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My Dad doesn't think my BF will be around. AaliyahVal'sMommy 1 child; 1 angel baby; Cleveland, Ohio 1332 posts
2nd Dec '12

My dad is always telling me and trying to show me expamples of how my boyfriend is gonna change when our baby is around.
He's been watching teen mom 2 with me and swearing up and down he's gonna run off and have absolutely nothing to do with me.
We have been together three years, since we were both sixteen years old.
He assumes my boyfriend is trying every way to get out of raising the kid, for some reason he started talking about how he knows he isn't gonna sign the birth certificate and then i'll end up taking him to court for child support only to fail, because he didn't sign and they will refuse to DNA test.
He even thinks his mother is gonna stand by him if he runs off.
His mom is actually taking us to my next appointment on wedsday.
He comes to ALL of my appointments since the first ever one.
My boyfirend has never said anything or acted like he didn't want anything to do with me or this baby so i have no idea why he thinks/ is insisting this is gonna happen.

Kimber-lily Due September 27 (girl); 4 kids; Nova Scotia 28962 posts
2nd Dec '12

Still young. If I was 19 I'd run. lol

Nathan Young 2 kids; Syracuse, New York 57581 posts
2nd Dec '12

I think he's just trying to prepare you for the reality of the future, what could be, not necessarily that your BF is bad or is going to do this, for sure.



Hell. My mom used to tell me the same thing.



.....and it did happen. Took right off.



I think it's important to realize that it's a possibility, and realize that you need to make sure that you have the best plan for raising a child alone, should that ever happen, KWIM? I think your dad's trying to be supportive, but maybe not communicating it in the best way.

RonniG Due July 19; 1 child; Plentywood, Montana 2008 posts
2nd Dec '12

So don't worry about it and prove your dad wrong.

M walls 4 kids; Keenesburg, Colorado 7267 posts
2nd Dec '12

I think your dad should stop watching teen mom

мɑkɑnɑni ~*~, FL, United States 63165 posts
status 2nd Dec '12

He's being realistic.

castaway 2 kids; Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania 18092 posts
2nd Dec '12

Your dad is probably being cautions because the odds are against you. Not impossibly so, but if most adult relationships don't last, teens ones go by the way side doubly so.



He probably also realizes that if your baby daddy dips, he will be the one supporting you and your child.



Honestly, if my 19 year old daughter got pregnant, I would most likely act the same way.

AaliyahVal'sMommy 1 child; 1 angel baby; Cleveland, Ohio 1332 posts
2nd Dec '12
Quoting The Doctor:" I think he's just trying to prepare you for the reality of the future, what could be, not necessarily ... [snip!] ... should that ever happen, KWIM? I think your dad's trying to be supportive, but maybe not communicating it in the best way."


I dont know. I just keep trying to tell him i don't think it's gonna happen and i'm not worried about it at all, because i know him, and i know how his mother raised him, so even if he did try to run off, his mother would not agree and let him run and protect him,like my dad keeps telling me.


Plus, he acts like he really wants this baby, like he wants to be around it and everything.
J+D=4 4 kids; Beverly Hills, California 14683 posts
2nd Dec '12
Quoting Misty Walls:" I think your dad should stop watching teen mom"


this.. I understand trying to be cautious.. but it sounds like he has nothing to base his presumptions on, as far as your relationship goes... some guys are that way, but doesn't sound like your guy is...

AaliyahVal'sMommy 1 child; 1 angel baby; Cleveland, Ohio 1332 posts
2nd Dec '12
Quoting pilot Jess:" Your dad is probably being cautions because the odds are against you. Not impossibly so, but if most ... [snip!] ... one supporting you and your child. Honestly, if my 19 year old daughter got pregnant, I would most likely act the same way."


He says younger couples don't work out all the time, but he agreed some peoples work out. He tells me he'll always support my decisions and such, but he wouldn't be supporting me or my child as i don't live with him.
Nathan Young 2 kids; Syracuse, New York 57581 posts
2nd Dec '12
Quoting Rebecca Brown*:" "


Okay. I completely understand your feelings and why you don't think that will happen.



But, if that did happen, have you even considered raising a child alone? I think he's trying to make you think about that possibility, and the reality of it. I don't think your dad means any harm, but I think it's important for every parent to realize they may have to do this alone, and have a plan to do so, in case of the worst happening. It doesn't mean you need to be bogged down by that possibility, but to have a plan, I think, is good.

AaliyahVal'sMommy 1 child; 1 angel baby; Cleveland, Ohio 1332 posts
2nd Dec '12
Quoting J+D=4:" this.. I understand trying to be cautious.. but it sounds like he has nothing to base his presumptions ... [snip!] ... to base his presumptions on, as far as your relationship goes... some guys are that way, but doesn't sound like your guy is..."





Lol. I'm probably the reason he seen it because i was actually watching the show with him. But he was telling me it was gonna happen before we watched it. Then it was gonna come on and he was like "oh yeah where gonna watch this show i can show what and how's he's gonna act."



Iyahna :^P Temecula, California 11401 posts
status 2nd Dec '12

Wow i guess he's trying to prepare you.but he should lay off and stop looking at those punks on teen mom.My SO was 20 when i got pregnant with our oldest.he just quit his job before we found out.my parents would talk so much shit saying he's nothing,he's going to run off to orange county with his step dad.he's a mamas boy,he's never going to get a job.Proved them both wrong.he stayed,got a job four months before i had our oldest.now hes 24 still working the same job.got promoted twice and making decent money.don't let your father bring you down.

TRISHA =] 2 kids; California 3368 posts
2nd Dec '12
Quoting Rebecca Brown*:" My dad is always telling me and trying to show me expamples of how my boyfriend is gonna change when ... [snip!] ... like he didn't want anything to do with me or this baby so i have no idea why he thinks/ is insisting this is gonna happen."


it can happen unexpectdly. its just like that being a teenager and ending up a teen parent. but luckily i had it reverse, he saw me pregnant and finally wanted something to do with his daughter. hes a great daddy even though we arent together.



just be prepared for anything to happen is what i will say.

AaliyahVal'sMommy 1 child; 1 angel baby; Cleveland, Ohio 1332 posts
2nd Dec '12
Quoting The Doctor:"


I understand that logic a little bit better, and if that's what he was trying to tell me, i wish he would talk to me like that's what he's doing, trying to get me to think.
I've told him if he's gonna run off and claim the kid isn't his i would get him DNA tested and all of that, like i know who the father of my baby is, it's impossible for it to be anyone else's.