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James Mama 3 kids; Arizona 2845 posts
19th Jun '13
Quoting Ayzya:" Sorry Carmen about your SO. He obviously still needs more coaching from you but I think he'll get it ... [snip!] ... my brother has his triplets. I just wanted to go when my other family is there too so it can be like a family reunion thing. "


Where in Cali are you? I am from the bay area so it is about an 11 hour drive. I used to fly a lot when we just had my son but now with three kids it is too expensive so we drive. I never worried about germs/recycled air. My kids never really got/get sick.

Ayzya 1 child; California 467 posts
19th Jun '13

That's good to know that the plane rides were okay and they never got sick. I'm such an idiot for reading so much on the internet and increasing my paranoia. But i'm actually from Orange County so i'm way south. I love the Bay Area though; lol.. That's where I wish we could move. SF is my favorite place to be. I wouldn't want to live in SF but just near it since traffic can be a real pain. :P

DifferentDay Due June 2; 34 kids; Tennessee 3467 posts
19th Jun '13

Good luck mama hope baby is here soon!



Ahhh ftm worries. I remember those. I drove everyone crazy w the hand sanitizer/no smoking/wash ur jacket stuff. I'm glad it only lasted a month for me. It's good to be cautious but when it's more obsessively cautious (mine became so) then IMO it becomes a problem. Some of those "fears" and "paranoia" u can pass onto the child if you're not careful.

Ayzya 1 child; California 467 posts
19th Jun '13
Quoting DifferentDay:" Good luck mama hope baby is here soon! Ahhh ftm worries. I remember those. I drove everyone crazy w ... [snip!] ... became so) then IMO it becomes a problem. Some of those "fears" and "paranoia" u can pass onto the child if you're not careful."


Yeah that's what I worry about. I'm always trying to mentally prepare myself for what I don't want to do and that's let history repeat itself. I know what his family and my family is like and that's what's caused me and hubs to be so high strung and overly cautious and anal about everything. From what I've gathered about the zodiac sign (chinese and american) Claire is probably going to take after my brothers who are also snake signs and just keep things to themselves to avoid the conflicts of having everyone get all up in their business.



Obviously communication is important to me, so the last thing i'd want to do is have her hide things from me to avoid dealing with my being so concerned. That's what hubs always does with his family and I see just how crappy that really is to have to lie and hide things all the time just to get people off your back. I think that's why even though they say Claire's sign is my opposing sign, it was meant to be that she's my first baby because she has so much to teach me about letting go and being more patient.

DifferentDay Due June 2; 34 kids; Tennessee 3467 posts
19th Jun '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Ayzya:</b>" Yeah that's what I worry about. I'm always trying to mentally prepare myself for what I don't want to ... [snip!] ... sign, it was meant to be that she's my first baby because she has so much to teach me about letting go and being more patient."</blockquote>



Absolutely! That stuff will come in time. You'll eventually be like "my kid just ate dirt, eh it'll help clean her out?" Lol honestly, bc there's so much other "important" stuff to worry bout u won't have room to sweat the smaller stuff. For me, growing up gma drilled certain things into my brain that are smart thinking but bc she was obsessively cautious I'm now practically afraid to leave my house. I didn't wanna pass that onto my kids so no matter how terrified I get I hide it from them. And I get trying not to repeat history. I've done everything I could think of differently from age 19 and on to not repeat my mothers mistakes in particular.

Ayzya 1 child; California 467 posts
19th Jun '13
Quoting DifferentDay:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Ayzya:</b>" Yeah that's what I worry about. I'm always trying ... [snip!] ... history. I've done everything I could think of differently from age 19 and on to not repeat my mothers mistakes in particular."


Yeah, it's kinda apparent even in me just waiting up for labor to start. I keep getting antsy and telling everyone she's coming when she keeps holding things off. It just goes to show that I need to accept that this has nothing to do with me controlling the situation and that she's gonna do what she wants. If I don't start accepting that now; it's gonna be a major problem and she's gonna end up hating me. So gotta just go with the flow and do the best I can to fight those mental demons.

*Danielle88*((momma.to.2) 2 kids; Atascadero, California 2354 posts
19th Jun '13

so i just got back from my last appt. dr stripped my membranes. didnt hurt as bad as i thought it would. i was 2 cm. and im scheduled to be induced at 7:30 tomorrow morning. hopefully labor doesnt take too long. im gonna clean up the house today and walk so hopefully things will be a little easier tomorrow. cant wait to see what he looks like. :)

Ayzya 1 child; California 467 posts
19th Jun '13

Good luck Danielle, hope everything goes by smoothly and that you'll be home bound soon after. :)

Mama to Lexi & Madie 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Tennessee 1772 posts
19th Jun '13

Hey mamas, quick question..how. long does it take for your hormones to go back to normal? I've been up and down lately. I'll be all happy, and feel like I have my shit together in handling two kids and then I go to the bathroom for a sec or washing dishes and I have a complete meltdown. It like I.can't stop crying. My sil has been staying with me since my mom left to help out and now my husband has just gone back to work.. I just want to feel normal again and not cry all he damn time over nothing.

DifferentDay Due June 2; 34 kids; Tennessee 3467 posts
19th Jun '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Mama to Lexi & Madie:</b>" Hey mamas, quick question..how. long does it take for your hormones to go back to normal? I've been up ... [snip!] ... out and now my husband has just gone back to work.. I just want to feel normal again and not cry all he damn time over nothing."</blockquote>




In similar boat. Lil monster is about 3wks old and I seem to do nothing but cry. I think it takes a few months to level out. it could be like mild baby blues too. My triggers are thinking of hubby. It's like we're roommates now bc there's so much left to do at both houses. His work has all sorts of nasty MRSA cases so he's now showering at the old place before he comes home. Still have rabbits at old place so he takes care of them too. We hardly see each other for 10 mins a day now. And throw Aaron into the mix- I think he's hitting a growth spurt. All he wants to do is eat now or be held. And then the hormones/lack of meds just amplify all of it. hang in there!!! How are u handling it w 2 kids now? It's rough at first but it gets easier. Esp when dd1 can help u more!

Mama to Lexi & Madie 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Tennessee 1772 posts
19th Jun '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting DifferentDay:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Mama to Lexi & Madie:</b>" Hey mamas, quick question..how. long ... [snip!] ... it. hang in there!!! How are u handling it w 2 kids now? It's rough at first but it gets easier. Esp when dd1 can help u more!"</blockquote>



Lexi seems to be doing okay..she has her moments where she is bad but mostly she helps out and wants to love on Madison. I'm trying to stick to a routine so I don't go bonkers being home all the time now. I just hope I can get a handle on this quickly. I hate feeling this way and I don't like taking meds.

Ayzya 1 child; California 467 posts
19th Jun '13

lol.. I just told hubs about what you ladies are talking about and at first when I mentioned the breakdown he was like "Alright.. i'm staying at my moms." So then when I said you ladies can contribute it to missing the SO, he was like "alright.. guess you'll be going with me to work then."



I know that's not gonna happen because I can't go with him to work with the baby all the time, but I hope that I can keep it together in front of the family. I still have so much to learn.. any day now.

DifferentDay Due June 2; 34 kids; Tennessee 3467 posts
19th Jun '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Mama to Lexi & Madie:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting DifferentDay:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Mama to ... [snip!] ... home all the time now. I just hope I can get a handle on this quickly. I hate feeling this way and I don't like taking meds."</blockquote>




Maybe u need some fresh air? Not sit in ur yard kind more like explore a new place. Anything that gives u joy, do it. That's the best medicine IMO. Try to get enough sleep when u can, give urself a break too u have a lot on ur plate. It's a big adjustment to go from one kid to two. It's prolly hormones and maybe a mix of feeling a bit overwhelmed. It's pretty normal and it doesn't last forever.

Mama to Lexi & Madie 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Tennessee 1772 posts
19th Jun '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting DifferentDay:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Mama to Lexi & Madie:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting ... [snip!] ... kid to two. It's prolly hormones and maybe a mix of feeling a bit overwhelmed. It's pretty normal and it doesn't last forever."</blockquote>



Yeah I may just have to do that. Too bad we don't have a beach here. That use to always calm me.. I know it will pass eventually, it just a lot right now and I hate asking for help. I've been sleeping when Madison sleeps but with Lexi being home too I feel like I should be doing more things with her during those times. Oh well I just try to tell myself to suck it up and Carry on cause my girls need the stability and I refuse to let them see me cry. Lol

-Alisa- MaMa of 3 3 kids; California 2877 posts
19th Jun '13

i think my second baby was the hardest emotionally but praise god this time i have been stable the only emotion i have is that i tied my tubes and this is my last baby experience. i hope you ladies start feeling better soon!!