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Informed decision about circumcision. B♥Z 2 kids; Williamsport, Maryland 14245 posts
2nd Dec '12

I'll start off by saying DH isn't always this much of an ass, he feels strongly on this topic, as do I. We are on opposite sides as far as circumcision goes. He wants it done, I do not.



He just told me that I cannot make an informed decision to NOT circumcise our son, because I am not a male. What do you ladies think about that. Agree or disagree?



It's hard to even have a conversation about it with him. He immediately gets defensive and frustrated with me. Last night I asked him why he wanted it done, his only reason was that he didn't want our son to get made fun on in the "locker room" and that one day our son will realize he is different from daddy.



My reasons are that it's 100% cosmetic, unnecessary, not worth putting my son though, yadda yadda..




ETA: Last night he even went as far as to say that he'd divorce me if I didn't have our son circumcised. It's getting ridiculous!

ILOVEWINE Due April 24; 2 kids; Sweden 10814 posts
2nd Dec '12

I disagree. But you will need to show him the research and compromise.

Squeaky McGee [12 wks] Due May 7; 2 kids; 3 angel babies; Indiana 65300 posts
status 2nd Dec '12

I think he's wrong. I don't have to have a penis to know that cutting healthy tissue off of it is completely unnecessary.

MyPurrrtyBabies 3 kids; Alabama 8386 posts
2nd Dec '12

Your DH has stupid reasons. Show him the research.

. , Richmond, VA, United States 75033 posts
2nd Dec '12

Disagree 100%. He's still your child.

OnToTheNext1 2 kids; Hyattsville, Maryland 1239 posts
2nd Dec '12

While I'm pro circumcision i understand your stance. Educate him by showing him your evidence. Ask him to gather factual evidence for his case and sit down and have a factual talk about it and hopefully that will help.

MyPurrrtyBabies 3 kids; Alabama 8386 posts
2nd Dec '12
Quoting Squeaky McGee:" I think he's wrong. I don't have to have a penis to know that cutting healthy tissue off of it is completely unnecessary."


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Supafly★ 2 kids; Poland 14113 posts
2nd Dec '12

But he can't make an informed decision either because he won't be your son in 13 years when this "locker business" is happening.
Tell him that the rate of circumcision is decreasing rapidly so he'll be the only one in the locker room with a cut penis and then what would everyone say?
[I don't understand why nearly every pro-circ person says this, like 8th grade boys are just walking around the locker rooms swinging their penis around. Most of the time they don't even take their underwear off.]

B♥Z 2 kids; Williamsport, Maryland 14245 posts
2nd Dec '12
Quoting MyPurrrtyBabies:" Your DH has stupid reasons. Show him the research."


He just doesn't want to see it. It's annoying. He's not like this usually, but the second this topic is brought up, his wall goes up and he's stuck on his reasons.

Danielle: Jack&Basil'sMom 2 kids; Raleigh, North Carolina 14528 posts
2nd Dec '12

What exactly does he know about an uncircumcised penis? What experience does he have with one?



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If my husband threatened divorce me over circumcision, I'd beat him to the punch.

semicharmedlife 1 child; Blountstown, FL, United States 621 posts
2nd Dec '12

Disagree, I will let my husband make the decision but he has RESEARCHED it and is NOT making the desicion at all based on cause he's a man or to look like daddy or anything like that. He actually surprised me the other day because before he always said he would want to circumsize but I brought it up after reading a thread on here and he said he is starting to lean more twoards not doing it.

B♥Z 2 kids; Williamsport, Maryland 14245 posts
2nd Dec '12
Quoting Supafly★:" But he can't make an informed decision either because he won't be your son in 13 years when this "locker ... [snip!] ... just walking around the locker rooms swinging their penis around. Most of the time they don't even take their underwear off.] "


That is EXACTLY what I told him. He said "well some schools still shower after PE". Well, I'm pretty sure they aren't going to throw 10 naked middle/high school guys into the same shower.

Snow 1 child; Storybrooke, ME, United States 34017 posts
2nd Dec '12
Quoting Squeaky McGee:" I think he's wrong. I don't have to have a penis to know that cutting healthy tissue off of it is completely unnecessary."


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B♥Z 2 kids; Williamsport, Maryland 14245 posts
2nd Dec '12
Quoting Danielle: Jack&Basil'sMom:" What exactly does he know about an uncircumcised penis? What experience does he have with one? :? If my husband threatened divorce me over circumcision, I'd beat him to the punch."


I just asked him that, and he has nothing to say.



He later (last night) said he shouldn't have said the divorce thing, he was mad. But still, it's uncalled for and immature.

1inpink2inblue Switzerland 11961 posts
2nd Dec '12

I'm in the same boat. Dh still wants Ds2 done I do not. I told him after the. Shit I went threw with Ds1 I couldn't put another on of my kids threw that. Ds1 was circed and the doctor left to much foreskin. It kept attacking to the head of his penis. They pulled it back the first time (very painful) but it kept happening so he had to be recirced at a year. Which entailed him being but under. Dh is still fighting me on this.