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October2011 2 kids; Pennsylvania 6685 posts
3rd Dec '12
Quoting October2011:" Once you are holding that baby in your arms, and you are watching her grow...and you feel that love...that ... [snip!] ... is so so worth. Home is where the heart is. Goodluck to you and i wish you happiness while you raise your family."



and to answer the selfish question...no way. YOU will be taking CARE of her..24/7 ...that is not selfish.

Chels :3 Florida 2017 posts
3rd Dec '12

I feel silly. I guess sometimes it's weird being the pregnant friend and watching everyone else getting an abortion. I wouldn't jump off a bridge nor would I get an abortion because someone else was.

Chels :3 Florida 2017 posts
3rd Dec '12

I was always that weird girl who always wanted a baby, and when it happened and I was stable, even at 19. Mostly thanks to my SO. But stable nonetheless. I jumped for joy to finally have my own little baby girl. Not as a doll or a toy, but what the women a few post above said. That love. I don't know why it struck me funny. Maybe I don't know how they did it now that I'm pregnant. And never had to make that choice... Idk

March 2013 3 kids; Illinois 988 posts
3rd Dec '12


when your daughter comes, you won't feel selfish. you'll be looking after your daughter all the time. If you felt ready then, then I'm sure you are now. I had my first when I was 19. I was engaged then, been married for almost 4 years and I don't regret it one bit. ;) some people are some people aren't thats all you can really say about it. Deep breath you'll feel better.

lolajessup Due July 25 (girl); 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Beaverton, Michigan 44057 posts
3rd Dec '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting BαƚMαɳ:</b>" Don't worry so much about everyone else. You made the best choice for you and that's really all there is to it."</blockquote>



:!:



I'm the only one of my friends who chose to have a baby at 19 as well. Whatever.

Chels :3 Florida 2017 posts
3rd Dec '12
Quoting March 2013:" when your daughter comes, you won't feel selfish. you'll be looking after your daughter all the time. ... [snip!] ... regret it one bit. ;) some people are some people aren't thats all you can really say about it. Deep breath you'll feel better."


Thanks :) This is something I've always wanted. 30 weeks along, and it's getting tougher. But It's still what I want. I don't think I was questioning that. More so just feel 'weird' that's all I can describe it as. Watching people that are both like sisters especially the girl my age. Get abortions. Though it broke my heart when she came back to FL and saw me pregnant, and broke down. It really messed her up. I know I made the right choice. And I can't wait to meet my baby girl! <3

3rdxsacharm Due April 29 (girl); 2 kids; Burdett, New York 159 posts
3rd Dec '12
Quoting Chelsea.J:" I didn't say I would change my mind. I was wondering about my age and the choice I made if I were being ... [snip!] ... other wants to keep the baby but doesn't think she can do it. I know I can do it. Nvm I didn't mean to sound like a follower. "


Your right! This is the second post I have been on today where I felt several people were being overly judgmental! I had my first DD when I was 17 and the second when I was 19 and they are both just fine. To each their own it's understandable that you look at your friends and feel for them cause they made a different choice, but that was their choice to make just like it was yours :) keep your head up!!!!

March 2013 3 kids; Illinois 988 posts
3rd Dec '12

Maybe you wish for them to have what you do. Its hard to explain why we feel the way we feel at times. No person is the same even if they are close. I'm sure she did what needed to be done. Life is about choises. Sometimes we make mistakes, but you just figure out how to deal with it. If for some reason your friend felt like it was a mistake then she might feel bad after. You are closer if not there feeling that your baby girl is a blessing. I don't have good pregnancies, but Ill do whatever it takes to keep my unborn girl healthy (and my 2 little girls.) :)

March 2013 3 kids; Illinois 988 posts
3rd Dec '12
Quoting 3rdxsacharm:" Your right! This is the second post I have been on today where I felt several people were being overly ... [snip!] ... for them cause they made a different choice, but that was their choice to make just like it was yours :) keep your head up!!!!"


my friend has 4 children she is a single mother and is only 22. She gets a lot of issues with people, but you know her children are healthy and happy with her.

3rdxsacharm Due April 29 (girl); 2 kids; Burdett, New York 159 posts
3rd Dec '12
Quoting March 2013:" my friend has 4 children she is a single mother and is only 22. She gets a lot of issues with people, but you know her children are healthy and happy with her."


AWESOME!!!!! :)

ash*leigh Due May 16; Augusta, Georgia 221 posts
3rd Dec '12

It could be your nerves or worry getting to you. I am 24 and will be 25 right after my baby is born. What your feeling is likely very normal. You are not in the wrong for doubting yourself... it just shows that you are taking this seriously. I would have been terrified at the age of 19... It should never matter your age 19 or 30 having a child is a huge responsibility. If I were 19 and all of my friends were choosing not to keep their babies...I would probably doubt myself a little too.

Dani Bryant-Murray TTC since Jul 2013; 17 kids; Manchester, New Hampshire 285 posts
3rd Dec '12
Quoting Chelsea.J:" I didn't say I would change my mind. I was wondering about my age and the choice I made if I were being ... [snip!] ... other wants to keep the baby but doesn't think she can do it. I know I can do it. Nvm I didn't mean to sound like a follower. "



maybe i'm reading too much into this, but it kind of sounds like you feel weird around your friends, not about keeping your baby. They decided to have abortions because of their own situations, not because of you. I think it's very sad that one of your friends feels bad about it because it's somehting that you can never take back, but don't let their feelings effect your feelings about your own baby. I wanted a baby for so long and everyone around me was getting pregnant. They all felt weird and awkward around me because they knew they had something that I wanted and didnt have, but that just made me feel worse. I was happy for them being pregnant, jealous, but happy. Disregard if I'm totally off base here. Hope you feel better regardless!

Chels :3 Florida 2017 posts
3rd Dec '12

Thanks to everyone above this for actually understand what this post was about. At 30 weeks this being my first ever tee tiny doubt, I'm kind of proud. It's exactly that everyone around me is making a choice that is different so I'm going to wonder which choice is right. And the answer is there isn't a right choice. There's my choice and their choice. Thanks guys :)

Chels :3 Florida 2017 posts
3rd Dec '12
Quoting Dani Bryant-Murray:" maybe i'm reading too much into this, but it kind of sounds like you feel weird around your friends, ... [snip!] ... was happy for them being pregnant, jealous, but happy. Disregard if I'm totally off base here. Hope you feel better regardless!"


No it's true in a sense. I feel weird around them. Except my friend who already had that done. Nothing could make me feel weird around her. But it felt strange yes. In general. I felt like I had something they themselves thought was a bad idea. But that isn't how it is. It's situation and I guess I needed to be reminded of that.