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Chris's Mommy 1 child; Seaside, California 2618 posts
17th Feb '13
Quoting Jonna McCullough:" Helllo!!!!! :) My Bame Is Jonna and I am the very Proud Mommt of 3 Sweet little Girls :) And We Are Expecting ... [snip!] ... Our Very 1st BOY on July 16th 2013 Id Like to Hoin your Due Date Group :) Helllllo Fellow Mommmys and Mommys To BE!!!!!!"


Welcome and Congrats!

Chris's Mommy 1 child; Seaside, California 2618 posts
17th Feb '13
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MamaGryffindor 2 kids; Bend, Oregon 1399 posts
17th Feb '13
Quoting susanesque:" Everyone keeps telling me to MAKE her learn, but if she's not ready she's not ready. Or at least that's ... [snip!] ... No big girl panties, no stickers, no toys, no candy... Nothing will convince this kid, so I figure she'll do it eventually. :P"


One thing i learned is they do things at different rates and when they are ready. Noah kinda took his sweet time but he did it himself which was awesome! Took a little longer for him to poop on the toilet but one day he just figured it out and yeah! :D

user banned 4 kids; Mueang Phuket, Thailand 30487 posts
18th Feb '13

I just need to vent. I need help. Idk how to make this relationship work anymore.



We dont do anything with each other or talk to each other anymore. Im happy to go to work for 9 hours a day on the weekend when he is home. We dont show affection or love. We hqvent had sex in a while and when i tried to bring it up and stuff he said i just lay there an do nothing. Its true. I cant even kiss him anymore. He smokes and his breath is so rank from it, like it turns me off instantly.



On valentines, i get nothing first off all..which isnt surprising..then im laying with the girls to get them asleep he comes in and starts rubbing my back a few mins and then puts my hand on his dick.. It made me mad.. Like he is only doing it for sex.. So of course i didnt give him any. I was gonna try to be frisky last night and nope.. Didnt do it. Sigh. I have no motivation. I tell him how i feel. How i wish he would compliemnt now and then. Or even when we get the rare date to actually talk about stuff and be cute, but nothing chqnges. Ive been telling him a few years i wish he would tell me i look pretty now and then.. And he doesnt. Ever. Hsnt in years... But he could talk to a co worker and tell her about how her ass gives him dirty thoughts and shit
Cant bring that up either without being called stupid. I just dont know anymore. We used to be happy and perfect and then everything slowly has been getting worse and worse. I tell him we need to talk and then he doesnt talk to me and its awkward silcence all day. Im so over it. I want love, i want butterflies, i want t be appreciated and its not there, and nothiing is changing...

lauren 3 kids; Virginia 32206 posts
18th Feb '13
Quoting ☮ Phuket:" I just need to vent. I need help. Idk how to make this relationship work anymore. We dont do anything ... [snip!] ... all day. Im so over it. I want love, i want butterflies, i want t be appreciated and its not there, and nothiing is changing..."


I'm sorry you're feeling that way :( When the kids are asleep and he's sitting on the couch, just start talking to him and see what happens. Hopefully he talks back and you can get some things resolved.



Do you think that if you initiate kissing or sex that he'll get excited?

♥Christen♥MFH 3 kids; Kansas 2384 posts
18th Feb '13

I'm sorry you feel so unappreciated! :( I know that feeling, my husband and I go through spurts like this too. It's usually around a big life changing event. Just try to talk to him & let him know how you feel.



Has anyone had a sonogram relatively early & just feel like the gender wasnt right? My sonographer told me at 16 weeks we were having our 3rd girl (which totally excites me) but I just don't feel like this baby is a girl. Am I crazy??? Guess I'll see at my 20 weeks appt next Wednesday.

MamaGryffindor 2 kids; Bend, Oregon 1399 posts
18th Feb '13
Quoting ☮ Phuket:" I just need to vent. I need help. Idk how to make this relationship work anymore. We dont do anything ... [snip!] ... all day. Im so over it. I want love, i want butterflies, i want t be appreciated and its not there, and nothiing is changing..."


I am sorry mama :cry:
I am currently in the same boat..we never kiss or have sex or anything. He wants to i just feel very unattractive and fat and all that fun stuff that goes through our pregnant heads. I know he loves me but its hard to feel sexy when you dont look sexy in your own eyes. We never talk either and when we do it is usually ended with a rude comment then the night is crap.
I wish i had some advice for you, but I am in the same boat..I hope both our relationships can improve. AND SOON :wink:

AmyOrangeMama 4 kids; Idaho 1761 posts
18th Feb '13
Quoting ☮ Phuket:" I just need to vent. I need help. Idk how to make this relationship work anymore. We dont do anything ... [snip!] ... all day. Im so over it. I want love, i want butterflies, i want t be appreciated and its not there, and nothiing is changing..."


Im sorry to hear that. I have no advice, because I am currently going through the same thing with my DH. I was just about to post something similar about my DH and I. It is 2 days until our 4 year wedding anniversary and I am not speaking to my husband. How fucked up is that?
I hope you two can work it out. Im sorry, I really wish I had some good advice for you that would also work in my relationship. *hugs*

AmyOrangeMama 4 kids; Idaho 1761 posts
18th Feb '13
Quoting MamaGriffin[20 Weeks]:" I am sorry mama :cry: I am currently in the same boat..we never kiss or have sex or anything. He wants ... [snip!] ... crap. I wish i had some advice for you, but I am in the same boat..I hope both our relationships can improve. AND SOON :wink:"


I can totally relate to the body issues right now. I look in the mirror and see a fat chick with a beer gut. My DH shows zero interest in pleasuring me, its all about him. He always jsut wants a quickie or a Bj and never gives two shits about whether I am satisfied.. Last night, I gave myself a pedi/ mani, got all dolled up and shaved ;) and was ready for action.. He came home and said he was going out with his guy friends AGAIN. I basically told him to f**k off and die :( Sorry this turned into a vent. But I hope all of our relationships improve soon!

MamaGryffindor 2 kids; Bend, Oregon 1399 posts
18th Feb '13
Quoting AmyOrangeMama:" I can totally relate to the body issues right now. I look in the mirror and see a fat chick with a beer ... [snip!] ... basically told him to f**k off and die :( Sorry this turned into a vent. But I hope all of our relationships improve soon! "


Dude i hear ya! On valentines day [we normally NEVER celebrate it] he came home with some wild flowers and chocolates and it was VERY nice i loved it, wasnt expecting it and it was kind!



20 mins later he goes "Can i get a BJ or something"
dude.

Ⓢ℘id℮яMαℕ 3 kids; Wet Dreams, XD, United States 5043 posts
18th Feb '13
Quoting MamaGriffin[20 Weeks]:" Dude i hear ya! On valentines day [we normally NEVER celebrate it] he came home with some wild flowers ... [snip!] ... it was VERY nice i loved it, wasnt expecting it and it was kind! 20 mins later he goes "Can i get a BJ or something" dude. "


Oh wow. :?

MamaGryffindor 2 kids; Bend, Oregon 1399 posts
18th Feb '13
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Ⓢ℘id℮яMαℕ 3 kids; Wet Dreams, XD, United States 5043 posts
18th Feb '13
Quoting MamaGriffin[20 Weeks]:" Yeah he claims that he didnt expect in return i was like all you had to do was WAIT a while before maybe ... [snip!] ... it up because you sound like a jerk. I just think men dont know how to process things in their big heads before they speak lol"


Yeah that totally made it seem like he only did nice things to get a reward lol.

MamaGryffindor 2 kids; Bend, Oregon 1399 posts
18th Feb '13
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Ⓢ℘id℮яMαℕ 3 kids; Wet Dreams, XD, United States 5043 posts
18th Feb '13
Quoting MamaGriffin[20 Weeks]:" Yeah thats what i said to him..He claims he didnt mean it but i dont know that. I mean we havnt been very sexual but he doesnt need to trick me or anything :/ doesnt make me want to do it lol"


No kidding. DH doesn't make comments like that to me anymore because he noticed a distinct pattern of going without things like that for a few weeks when he did. :wink: