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LayLu (girl); 17 kids; Virginia 4007 posts
23rd Apr '13

Well I'm just sending out invites to people who seem interested lol that way I don't look like a jackass for inviting people who don't give a damn. It's mostly gonna be family at mine too, but I have a lot of family in the area so it's unavoidable. :lol:



Aww, poor thing. :( I dunno what that could be.. I'd say allergies, but the fever makes me think it could be something else. :? I dunno, really.. maybe she's just coming down with a cold.. I know my colds always start with a lot of coughing.



And I'm wondering if I'm gonna have to have another c-section this time.. they said if she's healthy and comes out on her own by 39 weeks, then that's great. But there's always the chance that she'll hang out for a little longer and I'll have to have another c-section. Ugh, I don't want another one. I never realized just how much you use your stomach muscles for EVERYTHING until I had my last c-section. The actual procedure isn't what bothers me.. the healing just sucks!

-Alisa- MaMa of 3 3 kids; California 2877 posts
23rd Apr '13
Quoting LayLu:" Well I'm just sending out invites to people who seem interested lol that way I don't look like a jackass ... [snip!] ... muscles for EVERYTHING until I had my last c-section. The actual procedure isn't what bothers me.. the healing just sucks!"


im sorry that you had a rough recovery, it was super easy for me both time, my first by 6 wks pp i was good, with my second by 3 weeks pp i was normal. Im hoping this one is just as easy. Im completely ok with csections, with my first i was scared and against it butt after i was like that was so much easier and safe. My babies health is most important.

Ayzya 1 child; California 467 posts
24th Apr '13

I dunno much about kids and sicknesses so I'm afraid I don't really have any advice being a first time mom.. :(



But yeah I think invite anybody who wants to come. They probably have kids too and you can always get friendly again and have a support group other than family going. Sounds fun!



Also for invites since it was mostly people from work I used a free hosting website www.splashthat.com that helps you work up a guest list and sends evites. It keeps track of who read the emails and clicked on your link. You start a website with event info and it tracks who is going and so they can RSVP on the site. You can get people to upload pictures to the site as well. It was very handy.

LayLu (girl); 17 kids; Virginia 4007 posts
24th Apr '13

I didn't really have a rough recovery.. I healed pretty fast according to my doctor, I wanna say it was about three or four weeks, I just hated the pain and I was doped up on percocet for the next few weeks after and I think I got a little hooked on em because once I stopped taking them I was like fiending for them. :? I'd be fine if I had to have another c-section, I'd just prefer a vaginal birth, I want to have the whole experience of the contractions coming and rushing to the hospital all excited and in pain. :lol:



And yeah, I guess I'll just invite all the random chics who told me to invite them. If they wanna buy me baby stuff, why not? Hahah. One of them doesn't even have any kids, she just claims she loves baby showers and wants to catch up with me. Another girl has a five year old and a two year old.. I hung out with her a few months ago and we bought some baby clothes together, but other than that I just kinda chit chat with her on FB. And another one of the girls.. we had a few classes together in high school but never hung out, I didn't even really consider her a friend, but she's about 15 weeks pregnant so I guess she wants to find other mommies-to-be. She even offered to knit a blanket for LO. I guess I just feel weird inviting people I barely speak to, but I guess you gotta start somewhere. I have absolutely no social life so it'll be nice seeing some familiar faces. :)

-Alisa- MaMa of 3 3 kids; California 2877 posts
24th Apr '13

awe yah i think we all want that "holy shit my water broke" but it doesnt happen for most woman lol. I am not a fan of meds and drugs so i refuse to use any. perhaps thats why i recover fast? My body adapts to the pain. I never use my scripts for pain killers post op, i usually pop an ibupro if the pain is really really bad. But thankfully i tend to do ok.knock on wood. I mean if i was hurting bad i would def take something, so i pray that i do ok this time. My last csection my spinal didnt work so i felt my entire surgery and it was rough, the docs were screaming and paniced it was pretty horrific. However my daughter was fine and that is what was most important. 23 days !!!!!!!! AHHHHHHHHHH

LayLu (girl); 17 kids; Virginia 4007 posts
24th Apr '13
Quoting -Alisa- MaMa of 3:" awe yah i think we all want that "holy shit my water broke" but it doesnt happen for most woman lol. ... [snip!] ... paniced it was pretty horrific. However my daughter was fine and that is what was most important. 23 days !!!!!!!! AHHHHHHHHHH"


OMG you felt everything?! :shock: Ahhh! I mean.. I have a high pain tolerance and all, but I don't think I could handle someone cutting me open and pulling a life out of me. Just the thought of that makes me cringe. You're strong! I couldn't handle it. I mean.. I would if I absolutely had to, but.. I'd prefer not to. :lol:

-Alisa- MaMa of 3 3 kids; California 2877 posts
24th Apr '13
Quoting LayLu:" OMG you felt everything?! :shock: Ahhh! I mean.. I have a high pain tolerance and all, but I don't think ... [snip!] ... makes me cringe. You're strong! I couldn't handle it. I mean.. I would if I absolutely had to, but.. I'd prefer not to. :lol:"


it was SCARY. I had to hold myself down and breathe and focus, i was shaking so bad, the anesthesiologist ?sp was holding my face and talking to me, he was like ill knock u out, u want me to put u to sleep, but i was like no i NEED to hear my baby cry, cuz im high risk i wanted to know she was ok. i didnt want to wake up and find out later. the doctors were rushing and cursing at each other, i had to hold my legs down because i could move them, i didnt get to enjoy her birth, i heard her crry asked if she was ok they said yes and i was like GIVE ME DRUGS! lol. it was aweful, but he was like we are almost done. i felt the metal clamps on my skin so i KNOW i could feel it, they were cold and pinched me, i felt him take my uterus out and put it back in. it was intense. I DO NOT want to go thru that again and i already made the clear to the doc.

Mama to Lexi & Madie 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Tennessee 1778 posts
24th Apr '13
Quoting -Alisa- MaMa of 3:" it was SCARY. I had to hold myself down and breathe and focus, i was shaking so bad, the anesthesiologist ... [snip!] ... my uterus out and put it back in. it was intense. I DO NOT want to go thru that again and i already made the clear to the doc."


OMG your poor thing!! I would have proably passed out from the pain. You are brave and I'll keep my fingers crossed you dont have to experience that again!
Just an update on DD1 and DD2.. Lexi woke up this morning after having a fever all night and diarrhea and was fine. I have know idea what the heck is going on with her little self but im taking her to the docs in the morning.. Went to my 33 week check up and they want to do another ultrasound at 36 weeks to check her weight again. They wern't able to set up my induction date because they dont have the schedule out yet?? lol They said my stomach is measuring 1.5 weeks ahead and my bp is a little off but other than that I have lost a lb and everything is looking good I guess. :) Now Im at work and its yucky outside, all I want to do is go home with my baby girl and watch tv all day. lol How are you mamas this morning??

LayLu (girl); 17 kids; Virginia 4007 posts
24th Apr '13

My morning's going pretty good so far.. wish I wasn't stuck at work, everyone that comes in here keeps telling me how nice it is outside, which is surprising because it was pretty chilly this morning.



Ohhh.. and SO called me this morning and told me he got a $1 raise at work! :D I'm so proud of him. It's hard to believe that when I first met him, he was unemployed, then he was bouncing from job to job making minimum wage.. now he's held this job for almost three years (it'll be three years in July), turned it into a career he loves, and is considered an asset to the company (the company recently got a new owner and apparently he just loves SO and told him he's irreplaceable). I'm so proud of him, especially since he worked up the guts to talk to the boss and tell him he has a baby on the way and feels that he deserves a raise. I know if I tried talking my boss into giving me a raise, he'd laugh in my face and tell me I'm crazy.



On top of that.. I've been getting a lot of compliments this morning and everyone's been talking to me about the baby, so I guess I'm in a pretty good mood because of that as well. :)

Mama to Lexi & Madie 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Tennessee 1778 posts
24th Apr '13
Quoting LayLu:" My morning's going pretty good so far.. wish I wasn't stuck at work, everyone that comes in here keeps ... [snip!] ... this morning and everyone's been talking to me about the baby, so I guess I'm in a pretty good mood because of that as well. :)"

Awwe thats great news to hear hun! My hubby is in Novi till Friday and as much as I cant' stand it when hes home...I hate him being away. I dont sleep well at night and its lonely. but shhh dont tell him that i said anything! lol And working here..if I asked for a raise they would do some hard laughing. I've been here a year and can't wait till the end of May when I can quit this place. It so not what I was told and expecting. The workers, dont work. No one gets a raise and if you apply for a different position you might as well forget it because there is no "extra" rewards for moving up. We have be working with practly NO head teller..No back up teller and no one wants to hire anyone because the title come with no extras. lol I applied for full time and they denined me so they would rather have no one in the position than to give it to a pregnant person. They have bounced me around since the day the found out I was pregnant to 4 different branches because they "needed" me but refuse to give me pay for gas or extra time. So I get 25 hrs or less a week and had to cut my daughters day care down and now im futher away from her than when I first started. SUCKS! So I will be very excited to see the end of May come around. And to tell ya the truth I work EVERY day that im supose to be here.. sad huh. I dont call out unless my daughter day care calls and says to come get her..shes too sick. but other ppl with no children can call out every day and no one says a word..

Ayzya 1 child; California 467 posts
24th Apr '13

I'm having a crappy morning. I hate being stuck at home where im constantly being reminded of how shitty my family's problems are. My older bro keeps stealing my moms credit cards and racking up stuff on it for his online video game. He hardly works now because his hours are cut so he's home all day charging on her card. I'm going crazy because confrontations don't work out well especially when dealing with a snake personality (our babies are snakes) and I literally might go crazy since I'm so hormonal. I had to call her at work so she's coming home early to deal with him since I'm not even going to start.



Aside from my stupid drama, I'm glad you ladies have experience enough to know what to expect and help be more prepared and grats on the mans raise! Hope little ones feel better and bounces back quickly from being sick.

LayLu (girl); 17 kids; Virginia 4007 posts
24th Apr '13
Quoting Mama to Lexi & Madie:" Awwe thats great news to hear hun! My hubby is in Novi till Friday and as much as I cant' stand it when ... [snip!] ... calls and says to come get her..shes too sick. but other ppl with no children can call out every day and no one says a word.."


Damn girl, I'm sorry. :( I like my job for the most part, my assistant manager and the tellers here are awesome, our head teller can be a real b***h and our manager is kind of a douche. Our head teller always has an attitude and just when you think she's being nice to you, she throws a smart ass comment in somewhere to knock ya back down. And our manager doesn't stick up for us.. if someone were to go to him saying we were rude, he'd just take their word for it. Our assistant manager, on the other hand, is awesome.. he always gets both sides of the story and he'll defend us. I had a man call me worthless one time and I was just about in tears and when my assistant manager saw how upset I was, he pulled the guy into his office and told him he won't tolerate people treating his colleagues that way. As far as promotions and stuff goes.. my company's pretty good about it, they always hire from within and send everyone an email when a position is open, it just sucks because I haven't been here a year yet (it'll be a year next month) and they require so much experience plus you can't have any errors or write ups for a certain amount of days to apply for a new position.. so I'm pretty much stuck as a teller for a while. :? I would love to work in our marketing department, but I'm pretty sure you need a degree for that. Pretty much any department where I don't have to deal with these crazy people would be fine with me. :lol:

DifferentDay Due June 2; 34 kids; Tennessee 3473 posts
24th Apr '13

Hope ur dd feels better! Dd2 has allergies real bad so she's a green snotty mess from the time she wakes til bed. Benadryl stuff has been our best friend. Congrats on the raise! As for the pedi last two kids I was on state insurance so I chose whichever pedi was checking out my baby in the hosp, accepting new pts, and took the ins. This time the hosp is like 2 hrs away so ill just use them and the pedi my girls have been seeing. Some days I envy you that work. SaHM isn't all its cracked up to be. And around here they won't hire for part time positions or 3+ days a week. So they were able to get the septic permit done. Then tell us we needed the building permit... So that was another $613. Then they say the soil test isn't good enough n needs to be redone bc the guy was lazy and didn't take several samples. Then the septic permit needs redone bc of that, etc. But TG! We don't need to pay anymore its in the builders' hands now. Good, bc savings is empty and we're broke as heck. Shipping the bedding back tomorrow since I counted our change and raided the girls' piggy banks. Ugh come on 1st of the month! Hurry up n get ur a$s here! And w Aaron being "spunky" hubby's work kinda "reminded" him of their new attendance policy- 7 absents= fired. He's got 4 so far.

Ayzya 1 child; California 467 posts
24th Apr '13

Ugh.. I hate that they had to go remind him of his absences. Can't they show some damn leniency? It's not like he's being absent for dumbass reasons. It's so unfair how they treat pregnancies at work. Argh!



But yeah I was watching a bit of the business of being born and just thought about how traumatic our mama's c-section was. You definitely are very brave to keep going back to doing it after what you had been through! Superwoman. I hope I can stay strong and try to deliver naturally because i'd rather not do an epi.

LayLu (girl); 17 kids; Virginia 4007 posts
24th Apr '13

So.. looks like we need a new crib. We asked SO's parents three days ago if they knew where that piece to the crib was, and they just texted us saying they can't find it. So.. looks like instead of getting that room set I had my heart set on, I'll be getting a crib. Ugh. :cry: I got so upset when SO told me they couldn't find it that I just got up without saying anything, went to the bathroom and cried. This is so f**king frustrating. It also upsets me that SO doesn't realize how much this bothers me.. he got a text from his parents, looked at me and said, "They can't find that piece to the crib.." and went back to whatever he was doing. I guess he doesn't realize that means we have to buy a crib, which means that's less money we'll have for the other baby stuff we need that I was planning on buying with this bonus check. :cry: