Some things I said in this post were basically said out of pure frustration and in the heat of the moment, and I figured getting rid of it as best as I can would be the most beneficial thing I could do for myself. For anyone who's read this post and took it the wrong way, I really am sorry for sounding childish. I guess that's just the word to describe how I was feeling at the time.
I did however want to make one thing clear though; I would NEVER ask my SO to stop seeing his other kids, nor would I keep our unborn baby away away from them. His ex... is another story, but until her and my SO get everything sorted out between the two of them I'm going to keep my mouth shut about her.
Again, I really am sorry for spreading such negativity on a site where it isn't needed. For the mamas who stood up for me and gave me some tips as to what to do; thank you very much. At a time like that, I really could have used a friend. And for the other mamas who in a sense gave me a kick in the butt; I guess I really needed that too to see how dumb I was being. Thank you for being honest with me.
Sounds like you have a lot of growing up to do...
Has he taken her to court for custody? He should be keeping track of every text, call and any effort on his in regards to trying to see the kids. If he gives her money then he should be keeping track of that as well. If there's no custody agreement, she's going to keep doing this and get away with it. He needs a custody agreement from the courts.
Why wouldn't you want them to be brother and sister.... They ARE?!.. All because their mother is being a c**t doesn't mean you should be aswell... Grow up.
He had a family before you with his 3 kids if you want to be apart of his life then you're gonna have to accept his kids and meet them. I know it's stressful and annoying because of his ex wife but your problem is with his Ex not with his kids.
You're f**king childish. It's not the kids fault that their mother is a b***h, but you're taking it out on them. I wouldn't want you around my kids if you were going to act like that. They were his kids before you came into your life, just because you're pregnant with his kid doesn't make his existing children irrelevant.
Quoting sealionsarah:" Sounds like you have a lot of growing up to do..."
Never said I didn't. Never said my reasons for feeling this way were any good either... it's just the truth. Like I said, I'll probably never tell him any of what I feel on the subject because it is immature and a little mean... at least I can admit that though. Guess I'm just not good with dealing with confrontation like he is... all this is just a little too much for me on top of a lot of other things that I have to deal with right now.
You sound like a child. How could you not want your child to know their siblings? You are punishing 3 INNOCENT children because of who their mother is. If you intend on being a serious and long term part of your SOs life I would make good with the fact you need to meet, be nice to, and maybe one day bond with them.
You sound BEYOND childish.
Well do you feel better now after getting all of that out? Sometimes you just need to vent so you don't cause yourself so much stress.
I'm sorry that she's suddenly being a c**t and up his ass about not seeing his kids JUST because you're pregnant. I definitely think he needs to document his attempts to see his kids. Every text, every call, every payment he's made for child support. And take it to a judge for a modification of their current custody agreement. And she has no say who he brings his children around. So she can shove that little bit up her ass.
I know you're stressed and I know it's hard. But I would go meet the kids. I know their mom sucks but you can't take it out on the kids. They deserve to know their father and their new brother and their stepmom. Especially if he decides to take custody of his kids.
Good luck with everything.
Hopefully is prepatrum depression and you won't feel t hat way forever. U need to understand that he had a family before you and those kids need their real dad. You can't keep him to yourself that's selfish and obsessive thoughts and I really think if you are feeling that way you might need counseling or something cause those are unhealthy thoughts. And will make this whole situation worse. He pays childsuppott he has rights to see his kids. He needs to take her ass to court. Everything will be ok. Just don't act on your thoughts. And your not a c**t... don't let people make you feel bad. Your reaching out... you obviously need quidence.
Quoting Bob Wehadababyitsaboy:" He had a family before you with his 3 kids if you want to be apart of his life then you're gonna have ... [snip!] ... and meet them. I know it's stressful and annoying because of his ex wife but your problem is with his Ex not with his kids. "
That's very childish to take hatred out on CHILDREN just because of who their mom is. They didn't do anything and u don't even know them. No mater what they deserve to see their dad....
Ur gonna have to learn to share and grow up alittle...
Quoting Mama♥Sweetpea:" You're f**king childish. It's not the kids fault that their mother is a b***h, but you're taking it out on them. I wouldn't want you around my kids if you were going to act like that. "
I would never take it out on his other kids. I've never even met them, and from what I've heard, they don't want much to do with the baby. Yes it's childish. I know that. And I also know that eventually I'm going to have to get over it because they are his family and I would never actually keep him away from them. I'm just saying that it's just stressful right now. It's hard. I don't have anyone to tell me how to deal with it or give me tips or help me cope and I'm keeping it bottled up and will never let my boyfriend know about it because it's hurtful. I'm sure they're wonderful kids... I just don't know how to do this in a civil way if at the point I meet their mother I'm immediately getting bitched at for being pregnant with him.
I dont think its right for you punish his children based on half the story you've heard. There are 2 sides to everything, there mom might be a b***h. But you were not there during there relationship to know exactly what went wrong between them. And IMO with how childish your acting about this I wouldnt want you around my kids. If you cant except his other kids then you need move on because they came before you and thats a package deal. And just because there mother chooses act the way she does doesnt mean you have scoop to her level.