happy frickn birthday to me" pennylove Due July 9; 17 kids; 1 angel baby; Australia 1100 posts
2nd Dec '12

OH what a great day it will be.......... SO and i got into a fight last night and so many things came out" it started over his work, he did not think txing me or even a calll to tell me what he was doing out so late to ease my worry. He just rocked up stuffed his face full of the food i cooked got hammered and passed out on the couch. I got so upset that he could not of txt me and told me he was gunna be late........ i do it why can he do it!!!
Then things like marriage got spoken about......... he reckons i do not love him cos when i do things for him i do not mean it""??? i do not support him ( which bullshit im 4 hrs away from family and liviing in some strangers backyard waiting on him to return from work. I do everything for him.......... all what a SAHM does he does not look after LO at all...... we have fights about im not allowed to be tired cos he works a 12 hr day......... its ridiculous!!!
I have nothing i have no ambition......... my job is too look after him and LO:(
He also says he has put a roof over my head ( a motorhome) i should be happy and not nag him.
He makes me feel im being used and not appreciated by the way he talks and treats me and will not take my feelings as something important.
I get a smart ass Happy Birthday when he left for work this morning and that was it. It makes me so angry that im here, what am i here for !!! he says go home to your daddies and he can look after you.
f**k me i feel like jumping in the car and driving back to my dads and leaving him!!
thanks for reading.... all by myself on my birthday and this shit happens!!

Bad Things 1 child; Blacksburg, SC, United States 15772 posts
2nd Dec '12

Maybe you and him should have a long talk about what you both are wanting from this situation, without throwing out insults or blaming each other.

Make some compromises. Tell him what you want from him and ask him what he can do to make some of that possible and vice versa.

If you are going to be a couple, you both need to work as a team to be the best spouse you can be. Nobody is perfect and the grass isnt always greener on the other side. GL.

LIVE.OUT.LOUD Due July 11; 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Lawrenceville, Georgia 1606 posts
2nd Dec '12

Wooow! I'm soooo sorry.... I would have a serious talk with him. Tell him to get his shit in order and treat you right and if he doesn't then you will leave. And mean it. Tell him if/when he decides he wants to be a man and treat you like the women you are then y'all can work things out but until then there is no way in hell you will stay and continue to be disrespected and mistreated. You deserve better. That's not right AT ALL... I'm soooo sorry :(

Sierraaaa 1 child; Texas 3088 posts
3rd Dec '12

Damn.. sounds like he needs to start having respect towards you. Maybe give him a scare and really go to your dads for a week and dont constact him just wait for him to contact you.
Im not allowed to be tired either lol but my SO works like 16 a hrs a day sometimes for weeks without having a day off so I just let him say that, but your guy just seems like its all about him.