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So confused! *Tawni* 2 kids; 1 angel baby; California 1072 posts
3rd Dec '12

Backstory: this girl and I we're friends for years. Best friends. She was then ONLY person that I could always count on to be there for me no matter what. She really was a great friend. Then one day I had her over because she was fighting with her girlfriend and she tried to have sex with my BD...while I was in the same room. So I didn't talk to her for months and it ended the relationship with my BD. But honestly my relationship with him was over years before that. He was physically, mentally, and emotionally violent. He cheated all the time and that incident was my final straw. I kind of look at it like a blessing in disguise because if it weren't for that I would still be trying to make things work with him.



Ok so she's been trying so hard to gain back my trust and she wants to rebuild our friendship. She's been putting so much effort in so I've been talking to her randomly here and there. Well she moved out of state almost a year ago and she called me crying hysterically this morning saying that she needs to come back here and that she just needs somewhere to stay for a few months until she gets on her feet. I'm moving into my own place with the kids in 2 weeks and she wants to stay with me and pay for half of everything and offered to watch the kids while I work nights. I honestly don't know what to do. I want to help her out but at the same time I feel like I need to move on my own to my own space. I'm just not sure what to do. Any advice will be helpful. Thank you!

user banned 4 kids; Mueang Phuket, Thailand 30487 posts
3rd Dec '12

thats hard.. i mean idk what i would do honestly

Crystal 3 kids; Hephzibah, Georgia 15566 posts
3rd Dec '12

I wouldn't. She tried to get with him while you were in the same room?! WTF. I don't know if I'd be able to forgive that. I'd sure as Hell never let her live with me, or watch my children.

Chellie 3 kids; Vegas, Nv, United States 4816 posts
3rd Dec '12

If I were in that situation I would take the offer. Free child care and less out of pocket expense? That would be great IMO. But you know the extent of damage that was done in the past so it is up to you to forgive and move on and re-establish the friendship since she has been making the effort.

October2011 2 kids; Pennsylvania 6903 posts
3rd Dec '12

im gonna say no..cause if you are doubting it..and want a place of your OWN..sounds like you wouldnt be happy.

AngelGabriel'sMama 1 child; Dayton, Ohio 2103 posts
3rd Dec '12

Everyone's different but anyone who loses my trust besides my blood doesn't get a second chance.

*Tawni* 2 kids; 1 angel baby; California 1072 posts
3rd Dec '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Crystal Marie S.:</b>" I wouldn't. She tried to get with him while you were in the same room?! WTF. I don't know if I'd be able to forgive that. I'd sure as Hell never let her live with me, or watch my children."</blockquote>




The thing is that my kids LOVE her and ask about her often. And her son. She's always been super good with them. It's just hard to trust her again.

loser mom 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Oslo, ,, Norway 10910 posts
3rd Dec '12

I don't do roommates. You can rebuild your friendship without her living with you.

UhmAmber 1 child; Texas 2415 posts
3rd Dec '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting October2011:</b>" im gonna say no..cause if you are doubting it..and want a place of your OWN..sounds like you wouldnt be happy."</blockquote>



This. I let a friend live with me until she could "get on her feet" and she never did. She never paid me anything, even though she promised to, for the entire 6 months that I let her live with me.

UhmAmber 1 child; Texas 2415 posts
3rd Dec '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Amber :]:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting October2011:</b>" im gonna say no..cause if you are doubting ... [snip!] ... she never did. She never paid me anything, even though she promised to, for the entire 6 months that I let her live with me."</blockquote>



And this was the girl I was BEST friends with from kindergarten until she moved out of state.

Bad Things 1 child; Blacksburg, SC, United States 18045 posts
3rd Dec '12
Quoting loser mom:" I don't do roommates. You can rebuild your friendship without her living with you. "


This.



It never ends very good.



Plus, you have your own family. She just sounds like she is running away from her issues. Who says she isnt going to run out again?



Don't do it.