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Mommies of more than 1 CRSx2Mommy 18 kids; North Carolina 3475 posts
2nd Dec '12

I'm struggling. I feel like I won't love this baby as much as I love my son. HOW could I love something as much as I love him? I'm obsessed with him. I worry she will come and ruin our relationship. I'm worried my son will hate me.



Please tell me it's gonna be okay. I'm so upset. I cry a lot over this. It makes me sick. I hope DS understands that I love him unconditionally and I hope I can still spend a lot of quality time with him. UGH my heart breaks thinking he will think I don't love him as much once his sister gets here.

Heather ♥ Due February 27; 3 kids; Miami, Florida 2432 posts
2nd Dec '12

you will be fine. i felt the same way until i saw my 2nd for the first time.

GirlsHaveCOOTIES 3 kids; Minsk, Belarus 15331 posts
2nd Dec '12

I felt that way.. You adapt.

I again now feel that way with number 3, I have my two boys who im crazy about, How am I going to love three this much?

Your heart grows :-)

Double.The.Trouble 2 kids; Florida 2260 posts
2nd Dec '12

Once you see that face TRUST me you will be in love.. I kinda felt the same way when I was pregnant with my second but I just reassured myself and once I laid eyes on her I was so in love. Everything will be ok hun.

*Berrrr Due November 19; 1 child; Ohio 2724 posts
2nd Dec '12

I love you. Cohen won't think you hate him. He loves his mommy, and he will love his sister <3

Kimber-lily Due September 27 (girl); 4 kids; Nova Scotia 28962 posts
2nd Dec '12

I have a better bond with my second child vs my oldest.
I have no advice. But good luck.

user banned 4 kids; Mueang Phuket, Thailand 30487 posts
2nd Dec '12

SOOO normal.. i felt that way with my 2nd and 3rd and probably will with this one.. but once baby is borna and you see that beautiful face, you love that baby instantly and any doubts are out the window!

Stephanie Vetor Due April 11; Japan 131 posts
2nd Dec '12

I'm going on my 3rd. Your heart truly grows. I had the same fears with my 6 month old but my 3 year old is still one of the biggest and best loves of my life. He surely sees that our relationship has changes but that is all. Now,being due,in april again, that worry isnt bad this time around because it works so well now. Everyday is different but it is possible to love just as deep and hard for the next child as yoir first

Commander Shepard 18 kids; Jacksonville, Florida 6447 posts
2nd Dec '12

I feel the exact same way! :(

CRSx2Mommy 18 kids; North Carolina 3475 posts
2nd Dec '12

Thank you for all of the encouragement ladies. I had to go cry myself stupid for a while over it. Poor DH. I'm sure once she gets here it will all eventually fall into place. I just struggle a lot with anxiety and I worry over absolutely everything. I know I'll love her just as much, I just need to get used to the idea of a new baby coming around!

1inpink2inblue Switzerland 11961 posts
2nd Dec '12

Totally normal to feel this way. But once the baby gets here you will realize just how silly being that worried was. You love them both and they will love each other. Seeing your kids play together is the best thing in the world. Hang in there mamma.

TONESBABYGURL6 Due April 3 (boy); 2 kids; Oswego, New York 1 posts
2nd Dec '12
Quoting CRSx2Mommy:" I'm struggling. I feel like I won't love this baby as much as I love my son. HOW could I love something ... [snip!] ... a lot of quality time with him. UGH my heart breaks thinking he will think I don't love him as much once his sister gets here. "


you are a strong women u will love this one the same even ifit takes time i got a 14 year old and a 10 month old boy and i am pregnant with another boy and i am so excited and love him to pieces already u will all ways love your children the same as the first it is just one needs more attention then the other for a lil while

iLL-Legal Unicorn Alien 3 kids; New York, TX, United States 37137 posts
2nd Dec '12

aww mama<3 IDK if this will make sense to you but it's how I feel. I love all my children...but it's a different kind of love for each even thought they're all mine. Alex is my first, and that's our special bond. Axavier is my mini me, and that's our special bond. And Abby, well she's my little girl lol. To me it's like they're all related but they're also individuals, and your love adapts to each one of them. But you still love them all.

CRSx2Mommy 18 kids; North Carolina 3475 posts
2nd Dec '12
Quoting iLL-Legal Alien:" aww mama<3 IDK if this will make sense to you but it's how I feel. I love all my children...but it's ... [snip!] ... like they're all related but they're also individuals, and your love adapts to each one of them. But you still love them all."


Thanks hun. I know that each love will be different but just as strong. It's just gonna take some getting used to I suppose, like anything else that's new and life changing.