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Mrs. Conan O'Brien 2 kids; Colorado 20919 posts
2nd Dec '12
Quoting Tikaytasha:" I jokingly tell my co-workers to shoot me when we have a crazy day. Does that really make them wanna do it, since I'm giving them permission? :roll:"


Yes it does. Clearly.



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*Ashley F* Due December 25 (girl); Bronson, Florida 183 posts
2nd Dec '12

no body and i mean no body deserves to be in a abusive relationship you need to get out while you can what he did and the way he was talking to you is not not only is the physical abuse but he is also verblly abusing you and if he is doing this to you in front of your child that makes it worse you need to get out now... quick question did he hit you in the face? if there are any marks you need pictures of them also

AmandaSixx + JZS Due November 22 (boy); 2 kids; Gresham, Oregon 25796 posts
2nd Dec '12
Quoting I'm Marbles:" Also OP I would delete the message between you and the secrets account holder just incase he sees it and searches for the account. "



diff. a good idea!

Squeekerz 2 kids; Columbus, OH, United States 13750 posts
status 2nd Dec '12

There is absolutely no excuse for him to have acted that way. Even just the yelling was over the top. I'm so sorry you have to deal with that. I agree that you should absolutely get out as soon as you can. If he learns of your plans to leave, who knows what he'd do. :(

κατι 1 child; Memphis, Tennessee 3143 posts
2nd Dec '12

This is NOT OKAY. He sounds like a real f**king dick!!! :x

*Mary Moon* 1 child; New York 3601 posts
2nd Dec '12

I am so sorry. I remember when my ex was beating me the first time he ever hit me was when I said "I f**king dare you." in anger. To me that was saying do it and you will...get dumped or I will call the cops...or I will kick your ass. I never thought he would. I didnt want him to. I was just trying to stand up to him the best I could. Dont blame yourself. We say things like this as they pop into our heads all day everyday. True to life, if you say do it and he does, its still illegal and abusive and not your fault. Believe me. I blamed myself for years thinking that I antagonized him. When people have a fight they may get big and tough and say things they dont mean, that's not wrong; just human nature. If someone actually does hit another, THEY are in the WRONG. He was in the wrong, not you.
Get out now. Things may get worse and complicated and scary but its more scary to be on the receiving end of a dudes fists, not knowing what you did wrong or when its going to happen again. Staying is saying its ok and its just not. Just walk away before things get worse!

BG Secrets Arizona 4906 posts
2nd Dec '12

thank you...

MommyToWesley 1 child; Delaware 3847 posts
2nd Dec '12
Quoting The Devil's Squeekerz:" There is absolutely no excuse for him to have acted that way. Even just the yelling was over the top. ... [snip!] ... I agree that you should absolutely get out as soon as you can. If he learns of your plans to leave, who knows what he'd do. :("


I wouldn't even put up with my husband yelling at me like that, especially since you weren't even raising your voice. He sounds like he has major anger issues.
You need to leave, like yesterday. Get your kids out before he hits one of them as well. Even if he doesn't ever lay a hand on your children, do you want them growing up thinking this is how normal relationships go?



Did someone say this was all in front of a child?! Call the police. Get a restraining order; before something worse happens.

user banned Altadena, California 11084 posts
2nd Dec '12
Quoting BG Secrets:" Plans to move out are already in the works. I have no income of my own because I'm a SAHM. I am applying ... [snip!] ... -- that all costs money and I have none. I guess I'll have to figure it out as I go because we cannot live like this anymore."


Have you talked to your family and friends about leaving him? Maybe they wont disown you and will help you.

κατι 1 child; Memphis, Tennessee 3143 posts
2nd Dec '12
Quoting BG Secrets:" Plans to move out are already in the works. I have no income of my own because I'm a SAHM. I am applying ... [snip!] ... -- that all costs money and I have none. I guess I'll have to figure it out as I go because we cannot live like this anymore."

You're a strong woman for taking action and getting you and your LO away from that a*****e,even without anywhere to go right now. I pray someone/anyone takes you in sweetie. <3

♥Love♥ TTC since Jun 2013; 2 angel babies; California 5929 posts
2nd Dec '12
Quoting I'm Marbles:" Have you talked to your family and friends about leaving him? Maybe they wont disown you and will help you. "

:!: Maybe they will be happy you are leaving him and want to help you.

Mrs. Conan O'Brien 2 kids; Colorado 20919 posts
2nd Dec '12
Quoting BG Secrets:" Plans to move out are already in the works. I have no income of my own because I'm a SAHM. I am applying ... [snip!] ... -- that all costs money and I have none. I guess I'll have to figure it out as I go because we cannot live like this anymore."



Have you told family that he is abusive & you want to leave him?

BG Secrets Arizona 4906 posts
2nd Dec '12

thank you...

user banned Altadena, California 11084 posts
2nd Dec '12
Quoting BG Secrets:" & yes - my LO was sitting between my legs as all of this happened. SO ALWAYS brings LO into the middle ... [snip!] ... indent and lines from the spoon/spatula/whatever handle. I tried taking a picture but my cell phone camera didn't capture it."


Do not wait until you get money for housing.



take LO with you and drive to the police station. bring your previous pictures and videos. He will be taken in hopefully and you shouldnt have to leave just yet.

♥Love♥ TTC since Jun 2013; 2 angel babies; California 5929 posts
2nd Dec '12
Quoting I'm Marbles:" Do not wait until you get money for housing. take LO with you and drive to the police station. bring ... [snip!] ... police station. bring your previous pictures and videos. He will be taken in hopefully and you shouldnt have to leave just yet."

:!: Please do this hun. Do you have any marks on you right now?