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Loretta West TTC#2 TTC since May 2013; 1 child; Auckland, New Zealand 4606 posts
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Loretta West TTC#2 TTC since May 2013; 1 child; Auckland, New Zealand 4606 posts
2nd Dec '12

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Norah&Ellie's Momma 2 kids; Kentucky 4156 posts
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EnnaBennaBanana 2 kids; Maryland 6168 posts
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Loretta West TTC#2 TTC since May 2013; 1 child; Auckland, New Zealand 4606 posts
2nd Dec '12

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Loretta West TTC#2 TTC since May 2013; 1 child; Auckland, New Zealand 4606 posts
2nd Dec '12

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EnnaBennaBanana 2 kids; Maryland 6168 posts
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Loretta West TTC#2 TTC since May 2013; 1 child; Auckland, New Zealand 4606 posts
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~*Flibbertigibbet*~ Helena, Montana 821 posts
3rd Dec '12

Actually, evolution made sex to perpetuate the species and that's why humans look at other humans and find them attractive even when they're in a relationship. We didn't evolve to be monogamous. Societal rules have made it "the norm", but even in so-called "Bible times", polygamy was rampant and was completely normal and accepted.



That said, I agree that porn should be discussed at the outset of a relationship... However, neither partner should try to change the other or make them feel like something they enjoy in private is bad or wrong. That just serves to drive a wedge between them and cause one to feel the need to lie and sneak around in order to be themselves.

Loretta West TTC#2 TTC since May 2013; 1 child; Auckland, New Zealand 4606 posts
3rd Dec '12
Quoting ~*Flibbertigibbet*~:" Actually, evolution made sex to perpetuate the species and that's why humans look at other humans and ... [snip!] ... just serves to drive a wedge between them and cause one to feel the need to lie and sneak around in order to be themselves. "


Yeah, I know I shouldn't have a problem with it... It pisses me off that it makes me feel the way it does because I know I'm overly sensitive about it and it drives us both crazy. I'm trying to figure out how to work everything out. He knows I won't tolerate the lies anymore, and I know he's trying to change. So it's the thought provcesses in my head that need to change, and I dunno how the eff to do it. :?