that expensive.

lolajessup Due July 25; 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Beaverton, Michigan 44057 posts
1st Dec '12
Quoting Asher's mommy [Expecting :" I'd not worry about school. Take the quarter off.. What's going on, by the way?? "


I have Vessa Previa.

lolajessup Due July 25; 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Beaverton, Michigan 44057 posts
1st Dec '12

I started school when DD was 3 months old and have been going ever since and she is now 5. So I definitely know the demands of having a child and going to school. Yes I currently go online, so I won't have to leave or anything. I am more concerned about not knowing when I will deliver and how early, and if I have to deal with the death of a child or a baby in the NICU. Of course in my perfect world in my brain everything is going to be perfect and of course I could do the work while in the hospital, and of course I would have a perfectly healthy newborn who comes right home from the hospital and nurses while I write my papers and do my discussions. But unfortunately I have no control over that, and would hate to stress out over school, then end up having to drop before the quarter is up and have to pay back financial aid and be out student loans.

Chels :3 Florida 2017 posts
2nd Dec '12
Quoting lolajessup:" I started school when DD was 3 months old and have been going ever since and she is now 5. So I definitely ... [snip!] ... over school, then end up having to drop before the quarter is up and have to pay back financial aid and be out student loans. "


Take a break mama.

lolajessup Due July 25; 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Beaverton, Michigan 44057 posts
2nd Dec '12

Thanks for the reassurance that taking a break is the right decision. I'm such a determined person I hate to feel like I have up and I hate to set mysel back when I'm so close to being done. But obviously it's the best decision. It's just hard for me to let go ya know.

Chels :3 Florida 2017 posts
2nd Dec '12
Quoting lolajessup:" Thanks for the reassurance that taking a break is the right decision. I'm such a determined person I ... [snip!] ... set mysel back when I'm so close to being done. But obviously it's the best decision. It's just hard for me to let go ya know."


You can't set yourself back by taking a break. You set yourself back by getting behind. When you come back it'll be like starting that quarter fresh. Not having a bunch of stuff to make up. Don't put yourself down. Do what's best for you and baby :)!