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Tired of being the b***h. That Girl. 2 kids; Florida 4109 posts
3rd Dec '12

Dh really needs to f**king grow up and soon. A little backstory. My moms bf is dating dh's older brother. Well call his brother S and gf C.
Well S is now sober (drugs) and is working/living with this guy whom truely is trying to keep him straight. His boss doesn't think he should be involved with anyone. Then C's mom doesn't want her to bring men around her house because she lives with her mom. C is freaking 43 but has to accept her mothers wishes.
Well for the past 4 months S&C have been coming and staying with us for the weekend every 2 weeks. Well S is a heavy drinker always freaking Drinking, which now dh is drinking alot more often. S is very high strung and cant sit still for the life of her. I grew up with her being like a second mom. Me and her daughters were good friends. Well S&C do nothing but talk sexual and drink alot when they stay with us. They are loud and obnoxius (even sober) but worse drunk. Dh is always following them around like a puppy. Theyll have bon fires and Ill sit inside alone taking care of lo while they get plastered outside. I'm getting really f**king annoyed with being a "hotel" for them

Well dh's brother has helped us out with loaning money so that's where I bite my tongue cause then I feel bad. But I am due in about 3 weeks or so. I really am not going to want company for atleast 2 weeks. Especially them. They are planning on staying with us every 2 f**king weeks. Idk how to go about this without coming off like a complete b***h. They were offering to come stay and help with the newborn, and as much as I appreciate it, I don't trust no one to hold my baby while being intoxicated!

Gosloving 1 child; Washington 12831 posts
3rd Dec '12

The way I see it, if you can't talk to your SO then there's a problem. I'd tell my DH and if that doesn't work, I'll say something like no beer allow and just give them a hard time for example when they're drinking I'll be like "nah, nah, nah! No drinking please!" and throw the beer away?

Zeke's Mama Due September 26; 1 child; Pensacola, Florida 5200 posts
3rd Dec '12

Just tell them that, or have your husband tell them that when the baby is born you'd appreciate some family time. And that you would appreciate the help only if they aren't drinking.

That Girl. 2 kids; Florida 4109 posts
3rd Dec '12
Quoting Heeeeeey, Sexy lady. ;):" The way I see it, if you can't talk to your SO then there's a problem. I'd tell my DH and if that doesn't ... [snip!] ... them a hard time for example when they're drinking I'll be like "nah, nah, nah! No drinking please!" and throw the beer away?"


I do try and talk to him. But honestly he's been acting like a f**king child. I keep have visions of taking the liquor bottle and not just emptying it but smashing it in the sink. HAHA I think that might give them the idea. No I was a b***h over the weekend to dh and bil. We had plans to take ds to the parade. Of course dh and bil wanted to f**king chug a few beers before going. And then I brought up how last event we all went to, you guys had open containers in the same car WITH MY CHILD. you were drinking and driving. I said if you want to go to prison go right ahead you wanna wreck and die be my f**king guest BUT YOU WILL NOT INVOLVE MY CHILD OR ME. They both told me to calm down, and that everyone has kids blah blah blah. Im like okay well you do this shit with your child not mine. So they said they would have open container. Yeah his bil was drinking on the way back from the parade. To me thats NO RESPECT.

That Girl. 2 kids; Florida 4109 posts
3rd Dec '12
Quoting Boobie On Demand:" Just tell them that, or have your husband tell them that when the baby is born you'd appreciate some family time. And that you would appreciate the help only if they aren't drinking."


He's not going to tell them shit. Dh has no damn backbone. And he'll miss his drinking partner. Don't get me wrong, I like to drink from time to time (when not pregnant) But they are doing it 24/7 being loud and obnoxious. Dh thinks im being this way cause im quote on quote "jealous" cause I can't drink. Which pisses me off more that he thinks like that. NO im pissed because you all ARE being CARELESS drinkers. Drinking and driving, open containers, dh has a CDL liscence and if he loses that he loses his job.

user banned 2 kids; Minnesota 303 posts
3rd Dec '12

Have you talked to your SO about how you feel? You are going to want and need time to adjust to having a newborn in the house and so will LO. If S is 43 years old and still has to listen to her mother's rules because she's living in her home, she should consider moving out, or maybe S and C move in together? I know I personally wouldn't want to put up with that, its not fair to you to have to take care of the kids all the time and for SO to not help out.

Zeke's Mama Due September 26; 1 child; Pensacola, Florida 5200 posts
3rd Dec '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting That Girl.:</b>" He's not going to tell them shit. Dh has no damn backbone. And he'll miss his drinking partner. Don't ... [snip!] ... being CARELESS drinkers. Drinking and driving, open containers, dh has a CDL liscence and if he loses that he loses his job."</blockquote>




Well damn...I don't know maybe the only way to get it through to him is to be a birch about it. I know sometimes that's the only way my husband well get it like oh hey...she's pissed maybe I shouldn't do that...

LolaMcKitten Due May 30 (girl); 27 kids; Beverly Hills, California 15496 posts
3rd Dec '12

I would be informing my DH that I would be staying with family until he got his shit together. Those people are adults, they don't need to be staying with you guys every other weekend to have a place to basically drink and screw, they aren't teenagers, you and your husband are adults with children. Let him know he better start acting like a husband with a family or he won't have one.



I effing HATE when people are at my house all the time. I had a few friends like that (minus the drinking) and even sober....for f**ks sake, GO HOME.

Zeke's Mama Due September 26; 1 child; Pensacola, Florida 5200 posts
3rd Dec '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting LolaMcKitten:</b>" I would be informing my DH that I would be staying with family until he got his shit together. Those ... [snip!] ... are at my house all the time. I had a few friends like that (minus the drinking) and even sober....for f**ks sake, GO HOME. "</blockquote>




And I'd do this if he doesn't pull his head out...

That Girl. 2 kids; Florida 4109 posts
3rd Dec '12
Quoting LolaMcKitten:" I would be informing my DH that I would be staying with family until he got his shit together. Those ... [snip!] ... are at my house all the time. I had a few friends like that (minus the drinking) and even sober....for f**ks sake, GO HOME. "


That's basically how I've been thinking. I may just have to be prepared to stay with my mother when baby arrives. Because I just can't take the

"everything is about dh" and having a good time. He's also going fishing this week. I already told him that i didn't think it was a good idea with my being this far along for you to be hours out on the ocean all day. He doesn't care he said he'd be there. But he'll be with his dad whom will not race back whether Im in labor or not. If I go into labor Im tempted to no even f**king call him. Oh and I have said if he keeps putting me and his child last that HE WILL NOT have a family to even decide between that he will be alone. We fought all weekend because he f**king popped my two year old in the face for saying NO. Like the side of the eye. I said YOU WILL NEVER f**king do that again. He argued with me and said if he says no again I will. He wanted to say his brother does that to his daughter and thats why she listens. Luckily his brother was on my side with that. Says you should never smack your child in the face/

LolaMcKitten Due May 30 (girl); 27 kids; Beverly Hills, California 15496 posts
3rd Dec '12
Quoting That Girl.:" That's basically how I've been thinking. I may just have to be prepared to stay with my mother when ... [snip!] ... and thats why she listens. Luckily his brother was on my side with that. Says you should never smack your child in the face/"


What a dick. I would call your mother and talk to her about it and have everything set so you can talk to him and be prepared to go. That shits just not cool.

Sheldon Cooper. Due November 18; Alabama 32 posts
3rd Dec '12

Yeah f**k that shit. I would be showing my ASS. :oops:

That Girl. 2 kids; Florida 4109 posts
3rd Dec '12

Talked to my mom. She is prepared if need to be that I annd her grandchildren stay with her. The downfall will be that I don't have an actual room. They have a den, with no door though and only a shitty couch to sleep on. But Im sure my dad can put something up if need to be. And i could always get a mattress or something on the floor. It sucks that Im even having to think about this shit. Dh just wants to act like a f**king child. If I go into labor and hes out fishing I'll try calling one time but Im not calling him back to back. He'll just miss his child being born.

LolaMcKitten Due May 30 (girl); 27 kids; Beverly Hills, California 15496 posts
3rd Dec '12
Quoting That Girl.:" Talked to my mom. She is prepared if need to be that I annd her grandchildren stay with her. The downfall ... [snip!] ... labor and hes out fishing I'll try calling one time but Im not calling him back to back. He'll just miss his child being born."


Good! Glad she's understanding. I've had to scoot back to my moms house before just to sleep on the floor / couch - it sucks, I know, but it's better than being with that jerk. I would totally take your bed haha!

That Girl. 2 kids; Florida 4109 posts
3rd Dec '12
Quoting LolaMcKitten:" Good! Glad she's understanding. I've had to scoot back to my moms house before just to sleep on the ... [snip!] ... sleep on the floor / couch - it sucks, I know, but it's better than being with that jerk. I would totally take your bed haha! "


idk he's thinking anymore. I guess he wants to see how much he can really piss me off. If he is there when I go into labor. I hope he's prepared for me to be let all the anger out in the delivery room :)